Does anyone have the link to the novel's english translation? The page where I read it the first time is not working anymore help
cómo que "¿quieres ser mi novia?" yeoreum? no que sí la armabas
if I may speak... Sehan feels like the epitome of all those Korean guys in the news and social media. He's insane in a such a pathetic way. He's so self-centered and so deep in his denial he can't even see the ways he's hurting the people who cared for him. Back then, it was Gram, and now his current (possibly ex) boyfriend. And the worst part is that he can't even see how that's just the consequences of his actions, and yeah, it sucks his parents are homophobic but cry me a river, like no one else has ever gone through that without becoming the worst asshole known to man.
Honestly, I thought this was heading to a very different direction when they almost broke up. For a second there, I thought Inhwee was going to break free from that toxic, abusive relationship finally and definitely. They got back together without actually talking things out or acknowledging any of the harm done instead. To say this was beyond disappointing would be an understatement of my feelings about this series. But since I already wasted my time reading this trainwreck I might as well vent out my frustrations about it, so here it goes:
To begin with, a relationship build up on lies is never up to a good start. The lies both Inhwee and the ML told each other at first were so stupid too, it seriously made me question their intelligence, especially Inhwee's. To top that off, all of their intimacy, in consequence, was extremely coercive. The sex the had for the first few chapters was not consensual because Inhwee was actively being lied to. You cannot give real consent under those circumstances, it makes me mad how this was never addressed once the cat was out of the bag.
When Inhwee found out about ML's lies, I thought he was upset because he felt played and humiliated, but apparently no? He was just upset over the fact the principle of lying, which I thought was hypocritical of him, honestly, since he has not stopped lying even after they made up. See? Their whole relationship is lies upon lies upon lies.
And when they made up, they didn't even bring up the fact that the trust they both have in each other is flimsy as fuck.
And then there's the thing about the ML being outright abusive and a rapist. BIG SIGH. I don't even know where to begin, he never respected boundaries or listened to watch the MC wanted during the relationship, from being to almost end he did what he wanted and took what he wanted with little to no regard for Inhwee. At so many times it felt like he was treating Inhwee as a literal fleshlight. Then, he's also obsessive, possessive and jealous. He stalks the MC and follows him around against his wishes, he gets violent, and there's the time he sexually assaulted Inhwee in the park. But, hey, it's ok because he's nice sometimes and he says he loves the MC. All that's well ends well I guess.
I doubt this is gonna go the way I think it should, I guess that from here on out they're going to magically be happy forever and have no more issues (except for everything remaining the same only this time Inhwee won't fight against it). It goes without saying that I'm dropping this shit. To anyone who keeps on reading, good luck. I'm no stranger to toxic yaoi or whatever but this is not even fun because it's not just toxic codependency or some shit like that. This is dead ass an abusive relationship if I've ever seen one. Arite I'm out
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JQJEJDKK BASTA uno aqui leyendo en ingles y veo esto JAJJWKDKEJW my thoughts exactly
JAJAJA es q dudeee, no ha frase en el mundo que logre expresar mi sentir hacia el pendejo del ex que esa ┐( ˘_˘)┌
Do any of the artists/authors have a Twitter account?
both: @team_lapis
putput: @fmradio_x_x
ana: @anaroad_
omg thanks so much
LET'S FUCKING GOOOO, finally, mc undoomed, the wedding is back on!!
Imma be honest, if I was an outsider looking in, and was asked of my opinion on the situation, I would also advice both of them to end the relationship. I don't think the problem is the age difference in the first place, but the fact that they're both at very different stages of life and it's going to be difficult for them no matter how much effort they put in their relationship; Yeoreum hasn't even finished college, while Mr. Lim is already 40, with a stable job and a lot of emotional baggage. Not only are their mindsets different, but the power imbalance is too much to just ignore. This is exactly what lead to the current situation. Mr. Lim isn't great at communication, he's quite emotionally stunted and resorts to cruelty to end things instead of discussing things with Yeoreum. And on the other hand, I don't think Yeoreum would have let him go if they discussed things better because he's not mature enough to accept the very real worries Mr. Lim has. If Mr. Lim had told him he loves him but is concerned about their dynamic and affecting each other's lives for the worse, Yeoreum would have lead with the fact that is mutual, ignoring everything else. This is actually what got them in the situation in the first place, Yeoreum "forced" a relationship on Mr. Lim with hopes that he would make him change his mind, he couldn't handle not getting what he wanted from the beginning. Obviously, we, as the omniscient readers know that they're both in love but fear is gripping Mr. Lim, and maybe they can sort it out, and maybe Mr. Lim can shut up the voices in his head telling him how their relationship looks for other, and try and ignore the judgement, but dude, if he doesn't want to deal with that, he has the right to choose not to. What I look down the most is how he handled it, he was unnecessarily cruel, this I also attribute to his age and the generation he grew up with. Idk about this one fellas. They'll probably sort it out anyway. Or maybe once Yeoreum has his life more put together they could try again, idk idk
Totally agree with you on this
this is such a neutral stance and i agree 100% could’ve been approached less cruel but then again they’re just so far apart mentally. i like how the story isnt just rainbows and tackles real parts if a relationship like this happens irl and how complicated things are. still rooting for them deep down tho
this is too real id still b ok if they'd start dating like 20 years later or sumn
As I was reading I also thought he was being unnecessarily cruel but then I realized that maybe Lim felt this was the only way for Yeorum not to fight back or try to rekindle their relationship since sometimes, when you end things amicably, letting go or ending things cleanly rarely happens, you need both of them to be emotionally mature for that and clearly neither of them are.