You often see lesbians calling themselves and others a top or bottom but neither has a dick (I prosume) so why are there tops and bottoms?
Also is it really that common to have these labels?
I think that they mean the dominant and submissive when they refer to top/bottom.
These labels are common in fiction - yaoi and yuri - but it doesn’t work like that in reality. Most lesbians don’t follow a role, they are versatile I would say. And when it comes to gay men, it’s kinda the same, a majority is switch.
I kinda thought so. The majority of real people I see using the term seem young and likely inexperienced
Top and bottom refer to whoever is giving pleasure and receiving it, it’s not about dom/sub as you can have a sub top or a dom bottom
Sometimes I feel like I am being to sensitive to harmless comments
Not that I think of but I was told that I was homophobic when I said not to assume my faves' sexuality
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yeah my friends usually say that actually lol
i told them i read BL and stuff and one of them was too disgusted by that.idk
and then she was like
"was i being homophobic?" the answer is yes.
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there's no such thing as "too sensitive"
harmful comments are bad and shouldn't be existed. don't feel bad for other people's harmful attitude, they're dumb and stupid and maybe don't deserve love.
My mum once said when she had short hair (it was the style at the time) she wore a lot of makeup to avoid looking like a lesbian and I thought to myself “so you think looking like a lesbian is bad and lesbians never wear makeup” which was a bit much from such a small comment.
yes. i thought that i was asexual, but im not, im heterosexual. and i learnt that i dont care much about labelling myself or the types of men that i like. to question yourself is to grow :)
ahah same but im bi so but im so confused of my sexualty one day im a lesbian and one day im bi and then another im pansexual like yk im comnfused how i find out help me lmaoo(⊙…⊙ )
thought I was biromantic for a brief period of time until I found out I was actually bisexual who knows maybe I'll be lesbian next week its up to future me
Like, some of us get into heated debates about what is wrong and right on an illegal website. I came here to read manga not fight about an issue I wasn’t even aware of.
It’s not wrong but I feel it’s better suited to Reddit.
Just feels like the wrong place.
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Does it ever bother you the amount of times in Yaoi a character is like “ I don’t like men I only like you” like it’s romantic or something. Why can’t the character just admit they are a bit gay or bi? I mean coming to terms with their own sexuality could be a plot point.
Edit: I know there are cases like this in real life. I’m just bothered by how little there is of characters discovering they were wrong about their sexuality which is probably more common in real life.
I am an almost 20 year old female and I don't think I have ever had a crush so I feel I maybe asexual or a late bloomer(?). I rarely think guys are that good looking but I think a lot of girls are. But I think most people this girls are generally better looking than guy. I sometimes fantasize about a future where I live with a professional type, confident and kind of lady in a flat and we cuddle on the sofa and other fluff. I read that fantasizing about someone of the same sex doesn't make you gay though. Also it may be due to me consuming to much gay content like shojo ai and gay memes. As I have said I have never had a crush and my fantasize never go beyond making out. Also I read yaoi but very sexual yuri and hetro smut make me uncomfortable. Have any of you thought like this?
I think you might have a attraction to the same sex even without the manga... It just triggers your natural attraction to them even more...
from what I read, it might be that you're homoromantic (meaning: romantic attraction towards people of the same gender), but I don't really know haha,, I can suggest you to read some lesbian/homoromantic expience from people online and find what defines you better ^^
only experience will tell
It is gay
well, that's obvious, but I wasn't talking about lsbian porn, but on her thoughts to share a future with a girl and that she finds females more attractive than men (in real life)
Wtf?! I am the same ( ˃ ꒳ ˂ )
I never fall in love too
I get that you wanna know, because is a good thing to know yourself. Maybe because I'm an elder but my advice is to relax about it, you will love whoever you will, and feel sexually attracted to someone when you feel it, it's better not to rush about it.
Well, it’s no gay if you say no homo. You see, I forgot to say no homo.
Looking for BL that has a historical European setting or fantasy setting with similar vibes. My fav manga is barbarities but with it finished I am rabidly looking for similar manga lol