sillybeanz's Topics (38)

I've always wondered, how does it work? You tell him it's over, he tells you it's not and then what? I hope it didn't come as sth offensive, I'm just really curious :).

I was not saying it's over at first. I said what was happening, aka me seeing him as a brother and getting annoyed at every little thing, explained that I did not want to be toxic and drag him on when he was kind of overly obsessive and said that I think we should break up. But he just said no, let's try. But thing is that I have already been trying to change how I feel for months so it just got worse and worse until I felt too guilty for not reciprocating feelings wise and completely broke it off. He was still shocked smh, I don't get it. I was clearly the bad guy even though I was trying to do the right thing but he was holding on like we were glued together. Around a month after I told him how I felt, or more like, didn't feel, in a very surprised voice he said "it feels like you don't want to live with me in the future". Like bloody daah, I told you that I don't love you anymore and I have been acting cold because I was trying not to lash out because of all that tension and guilt, the hell do you expect. I seriously feel like Sebin is the same way. Absolutely precious and adorable, just like my ex, but just unable to let go and blind to almost everything related to that person they are attached to. Over attachment is not a good thing either, it used to creep me out and honestly, still does, he messages me way too often and I entertain it because I keep hoping that maybe it will make the break up period easier for him.
Wow, this kind of turned into a vent. But yeah, it can happen when two overly nice people are together, haha

Thank you for answering. That's tough, I used to have a friend who claimed to be in love with me, but from the begining I told him that I only see him as a friend or brother at the most. It was exhausting, he was overly attached, when we went somewhere as a group (we were part of an university group of friends for about 3 years) he would act as my boyfriend, even after I told him that I don't like that, he would message me many times a day and, like you, I was creeped out. Still, I was nice to him and treated him like a friend, but unlike your ex, this guy became violent, thanks to him my self confidance was extremally low. At the end he even tried to strangle me and finally after that I stopped caring about him and ended this sick relationship. Ever since that time I've been scarred of over attachment, so every little relationship or a fling I could have I've kinda ruined and even though I'm still nice to people I try not to be "too nice".

Oh my goodness, I am sorry that happened to you. That's absolutely horrible, that guy is a monster, he had no right to ignore your wishes and especially had no right to be violent or aggressive. I am glad you got out of that relationship... And yeah, I feel you at not too nice but. People being interested in me always freaked me out so I usually manage to distance myself in time if I have no interest in them at all, but even if I do relationship is troublesome. Let's just say this was not the first time my feelings just disappeared and I am not even sure if they ever really existed in the first place. Counselling helps though.

GOD (⊙…⊙ )
If that happens I hope one kid will go crazy and kill all CUT THEM IN TO PIECES (╯°Д °)╯╧╧
then find his own happiness somehow （/TДT)/

Totally absolutely agree with you