earth worm says

my heart does hurt for him but I do totally understand FLs point of view. they're not children anymore and she could be in real danger if we didnt already know hes not who people think he is. I mean, look how easy it is for him to restrain her... her caution is so valid. I do just wish he had a real safe space, even if its not her

"I wish I could have you been your parent" is next level codependency theres no fixing that one