Dudeitsalexa's Topics (35)

ah yes, you make good points there, it's all true, but looking at your partner's phone when they're not there and tracking them ... those are some serious trust issues, they may end up together in the end of the series, but this is a big thing and i'd be quite disappointed if the boy thought lightly of this and did nothing

Everyone has insecurities--an age gap is not a special one that makes Ahjussi's situation particularly sympathetic. I don't find this argument persuasive because the persons who make this point never seem willing to acknowledge Yoo-Il's much more vulnerable position.

It's not easier for the younger partner in this kind of relationship. Yoo-Il has his own insecurities and anxieties about Ahjussi's feelings. He also cannot go public or tell his friends because of society's judgement. And if worse came to worse and they broke up *and* were outed, Ahjussi has his own home, qualifications and a job. If they fired him he has the means to move elsewhere and start a new life as an independent adult.

What would happen to Yoo-Il? He'd get kicked out of his own home and hope that his friends aren't homophobic, with his school career at risk without his family's financial support....PLUS the emotional damage thanks to Ahjussi.

Hello Maltafenein! I completely awknowledge Yoo-il's position hence why I mentioned for ajusshi to also ask about Yoo-il's feelings. I mostly talked about ajusshi because he is who many are seem to be going against because of his actions. Tho, I don't think that ajusshis situation is any less harder than Yoo-il's. Their situations are both relevant and they are both significant each person each other's happiness. Just because ajusshi is older and is settled (which he really isn't because he doesn't have a signifiacant other when he's at this age) doesn't make his situation any less harder to resolve . I also added that their relationship is not an easy one at all and that there WILL BE a LONG and DIFFICULT resolution.

No it isn't right at all. That's disrespectful and there is this thing called privacy. I never applauded ajusshi's actions and never said it was okay. I just tried to explain why he did this because I understand ajusshi's situation. I also wish author san makes ajusshi realize his mistakes and learn from it.

Being financially independent with a home of one's own--that is what I mean when I say Ahjussi is settled--absolutely makes a lot of others issues easier to cope with. That's just reality. I have been in both situations so I know. There is a reason why in many countries most of the homeless who are under 18 tend to be LGBTQ-- homeless in Western countries that are seen as more progressive.

Besides that, Ahjussi is the person who has done wrong, who harmed his partner. It's fine to seek to understand why Ahjussi did what he did but he is the one who engaged in abusive tactics--of course most persons are against him. To deny that is to ignore Yoo-Il's position. Asserting that he must "ask about Yoo-Il's feelings" is not only inadequate, it misses why people are so against Ahjussi in the first place. His actions were never *about* Yoo-Il. How could it be when, from the very start, Yoo-Il has been completely honest, earnest, transparent and straight forward in not only expressing but showing, in all of his actions, how much he treasures and thinks of Ahjussi. The fact that Ahjussi could not see this shows that the problem lies entirely with him and his issues. He does not need to ask Yoo-Il about a thing: he needs to apologise and fix *himself* because he is the problem.

Ah I see. Then yes, I agree with you that financially, ajusshi is definitely in a better place than YooIl. Money could fix a lot of things but not everything obviously and one of them is finding love and neither of them are in a better place than the other when it comes to that. But then, just because YooIl is younger and is still financially dependent, are you suggesting that it's better if they just break up? However old YooIl turns, he's going to know in himself that he likes guys, however harsh society could get. If he does break up with ajusshi and becomes lovers with a younger guy, then it's almost the same situation as with being ajusshi because society is going to be harsh when it comes to being with the same gender whatever their age is (especially in his culture). I am gay and I am filipino and my particular family is harsh on the lgbt community but I'm not going to stop my relationship with my girlfriend.

And I completely agree as well that the problem lies with ajusshi himself. I had mentioned in one of my replies to another commenter on my comment, that I do hope ajusshi realizes his mistake and learns from it and of course, his ass needs to apologize. I've never applauded ajusshi's actions but I don't think it's inadequate at all however, if he asked Yoo il on how he felt about himself. I believe that the root of ajusshi's actions is unfortunately the fact that he cannot see Yoo Il's genuine love for him even when YooIl's has been nothing but honest and faithful. If YooIl's actions and words are not enough to reassure ajusshi then how else is he supposed to realize? And when I said for ajusshi to ask about YooIL"s feelings, I did not mean simply how he felt but, what can he (ajusshi) do to better himself and many other things that might be small but is relevant to better his trust and better their relationship.

I am aware that my suggestion of ajusshi expressing himself and comprehending YooIL's side might not have been the best but I know it would be a strong start. If you had a suggestion to how ajusshi could fix himself, then do you have any? (This sounds "douchbaggy" but I'm just genuinely asking, because if you had one, then I'd be enlightened. I love going deep in mangas lol) I am aware that this situation in itself is difficult hence, a difficult resolution would require. An example of that, could be with them completely separating but possibly reuniting later on. I can accept whatever author san will create for their ending, but I am just rooting for them. Just genuinely and nicely asking, how would you want ajusshi to fix himself and their relationship to resolve?

that what I said in my comment too a chapter ego but people jump and say I support his actions. even after I said I"m not LOL
people are stupid in this comment saction, I swear.

I hate those ccmments that attack the old guy without even trying to get his character. to get how sad he is and how scared he is.

I agree with you so much!!! thank you for comment this.