As a gay guy, yaoi is literally made for the consumption of women primarily. And that's not a bad thing. Gei Comics/Bara are made for the consumption of gay men primarily.
It's not a big deal.
Edit: this isn't to say those outside of these groups can't consume these medias, just that they are the primary target audience for marketing and such 1 reply
Personally I like both an equal amount. Bara is a bit more comparable to my real life sex experiences, since it's actually written by gay men unlike yaoi. Yaoi has more story, but is often very much a straight woman's ideal vision of what gay sex is, and is often unrealistic.
Also, just like what you like, there's no right or wrong way to be a BL ...... reply
I'm a misanthope, and I think it's often assumed we hate everyone, but that's not entirely true. I have a few friends, however it took me a very long time to become close to them, and honestly my misanthropic nature stops me from fully committing to them. I expect them to betray me at some point.
Some people become misanthrope's because of trauma...... 1 reply
Poor communication over a very minor problem that can be easily resolved by talking for 30 seconds. Turns into a massive and thoroughly irritating 20 chapter issue 1 reply