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This is absolutely about more than "different communication styles" or "different relationship goals". Si-eon almost had a panic attack when Namwoo started to take his time and be more careful with his blowjob technique, resulting in Si-eon beginning to enjoy it enough to lose his control--something he is deathly afraid of to an unhealthy degree.

Look at his reaction to Namwoo's simple question about whether he enjoyed it or not. I've been in casual sexual relationships. That kind of question is not a signal of any kind of yearning for deep emotional connection, long-term relationship, anything more complicated than simply one sexual partner ensuring the other is having a good time 'cause that's what they're there to do. But Si-eon acted like the man was an alien from another planet with strange cultural customs that, for the life of him, he couldn't figure out.

This is not a BDSM thing. (I am TIRED of folks ascribing dysfunctionality to BDSM relationships. Stop it. Get some help.) Si-eon acts as if he is allergic to reciprocity in any form no matter how basic. Something is terribly, terribly wrong here and I need to find out what it is pronto. Namwoo is absolutely right in observing that Si-eon pretends as if the way he conducts his relationship is about pleasing Namwoo, but it's really all about his own trauma/neurosis, whatever it is. It isn't about Namwoo at all.