
for context, i recently lost my cat because of an accident. he went out of the house when my family left the door open. he went to a relative's house across the road and the dog there chased my cat, so, my cat ran towards our home. unfortunately, a motorcycle hit him and he died.
a while ago, me n my aunt went out. i told her that a friend is giving me a cat and i'm getting it (didnt tell her that i was getting it because of my grandma who probably misses our two cats who died earlier this year and last december). she was implying that i was not taking care of my cat properly that's why it died and told me that the one that i'm getting will also end up like my cat. SHE KNOWS THAT IT WAS AN ACCIDENT AND NO ONE WANTED IT TO HAPPENED. i told her, again, that it was an accident and no one knew that it would happened. if i knew, i would've kept my cat with me in my room and saved myself from a heartbreak. now, i'm not talking to her, because i was ticked off of the things she said, and i dont plan on talking to her anytime soon.
I have lots of cats too, and if I were in your position and heard that from them, Im not only gonna be pissed, theres gonna be a war. They dont know how painful it is to lost a pet, especially in an accident that we didnt even hope for. Jeez, I should've slapped her for you. Im most triggered when she implied about what might happen to the cat you are planning to adopt. She is not a god, so please shut her mouth. She doesnt even know how you take care of your pet, so who she is to talk about it?!
And Im so sorry for your lost. If you dont feel like talking to her, thats fine. Sometimes, its better to ignore or cut them off rather than deal with their close minded minds. Those are kinds of people who are freaking insensitive about others, and theyre the type of relatives who are toxic. Im not gonna surround myself with that people when things are already stressful in life, and not gonna sit down and listen to their crappy opinion either
like father like son i see