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Because that is how bdsm works. They take pleasure in getting hits however that depends on how far they can tolerate it and that is why every bdsm couple must have safe words for each other. This is only the tip of iceberg about this whole bdsm relationship, you can read more if you want to know more (=・ω・=)

The BDSM relationship is about trust and safety. Of course it’s about pain and pleasure, but safety and mutual trust comes first. It sounds like you don’t know how BDSM works. Chanwoo apologizes for saying the safe word and that says A LOT. MD’s job as a dom is to make sure Chanwoo feels comfortable with saying the safe word in order to stop, but instead he told Chanwoo that if he backed out of the play, he would stop being his dom. Sexual coercion is not a part of bdsm and it never will be.

tbh you didn’t get the whole idea i suppose, MD is literally forcing him to take care of himself, that was the whole point of last 2-3 chapters. Chanwoo literally doesn’t care about his own needs, he is prone to have physically abusive relationships, MD want to make him aware of this. He wanted him to use the safeword, he tried so damn bad to make him say the safeword because even though he is in intolerable pain Chanwoo tolerates it (which is wrong). This all happened when MD realized he was getting beat up by his bfs, and wanted to show him why he should know his limits and say no. When MD spoke to him and said “are u getting abused” Chanwoo just ignored him so this is the only way MD could made him realize.

Oh MD our savour. Clap clap seriously rolling eyes so hard.
Who the hell MD is to put abuse victim through another traumatic experience to help him. It could have backfired and break him even more. Plus there was also grudge mixed in all of that based on smirks etc. Strangling scene was impacted by the anger after rejection.

No. If you’ve been paying attention to the last few chapters, you can see that MD’s actions were driven by the anger and dissatisfaction of being rejected. He used his previous sub as a method of making Chanwoo realize his feelings/make him feel jealous. What MD is doing is not taking care of Chanwoo, but instead taking his frustrations out on him with initially good intentions that morphed into a desire to make Chanwoo feel jealous. If he really wanted Chanwoo to be aware of his proneness to physical abuse, he wouldn’t coerce Chanwoo to suck a stranger’s dick by saying that if he were to back out of the play, the relationship would be over and he would stop being his dom.

Stop arguing with them they don't see the grey areas in this and are approaching with a naive black and white lens

i see what you mean and they do make sense, let’s see how the creator handles this situation. side ship’s relations looked healthier to me than the main but yea there are things that could be handled well. thank you for your insight!

not arguing at all, listening to other people makes you realize things you don’t see so i would recommend reading everyone’s opinion :’)

Knowing the fine line that separates abuse and bdsm is not naive. The characters are complex and have their reason of doing what they're doing, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t toxic or abusive.

Say it again for the stupid 12 year olds in the back

isn't it clear that he is jealous cause he is in love with MD? ╮(￣▽￣)╭ I thought it was obvious and no it's not MD fault Chan is supper jealous of him kissing someone else, he does not own him anything just like Chan can fuck with other man's. he had his chance to be with him and refuse.

That isn't love he was humliated and was used by that guy and had to do sexual favors to him in order to try and keep his so called " Dom" Md he dosent love Md at all it was just his final breaking point when he saw them kissing and Md was smirking this scean wasn't love it was emotional maniplautuion he told chanwoo he was going to stop being his Dom if he said the safe word and chanwoo said sorry for saying his safeword the safeword is meant to be used the fact he had to say sorry for using shows how Terrbile of a Dom Md is he was not suppose to say sorry at all I wish chanwoo would have left the scean but he has a low self esteem and is clearly mentally unstable and Md is taking advantage of his mental state and the author is trying to disguise this toxicity as Love and "Bdsm" which is clearly not as someone who has been in a lot of emotionally abusive friendships and relationships that isn't love I hope chanwoo can get out this whole d/s relationship quickly before he gets even more hurt from it if you love someone you wouldn't for a fact make them kiss and suck off the person who betrayed your trust so what if he rejected him that was a professional relationship they had not a romantic one Md did all that to chanwoo because his pride was hurt bc chanwoo decided to reject him and find someone who he actually liked but he knew since Md asked him out he wanted it to be co with him so like an adult he texted him and was about to tell him he got a new bf in a respectful way not a rub it in your face way but that asshole betrayed him in front of Md and embarrassed him then Md made it sm worse by taking advantage of this whole situation and maniplautuing chanwoo who was already at a low point into doing this trust me when you are at a low point it's easy to be taken advantage of so chanwoo is the viticm here and the only person I feel sorry right now like this isn't Bdsm and this isn't Love it smells more like gaslighting and emotional maniplautuion please don't confuse this for love ever again bc people like you are most likely to be taken advantage of by a emotional maniplautor if you think this type of toxicty is love somehow

Chanwoo did not like Md in that type of way he has a type he likes younger guys and we'll built ones chanwoo dosent love abusive assholes it's just that how most of his relationships end he thought he found someone nice and respectful and he fit his type as shown that guy was being nice and not abusive to chanwoo in anyway until he decided to betray him and embarass him he was clearly upset if Md was an actual "Dom" he would have gave comfort to chanwoo and made sure he was ok instead he let his emotions take over and did all of that to chanwoo out of pure selfishness and bc his ego was hurt that chanwoo could move on so easily and chanwoo was the only adult in this situation he made sure to contact md and make sure that this was ok for both his new boyfriend and his "Dom" so there wouldn't be an issue like so then Md made him do all of that he knows he then proceeds to slap chanwoo for wanting to not do the play and told him that he was going to stop being his Dom and chanwoo enjoyed the d/s relationship they had and didn't want it to go away bc he had just got his heart broke and probably only had Md there he used that he took advantage of his lowest point instead of trying to help him and make sure he was ok he made him do a Terrbile play he had a mental breakdown bc of that play he was crying over and over he was hell bent it was so sad this all happened bc he rejected Md like why would you do that to someone just bc you were rejected no one is obligated to you're feelings he didn't owe him a relationship a romantic one at all he shouldn't have involved his feelings into the relationship if the author could have wrote this way better but they were just looking for a quick way to get feelings out instead of taking the time to help their relationship mature into love instead they just wanted something quick and easy to get points across instead of doing it in a good way and chanwoo did not deserve anything that happend to him Chanwoo is the viticm of this all rather anyone likes it or not

first of all a safe word meant to stop when he can't handle it, that something he should have use to be safe. but since he wasn't using it like he should, MD had to guess when to stop and no it isn't a good thing! it Chan fault for not using the word when he should have.
and how can you say he didn't jealous? he was totally JEALOUS when he sew the kiss! again if he wasn't in love with MD that kiss should not have bother him at all!!
MD didn't emotional manipulation, again you can't really control Chan getting jealous of you kiss someone else. MD has any RIGHT to kiss someone else if Chan can have sex with other people.

if he didn't love MD he would have never show off to him his new sex partner and won't have come back to him after knowing MD had feelings for him. second proof he was jealous when MD kiss someone else! when more proof do you need he is in love with MD?! and he refuses to let anyone be his sub, despite he is the worse sub ever!
your logic should go both ways, MD don't own him anything and have any right to kiss any other man just like Chan can kiss and fuck other men like he was doing the whole time. but Chan is the one who got jealous to MD!

MD DID emotionally manipulate Chanwoo by making him do a sexual play with his previous sub in order to manipulate Chanwoo to reciprocate his feelings. Do not try to deny this. And if MD realized that Chanwoo is not comfortable with saying the safe word, he should have ended it before it even started to be a responsible dom.

no he didn't, if Chan didn't felt anything for him from the start and wanted to have MD all to himself Chan won't have agree to this play from the start. Chan show he can say no and break up from guys he does not want to stay with. if he really didn't want this he would have just say the safe word and leave the room! like it show he can fucking use the safe word, do not try to deny he can use the safe word cause this is bs!
again MD most of the chance didn't know about his feelings, cause yeas people not mind readers wow how can't they not read minds?! so he can't manipulate feelings he does not know existed, MD most of the chance just wanted Chan to act like a sub should, to use the safe word.

I’m sorry I would reply but I can’t even read what you’re trying to say. I mean this in the most respectful way possible when I say I almost had a seizure reading your paragraph.

People stop talking with Maychan. She is a troll. A lot of people tried to talk some sense into her but she just doesn't care. She dismiss impact of abuse, doesn't get what coercion and emotional manipulation, abuse is. You are wasting time.

Well in Bdsm as A Dom you have to know these things Md knew that chanwoo was In abusive relationships and had a a low self esteem if he was a so called Dom he wouldn't have done the play instead he should have had a light hearted talk with chanwoo on limits not once did he have a talk with chanwoo on boundaries and why he wasn't saying the safe word good doms care about their subs needs and oberserve there behavior during plays he knew chanwoo was having a tough time saying his safe word instead of doing what I just said he choose to create a toxic environment so chanwoo would be froced and mainplauted to say his safe word instead of doing it in a healthier way and manner he choose the most toxic way in hell to do it that was unacceptable and disgusting if you are in a Bdsm relationship with someone you have know these things Bdsm isn't all Cupcakes and Lollipops this is a serouis thing and can get ugly real quick if isn't healthy chanwoo was not jealous he was at a breaking point when he saw his new ex bf kissing his Dom so he said the safe word bc he was humliated and having a mental breakdown now tell me in your own words how was that jealously it wasn't Md is a Terrbile Dom and people should not be supporting this type of relationship if you think this is how Bdsm works irl then you need help bc this isn't Bdsm this is just a romaticed version of it it's completely unrealistic I wish These stupid authors could actually Protray Bdsm in a non toxic way and an actual good represention of it the only person who deserves any type of sympathy is chanwoo and I'm done with this whole arugment because clearly you lack sense in what Bdsm is and how it works

MD already talk with him about it in the early chapters, guess what? it did NOT work. I guess Chan is too stubborn moron that wants trouble. like someone said "he likes to play with fire" so he need to learn in the hard way, yap sometimes some people need to learn things the hard way until they wake up, Chan is that kind of character.
or MD could have thrown him away and find a better sub that knows his limits and open about it. but then Chan would have to get super jealous too and climb him just like he did in the chapters. and I say it again CHAN WAS JEALOUS! if won't have done all those things and got super freak out after one kiss of MD to someone else, he is IN LOVE WITH HIM! why is it so hard to admit?
and no Chan is a terrible sub if he refuses to use the safe word, and he refuses to use it many times!! MD should have kick him out a long time ago and not treat him soo well like he did! but well that MD, he is too nice sometimes.
I don't really care what would happen to Chan, to me he brings it on himself

THIS.

?? But the choice is Chanwoo's, and he even asks if he has to, and MD makes it clear that he doesn't. It's not right and it hurts to see, but the choice is absolutely Chanwoo's and that's what there is to it. MD isn't forcing him into anything, Chanwoo is the one who is deciding to stay. He is his own person and whether or not we think it's a mistake, he can't pin this on MD. You also have to think- no one is obligated to return anyone's feelings, but to rub it in his face by bringing some other guy and asking for permission?? Yikes.

I think you might have forgotten that Chanwoo is used to abuse. He falls easily into manipulation and if leaving was so easy, as you say, many abuse victims would simply walk away. But abuse takes its toll on a person’s psychology. When Chanwoo brought a guy to meet MD, I believe he was hoping to prove to MD that he is capable of normal relationships in order to maintain their original sex friends relationship.

He is still being manipulative. He keeps pointing out that if Chanwoo doesn't do as he is told, he won't be his sub.

That's like telling someone "hit yourself, oh you don't have to. But if you don't I'll tell everyone your secret." (This is blackmail, but it's similar and it's the only thing I could think of.)

It's that kind of manipulation.

A "normal" relationship wouldn't include having a bdsm sex friend on the side, and regardless, it's entirely unfair to MD to have been rejected after letting him know that he has more than professional feelings for him, and then Chanwoo going to him with someone he wants to date for real. I'm not saying MD was acting entirely mature, but Chanwoo isn't MD's victim- MD is human too, and whether it not he's doing it out of spite, he has given chanwoo more than one opportunity to walk away. Abuse victims are manipulated, but often they stay because of feelings of love and guilt, in Chanwoo's case, he wants a pretty face that is his exact type and affection, but he has made it clear that his personality and he himself is very stubborn and proud, and he's choosing not to walk away.

i think @kurokurage is right
chanwoo might be really manipulative but he has just really bad luck in his relationships
he always has abusive boyfriends
but still it was his choice to stay
and i feel like chanwoo does not want that that new guy’s taking over his place so that his plan’s actually working, using chanwoo to get in touch with MD
fighting chanwoo
it’s not like he dislikes being his sub
he does not want to loose

You guys....you really don't know what real BDSM is, are you? Then why are you reading this again? Sorry, but I can't feel bad for Chanwoo since he's the one acting like a slut, totally disrespecting MD's feelings.

He's being manipulative, but he only has that opportunity to because he knows that chanwoo is stubborn and prideful and won't give up, but he's not holding anything over his head or telling him that he'll harm him in anyway. To MD, if Chanwoo really doesn't have feelings for him, it wouldn't be a problem to just walk away. MD made it clear that he had feelings for Chanwoo, and Chanwoo, after rejecting him, proceeds to rub salt into the wounds without caring about how he'll feel by bringing him a guy that he wants to have the kind of relationship with that MD was hoping for. No one could expect MD to handle that well because he's human. I'm not saying he's in the right, but I'm not going to pretend Chanwoo is some kind of victim. He was given a choice and he decided on his own that he'd rather go along with the play than walk away from it.

Babe real BDSM has rules which MD is breaking.

If your definition of “real bdsm” is allowing one party do whatever they want for the sake of the play and have the other party say the safe word to stop, YOU don’t know what bdsm play is. It’s supposed to consensual on both sides. Not ONCE did Chanwoo consent to being choked nearly to death, slapped, and having his boundaries be invaded by a stranger.

Ik I’m so confused why people are saying it’s MDs fault. It’s a bdsm relationship him getting slapped in a bdsm relationship is normal?? And it’s like they forgot MD confessing his feelings for chanwoo but chanwoo rejecting him and being selfish and wanting to still continue their relationship. He then goes to MD to tell him he wants to date someone else but still selfishly continue their bdsm

I see you don't difer abuse disguised as BDSM with real, safe BDSM.

Please search up reasons why abuse victims choose to stay and come back if you still want to input your opinion.

Omg i accidentally disliked my bad :(

Thank you for proving my point. His stubbornness to keep this relationship with MD is because he loves him to the point of not wanting to lose him, yet not being brave enough to venture out of the safe space of their purely sexual relationship because all his previous boyfriends have been abusive and did not work out.Yes, Chanwoo is prideful, but that only adds onto the reasons as to why he cannot just leave.

I guess you're right.
But I suppose the blame can't be on just one person. It's just a shitty situation either way.

I do understand MD slapping chanwoo was petty of him but I can also understand why he would be upset with chanwoo. Even if he has no right to be upset because he was rejected, but having the person you like come up to you saying they want to date someone they just met while also continuing their bdsm with you can be frustrating and is probably why MD is using bdsm as an excuse to show his frustration. I honestly think they both need to take a break from each other and work out their problems cause their relationship is no longer healthy if feelings are going to be involved in the play (chanwoos pride of not wanting to use the safe word and MDs feelings for chanwoo)

No, they are not right. Believe me. They are disregarding impact of abuse and excusing toxic behaviours.

But mixing emotions and grudge with play is unacceptable. It's both irresponsible and dangerous.

exactly!!! the people in the comments are excusing his abusive behavior with bdsm, saying “that’s what bdsm is”, but it’s not. I’m so tired of seeing uninformed or inexperienced people blame Chanwoo for not leaving when MD isn’t really giving him a choice emotionally.

I don't really know. I can understand both sides. I, personally, do think it's abusive and manipulative .

No it seems you don’t know what BDSM is, they have a purely sexual relationship and they mutually agreed to that, even if MD wants a emotional one. Chanwoo wants a mutual loving relationship which (at the moment) he doesn’t believe he could love MD and the fact that he told him that makes him a good person instead of him secretly being in love with someone else or feel like he’s missing something.

Dont worry i do feel the same.

same here

same, he lowkey gaslights shunpei and has a "I'm totally the victim here" behaviour

Right?? And he berates Shunpei for making him feel insecure but then goes around with the sculpting dude knowing very well how it makes Shunpei feel.

All I see are facts!!!

Yeah... it would be perfect if they play together once more time

IKRRRR

hmm ur onto something..