I never thought of it as that serious. I know people are all like "But real life mlm don't like the terms." And the real life mlm is some white person using a Japanese name.
And as much as I like when yaoi stories challenge the conventional "seme" and "uke" norms at the end of the day they're just terms. If people don't like stereotypical yaoi wi...... reply
want to do clean my room
