Killua's Things

Many if not most of you are ones saying supporting gay couple relationships and accepting and not accepting homophobic or such.
So what is different between you and homophobic or bullies at school that say gay is gross? many of gays have feminine/girls sides or looks and been bullies or harassed cause of how they are, if you say you against homophobic what make you different then?
While we born never chosen how we look, or how maybe some of us have smaller bodies or girly looks etc, pretty much saying same thing a bully or a homophobic say : gross
Here in mangago community suppose to be gay friendly not choose a type of gay and not the other, rather that say gross say you favor that over this or such, but while many girly/feminine Fudanshi here calling such type gross hurt them even indirectly
Freedom, to be free whatever you wanna say or do as long as you dont hurt others physically, mentally or emotionally intentionally.
Same for who say age gap or whatever gross either, i happen to fall in love with someone much older than me also couldnt win this person heart, but if you ever were to believe in love would never find such as gross love is love doesn't know gender or age.
( Not offending or attacking anyone, stating only how i feel )

I ask just cause i dont know what i am really confuse
I know Manga is fiction but i never felt like attractive to others in like this ways
I am a boy i prefer spend time home i dont feel good in school feel like watched or something but i never like had someone to love or really like like before so how can i know my sexuality ?

Sorry for my English i used google translate some stuff.