
The bunny finally stands up for himself, and instead of the seme being somewhat chagrined or apologetic, he just gets pissed off and abuses the bunny even more?
I don't think the seme is redeemable in my eyes. He drugged and finger raped the uke (and yes, it was rape. The bunny was scared and didn't want it, and the seme literally poured the drug down his throat, raped him, then left him exposed and passed out). Then he ignores the bunny, gets unjustifiably pissed off when the bunny finally stands up for himself, drugs and rapes him again (still rape, the bunny still doesn't want it even if it started feeling good at the end), then once again leaves him alone in a separate building.
Yeah sure, it appears the seme re-dressed him and laid him out properly the second time, but he still left him alone and passed out in that room.
I honestly don't really care what the seme's deal is or what is prompting him to act like that. His baggage, no matter what it is, doesn't give him an excuse to abuse Kaede.
(And it's incredibly creepy how all the wolf clan are just cheerfully going about as if nothing is happening. They literally bought Kaede from his family, brought him to a place where he knew no one, and forced him into rituals and customs that are horribly invasive all while offering no support or comfort whatsoever).
Idk if I can keep reading this and keep watching Kaede be abused.

I'm intrigued and gonna keep reading probably but agreed with all you've said. Kaede is an incredible cutie, unlike everything else. It makes me feel like his cuteness and the pretty art style is like covering up how messed up it all is. Like dropping you a box in the prettiest warping but inside it's all nasty worms. The contrast may just been what keeps me too curious to not come back but still...

spoiler
Wait for the later chapters then you'll understand why he's acting like that. Ren is not the typical jerk seme well he's not a jerk purposely, he has an understanding situation which lead him to be 'unresponsive', 'mean' and etc.

It's not rape it's Kaitaka; a necessary preparation for different species to become mates, the fingering is to help prepare him for the real thing (mating) and the aphrodisiacs are to help relieve him of the pain. The seme is doing this because he is married to the uke and the whole process is a necessary requirement of that, sure he's an ass (attitude-wise) but who wouldn't be after being forced to marry some stranger.

Understandable*
sometimes i can't english

It's sexual assault. The uke was force fed drugs and had fingers shoved up his ass. All without consent. He wasn't even given time to really understand what was happening. And he can not leave. It is more accurate to say that he was sold off rather than to call it a marriage.
Honestly if the seme had givin the uke a minute he probably could have come to terms with what was going on. It is understandable that the seme wouldn't be happy about a forced marriage. Or about the forced sexual contact, even with him being the one penetrating someone else. But in this case, while he still doesn't have full control, the seme has a hell of a lot more control and power than the uke.
His lack of empathy is a major flaw. Made worse by his lack of care after the deed is done.

that's just names and plot stuff the author came up with to explain it Doesn't change it's a violent act, invasive and sexual in nature and Kaede was not down for it

Lack of empathy, that's exactly the term I've been looking for! You are absolutely right, the seme has far more control over the situation than the uke, and what really bothers me is that all of this could have been avoided. If anyone, the seme or literally anyone in the wolf tribe, had bothered to explain the whole kataika thing, explained why it's important and why they do it, explained the drugged alcohol, and then given the uke time to come to terms with it, all Kaede's pain and suffering could have been avoided. Maybe it would still be embarrassing, but at least the uke would have been prepared.
Instead, the seme shows absolutely no empathy for the confused and scared uke, and forces strange, unfamiliar, and incredibly invasive customs on him. And like you said, coupled with the fact that he received absolutely no care afterwards, and that the uke literally cannot leave, it's all just horrible and sad...
Kaede is super tough and stood up for himself a little (sweet bby), but he didn't deserve any of this.

I feel like the relationships in this manhwa have just kind of... disappeared? I mean it's tagged as romance but the recent chapters have all been nothing but a complex political machinations. I still love it, but I'm finding it a little difficult to follow all the different plots and scheming from all the different characters.
I also miss the romance and the spicy scenes. Everything we've been getting is just small snapshots of the relationships. I would like more of the romance to come back please... Maybe I'm just not smart enough, but I'm struggling to keep track of the all the political stuff happening.

So I've worked as a teacher in Korea for two years and let me tell you, if I ever so much as catch a glimpse of a bully treating another student badly, they would get a twenty minute lecture, I would tell their homeroom teacher, the principal, and have his parents called. I have ZERO tolerance for bullying in my classes, so whenever I read stories like this in my brain I'm just like "WHERE IS THE FRIGGIN TEACHER????"
I can only cry and imagine what this scene would look like without the light sabers. Holy hell this chapter was amazingly hot... Please quickly fall in love so we can get more scenes like this!