If you are uncomfortable and scared and he doesn't respect those feelings, leave the guy... Also BDSM should only be done with someone you are 100% comfortable with as the whole scene is based on consent. Doing BDSM for your first time when you aren't feeling comfortable is ridiculous. Take that from someone who has been part of the 'london scene' ......
First of all, I'm so sorry you were forced to be in an exchange program, I'm sure that's not helping your anxiety. :( I too get really anxious in social situations, especially with new people in my job where I am expected to be social. I find that preparation helps a lot, having conversation topics ready should there happen to be a lull. If you a......
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