NOW IS NOT THE TIME TF YOU MEAN YOU CAN EMBRACE HIM THE MOTHERFUCKER WAS JUST CRYING??? WHY DOES THIS SHIT HAPPEN SO MUCH IN MANGA JUST COMFORT THEM OH MY GOD
!!! exactly !!! it’s actually ridiculous how common this scenario is used in bl manga like wtf happened to just giving someone a shoulder to cry on. ntm that initiating sex with someone who is emotionally distressed can be a bit manipulative. don’t get me wrong this story is overall pretty fluffy and i’ve seen this situation play out in a way more toxic way in other stories but it’s still frustrating.
Fr like is it that hard for yaoi artists to make their characters seem like normal human beings?? Its so weird that someone would see someone going through a hard time and crying and then immediately try to initiate sex, and not even make it seem like a bad thing. but ur right about this turning out to be less toxic than most so it's a little less frustrating in that context
I mean the line of thinking isn't unreasonable. He overheard what was said and knows that he confessed to the dude and could easily infer that he was feeling betrayed and unlovable. Even though I don't think it's what he should've done, it's not that wild. And it's not like that makes them inhuman, I know quite a few people who go out to have sex during hard times since it's it's an outlet. Is it always healthy? No, not always, but them using sex as an outlet doesn't make them any less human? ( ̄∇ ̄")
All I said is that immediately initiating sex after someone is going through a hard time is manipulative. Also like you said, using sex as an outlet/coping method is super unhealthy
and i never said people who do that arent human so I really don't see your point here. Saying he could've easily refused isn't the point, he was upset so he was more easily talked into having sex. All I'm saying is that he literally could've JUST comforted him
Bro, I wrote that shit at like (excuse my french) butt fuck in the morning. I don't even think I really had a point . I think your "normal human" sentence is what I equated to less than human so it probably irked me. And based on my usual thought process and me double checking the shit I was writing about, I definitely did think "That's wild bro" when he asked if he wanted to be embraced by him, but I could still see his line of thinking and where the question came from. So despite it being out of pocket, I could still see how he came to the proposal. Like from my pov I assume it was just he heard bro saying no one wants him and shit and he decided he'd show him he wants him. I don't know if I would personally call it full on manipulation, but my own life may have given me a much more twisted version of manipulation, so what do I know. ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
There are more "tame" versions of manipulation, it doesn't have to be super explicit in the way some people manipulate. But trying to initiate something while someone is upset and they're not thinking straight I would say is a form of it tbh. Also about him showing him that he wants him, he could've done that in a different way imo, like could've straight up told him that he likes him or could've just ignored it and just comforted him and told him later. I just think there's a lot more better ways he could've handled that
I feel like shit and tbh this didn't really help but this is still very awesome and I love it