
I don't want her to end up with Roger if he's under her curse. There's no use in a love that isn't sincere. I'm confused as to why people are pissed off she's pushing him away, because unless I read it too fast, isn't he under her spell too?

it’s also very insinuated here that it isn’t a spell at all, and that her initially flirty and forward behavior was what reeled all 3 of them in. it can’t be a result of her hypnotism because they didn’t drop to their knees the moment they met her. they gradually grew more and more obsessed.
the crown prince wanted to marry her not because he loved her, but because he could monopolize her power. the duke or whatever he is never wanted to marry her until he had sex with her and realized he didn’t hate her. the knight or whatever was going to marry her not for love but for convenience. it just so happens that all 3 of them are also pretty crazy in the head and are thus very susceptible to obsessive behavior.
by this point, i would say that 2 of the 3 are in love. i don’t know i find it dumb that people are so surprised she’s pushing the one she actually liked away after seeing what her hypnotism would make people do for her.

I think it's a mixture of both? I don't think anything would've gotten to that point if not for her eyes. And also I do think the curse is what reeled all 3 of them in (maybe Roger aside, since he's obviously the ML). The crown prince and the duke felt aroused by her at first-sight, and I believe both of them were already "in love/obsessed" at that time, they were just rationalizing their behavior (isn't that what the maid said? when FL was begging to leave this world and wondered if she couldn't leave because the MLs didn't like her, the maid told her that the MLs do like her, which is what sent FL in that frenzy - she realized that she had already won them over a long time ago and that she's still trapped there). Now, that obsession has gotten even further because of her current behavior indeed and not as a result of the curse. However I do think without her eyes, they would've been interested in her at some point - mainly due to the transmigrator buff in every manhwa that makes the MLs think "wow- she's so interesting!"

you have a point. i honestly saw their behavior as fairly generic especially in this genre. they’re all usually intrigued by the fmc because she’s “strange” and outspoken or shameless in a sense.
i mean, she very obviously hypnotized the women in front of the crown prince. she then licked his finger during their second meeting. when she first met the duke, she literally grabbed his face and brought it close to hers. he is the most likely candidate to her hypnotism, i guess, but i also saw it as he was so taken aback by that kind of touch that it lit something inside him. with roger, he was just trying to be a helpful gentleman. he embarrassed himself, but she kissed him on the cheek (i think)? and left him thinking about her.
this first impression is, in my mind, what contributed to their instant attraction and obsession toward her. her new personality doesn’t help her either. the crown prince likes it, the duke is led on by it (he’s surprisingly naive), and roger is unhealthily obsessed with the memories he has with her before she “betrayed” him. he thinks its his job to rescue her.
but i could be very wrong. there’s an argument for both. i just think lowering her charm will solve nothing except the general issue of everyone else being obsessed by looking at her. she’ll realize this and maybe lose her mind again or be ecstatic because it’d mean roger’s feelings are genuine.
GIVE HIM BACK TO HIS FAMILY TFFFFFFF