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He doesn't know and he doesn't have to know honestly. Lmao if your parent never brings up their parents it's Kinda common sense to assume your parent doesn't fuck with them. Everyone with a brain highly knows abt that. It's like if your friend never brings up or talks abt their father in convos etc, you would never deliberately ask them. Im not talking abt them bc I don't want to talk abt them. Byul doesn't know what happened but he doesn't need to. He himself said he knows his father secretly takes care of Heesung's mom and how Heesung never brings her up so thats kinda enough said.

If you're not willing to be honest with your children on family members you don't want to be in contact with then he's not in the wrong cause as you said he doesn't know her, what she did was bad but at the end of the day she's a person who was young and trying to escape an abusive relationship she had with an older man (might I remind you) of course she shouldn't have just abandoned him with his abusive father that was her biggest fault and wasn't oke (but so was hye sung when he left byul for months after he was born) when people feel trapped and scared they have to make decisions for themselves that seem selfish to others but unless we have been in those same shoes, we just can't understand. I'm not saying hyesung has to forgive her not at all actually it isn't necessary and he doesn't have to make amends if he doesn't want to but again at the end of the day she's a person who if her grandson wants a relationship with then so be it. The issue with Dojin is different tho he should not be lying or going behind his partners back like this

Absolutely not. You lose access to my children if I don’t permit you access. You cannot dismiss terrible actions because of age, you had a child. If in the main story she had said how she didn’t want that child in the first place or she had been raped that would’ve been different. Therefore, you had the responsibility of that child. Although I can understand that she wanted to leave her abusive relationship that doesn’t mean you leave your child in that so said abusive relationship as well. She’s shit as a mother and did not care about her child lmao. What she did was selfish and there’s no going around that. Hyesung did not want byul and at some point tried to abort but was convinced to keep. I was not mad at him for abandoning Byul especially when in the beginning of the story Hyesung was drunk etc and was very reluctant to even have a relationship with Dojin. Additionally, you kind of using this rhetoric to place hyesung and his mother’s actions the same is very insensitive and disgusting lowkey. Referring to Byul what I said still stands. He’s aware that his mother never brings up granny and that alone is quite literally enough and he himself basically acknowledge that he knows something happened between them yikes. Byul is insensitive and the author has already depicted him to be very stupid as a 16-year-old.

I understand your point but I wasn't placing hyesung and his mother in the same body I was simply stating how some people have to make decisions for themselves that may seem selfish to other but we can never know what they are going through because we aren't them, you obviously feel very strong about this topic sense you seem to be commenting a lot throughout this section. If this is something that feels personal to you I hope you heal from that. But byul is his own person at the end of the day and again if you're not atleast willing to be honest with your children then you can not just expect them to follow blindly. You can call it disrespectful of him but it's his choice he's 17 you can't shelter forever.

I agree that we can limit the access to our children esp to those who have abused us and wronged us, but not forever, because children grow up, they got curious, they build their own mind and relationship with people, including Byul, who probably only meant to treat his relative kindly, esp an elderly, and once again, he did it without any intention to hurt Hye Sung, that's why he did it without telling parents because it's his own decision to do it and he won't force his mom to do the same (for now at least)