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It seems like the other thread got deleted (I can’t blame the author though), but I did want to talk with you about the issue of rape in this webtoon based on your comment there. I wanted to ask what your personal definition of consent was before we even start getting into legal definitions. Personally I operate off the FRIES model. Here’s a link explaining it: https://adc.d211.org/cms/lib/IL49000007/Centricity/Domain/328/What%20is%20Consent.pdf

Do you agree? Or disagree? Why or why not?

i would just like to remind everyone that this story in its entirety is a clear depiction AND romanticization of rape and sexual assault. i don’t care that they had an agreement for “sex”. consent is when BOTH parties willingly, ENTHUSIASTICALLY agree to engage with one another. IT CAN BE REVOKED AT ANY TIME. there are so many points dan clearly says NO yet jaekyung continues. other times dan is clearly only engaging with jaekyung our of coercion. THIS IS RAPE. i am so goddamn tired of people not understanding the basic concept of consent.

CONSENT IS ONLY GIVEN WHEN ALL PARTIES GENUINELY WANT TO ENGAGE. CONSENT CAN BE REVOKED AT ANY TIME.
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TW - my own experience (m4m)
about half a year ago i was raped. now, i want people to understand that rape doesn’t immediately mean extremely violent. this rape was “subtle”. i won’t get too detailed about it, but i what i will say is that i really liked this guy before everything happened. we were getting very romantic and eventually went back to his car and things started getting frisky. there was a point where he wanted to have unprotected sex, i said no (nervously, but still no). instead of respecting this, he push me down and penetrated me anyway. telling me “i know you want this”. at the time, i really felt like i did. and physically? i felt good. mentally? i knew i didn’t want it.
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after time away from the situation i realized he had raped me. i tell this story now not for sympathy but because people need to understand consent can be taken back at any time. i took mine back, but this man did not respect it. in fanfiction terms, that was a hot steamy care session. in real life terms, i was assaulted.

so please, take into consideration of what consent is. i’d like to think no one is using jinx as a point of reference, but considering some of the horrendous replies i’ve seen make me question that.


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stay safe and mindful. and thank you to those who read this in it’s entirety