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Bro, people keep saying that there are people fighting his ass but like I have only seen people shitting on him here.
What I will say is that I like the ambiguousness (I am probably using this word wrong but it's what came to mind so oh well) of his character. Like, I'm not saying I like him as a person. He felt like it was entirely his fault for the loss of his sister and he didn't seem to have anyone to help him through his grief even though he was a kid and to top it all of his dad comes home with some random stranger they have never met and without discussing anything says she's their new sibling. I can only imagine how flabbergasted and taken aback the brothers were (not that their responses where ok), it probably did feel like their father was trying to replace their sister.
Derrick never saw Penelope has his sister. His guilt regarding Yvonne and his anger towards his father's response to their loss caused him to lash out. But also made him never seen Penelope as his sister really. She was some random stranger in his house trying to take the place of someone else he dearly cared for. From personal experience this can make an individual feel fake and make it hard to get along with them, it's frustrating to watch them take over a lost loved one instead of finding a new place for themselves in the family, though I know that can be hard and that Penelope was not trying to replace someone though maybe hope to fill an empty slot. This is probably why Derrick has complicated feelings towards her. She was never his family though he acknowledged her as such due to obligation and didn't think much of it so when she got older and he knew her more she was a woman, not his sister, that he was seeing.
I feel like if it weren't for fake Yvonne Derrick would have treated Penelope better than before but only slightly and at most it would take a long time before he started to really think about things. I am curious to know what would have happened otherwise and if there would have been some other major event or something small that has a major impact that makes him realize things.
Regardless I think Derrick was neglected in terms of his trauma by his father and probably everyone else and ended up growing up shaping himself around his childhood guilt. None of this makes the things he has done ok, I would just like to make clear.
So like, their relationship doesn't seem to healthy, but I feel like he also wasn't in a good place to start with. Usually absolutely loosing yourself when your partner dies is a bad sign in a relationship cus of the degree of attachment. That doesn't mean becoming depressed or grieving or feeling like you lost a part of yourself are bad or abnormal. It's just to the degree which he acted. As well as the lack of communication. Also being literally obsessed with your partner is NOT a good thing.
So how did he have an example of healthy relationships growing up? Nobody has a text book perfect relationship... for the first time he knew real affection without a drawback...how do you think that lost was going to impact him? His parents didn't love him want him...his new family cut his tendons and his real mom told him never to speak.....all bc he was born from and with the royal magic.... do I agree with it no, but do I see where he lost all hope and went to the deep end, and he went bonkers...I can understand it. Emotions are powerful @momo
That's true and I'm not denying it, nor was that the point. The point wad simply and objectively their relationship didn't exactly seem healthy. And regardless of how he got where he did that doesn't mean it's ok. To compare to an extreme I had an abusive stepfather who was very mentally abusive and would throw things at my mother. He was raised not able to handle his emotions and with a pretty negletive family so he didn't have a good reference. He saw the perfect nuclear family on TV and that was the best he had. None of that matters, he wasn't ready for such a relationship or to have a family and he hurt people. I understand fucked up backgrounds but responding with that makes it sound A LITTLE ok and that can lead to larger acceptance of abuse or toxicity due to trauma. What I will say is that Cesio and Terryl have the opportunity to grow and I don't necessarily think their situation is dire so they have great potential to form a much healthier relationship. Though they might need to slow down. The point of this is I want to make sure we are also acknowledging the bad sides of their relationship as I am starting to see a lot of blind love for them