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I’m so sick and tired of people acting like the MC is entirely at fault or worse, calling him overdramatic for expecting something "fancy." Let me defend my boy for a second. First off, both the MC and ML are at fault in their own ways, and both of their feelings are valid. The real issue here isn’t just miscommunication; it’s a clash of love languages and emotional expectations. I keep seeing comments like
"The MC is stubborn and needy; his expectations are unnecessary."
"He expected fancy anniversaries after saying he didn’t want to celebrate, and he didn’t listen to the ML’s side."
"The MC needs to communicate that he loves romance and wants a clingy, affectionate boyfriend so the ML can understand."
Let’s me pinpoint how dumb these statements are.
1. "The MC is stubborn and needy; his expectations are unnecessary."
For the MC, anniversaries represent the moment they chose to be together and love each other. Naturally, he expected his partner to do something special not necessarily extravagant, but at least some effort. On their anniversary, the ML didn’t give him flowers, didn’t acknowledge the day, and didn’t do anything the MC expected from a partner. Instead, they had sex. That’s probably the worst "gift" when what the MC really wanted was something meaningful and thoughtful. Sex might be a symbol of love for some, but in that moment, it wasn’t for the MC. His desire for a more heartfelt anniversary and his disappointment are valid.
2. "He expected fancy anniversaries after saying he didn’t want to celebrate, and he didn’t listen to the ML’s side."
Emotions don’t always match what we say; sometimes, our actions reveal the opposite of what we feel. The MC may have said he didn’t want to celebrate the anniversary, but that was clearly a response driven by frustration and hurt. People often say things they don’t mean when they’re upset. The ML had known the MC for over a year at that point and should have picked up on the fact that small gestures mattered to him. And if he didn’t realize it then, he definitely should have after three years together. As for the MC not listening to the ML's side, that goes both ways. Neither of them communicated properly, which is the point of the story.
3. "The MC needs to communicate that he loves romance and wants a clingy, affectionate boyfriend so the ML can understand."
Relationships aren’t as simple as spelling out every desire. A big part of being with someone is learning what makes them feel loved. It’s not about following a checklist; it’s about caring enough to notice and act without being asked. Even if the MC said he didn’t want to celebrate, it’s obvious he spoke out of disappointment. A thoughtful partner would recognize that and still do something small to show they care, not because they were told to, but because they wanted to. There’s a huge difference between asking for flowers and being surprised by them. One feels like a request, while the other feels like a genuine, heartfelt gesture.
The MC sulking ain't being overdramatic, it a reaction to feeling repeatedly overlooked. There have been so many moments where the MC hoped for something meaningful but was met with nothing. This isn’t about him being demanding, it’s about him longing to feel seen and valued in a relationship where mutual care should exist.
Communication is key, but that doesn’t mean someone’s emotional disappointment is invalid just because they didn’t explicitly ask for what they wanted. It’s about more than words; it’s about paying attention, being emotionally aware, and showing love without needing constant direction. Dismissing the MC as "needy" or "overdramatic" completely overlooks his lived experiences and the way his emotions have built up over time.
To be clear, both the MC and ML are equally at fault for their lack of communication. The ML’s sadness about the MC no longer saying "I love you" back is just as valid. When you express love and don’t receive it in return, it hurts. Their relationship is about navigating these moments of misunderstanding and learning how to love each other better. That’s the core of the story, not blaming one person but highlighting the need for growth, empathy, and communication on both sides.I'm so tired of people saying things like this and acting like they would do so much better when you are not them and just judging them.