Look at all the victim blaming in the comments.
You say that having a traumatic past is no excuse, but you guys also seem to overlook that at the era of which this story exist, therapy was pretty much fucking non-existent, and the duke probably NEVER had a chance to work through his own trauma. So, yes, I hated him in the beginning too, but his past explains a lot, and I no longer think of him as a bad character.
And don't give me this bullshit about him not caring about Reina in their first life, he did, he just didn't feel like he could show it, since Reina's piece of shit dad told him that he had planted people around her that would kill her if Edhar didn't listen. Considering her father had killed some of Edhar's people before he agreed to marry Reina, I don't think it's weird at all for Edhar to take him seriously.
He is trying to make up for his mistakes, unlike many other ml's in other manwhas' I've read.
Thank you !
Thank you! I got so frustrated seeing people hate on him cause they literally explained WHY he couldn't even seem like he liked Reina.
louder for the people with missing braincells sis
This is always the problem for some. They only see the ML's sufferings but does not see the suffering of other people surrounding the ML. I just cannot.
i can understand why you said so much « in defense « But reasons will never be excuses or justifications
Empathy is all good, but it needs strong discernment
There’s a big difference between understanding the reasons (all good), and accepting the results (not acceptable)
There’s no excuses or justification to child or women abuse, to rape and murder - even if there are probably « reasons » for the one provoking any of these situations
Most abusive people were victims at a point - that’s quite a problem, but home violence are giving scary statistics - so how to end a vicious circle ?
By accepting there are « reasons « , you certainly are on the way to a solution
But, there’s a need for big huge distinction : There’s a big tendency to finding « shared responsibility « to excuse the current violence
Doing so not only does not help, but reinforce the abuser as it « legitimate « the act, so why stop ? It also creates new victims who become « guilty » of their own misery
In reality, two problems are distinct :
- the abuser was a victim (and he/she might need help if he actively wants to change/heal)
- the current victim, most likely is not responsible
-> he/she is absolutely not responsible for the past
-> and most certainly behave in no way that justify the abuse he/she has to endure
-> (some people with a past of abuse can trigger a normal person into abusive behaviors, it’s thankfully very rare) it’s not the case in most stories
When it comes to the current victim, he/she needs care, understanding and protection - he/she doesn’t need accusations or « shared responsibility « on the contrary, she/ he needs to be listened to, so that he can move away from guilt - the violence has to stop, he/she need a safe place to heal, accessible at any time
There are programs for abusers too (some very much like AA, not every therapy is efficient too)
There’s a big possibility that former victim are becoming abuser themselves because deep inside they still are searching for a reason to what happened to them
If this help can be provided sooner, there’s less chance to fall in the same patterns
Blaming the victim certainly won’t bring short term or long term relief
So again, because it’s a very important thing to keep in mind, please make the distinction between reasons, and excuses / justification
You can have reasons for anything, they most likely need to be heard to get over (active listening or modern therapy )
But the reasons seldom are excuses or justification to excess and abuse
That’s it folk :)
Having a good heart is a great thing, so let’s make smart use of it ;)
I'm not excusing his behavior, it was shitty behavior, but as for ways go deal with it, pretty sure they don't have AA meetings either. My point was that while I don't condone what he did, I know understand how it came to be, and I acknowledge his attempt at trying to correct his mistakes :)
You’ve got a sweet heart, that’s super nice ;)
Now that I have calmed down after reading this for a second time (I'm lying, I'm not calm at all), if she survived that crash, she WILL be going to jail. There is NO WAY Doo-Joon will øet this go. And I hope she survived, so she'll live miserably within four walls and NEVER being able to see Doo-Joon again
HOLY SHIT! Is it the pink haired bitch????
WHO TF ELSE
YOU HAVE A FAIR FUCKING POINT THERE
LMFAOOOOAJSJSKSJSK
If you're going to play like that, you have to be able to take the fucking heat when it backfires so spectacularly!
I would like to divert every ML in history's attention to Harry. TAKE NOTES, ML'S, THAT IS HOW YOU ARE A PROPER, FINE MALE LEAD
I know right~
Even tho he's a demon, he's much much better than some so called 'tyrant' ML
soft mls>>>
Mikhail, dude, no, he's not angry with you because SHE broke up with you (you didn't break up with her, stop deluding yourself), he is mad because of the LETTERS you sent, douchebag.
Also, one day there might be some clear communication in this manwha. Like, chapter 257
EXCUSE ME. THAT LONG?
Holy shit ... I was expecting the story to be abt 100+ chaps but this is really long
I was joking!!! I have NO IDEA hoe long this will be, I was being sarcastic
Heeeey, if she has to go to that engagement party because the nobles HAVE to attend, I suggest having the dwarves come, and that she shows that she pulled the Holy Sword out of the ground. I'd say that is some good ol' revenge. "Hellooo, you're trying to hurt me and humiliate me, not that it is working since I don't give a damn about either of you, but lookie here. Holy Sword, mine, now the throne is mine too, right? According to your ancestor, hohohho."
Lmaoo that would be so cool!! Especially since they’re all trynna find the hero who managed to pull out the sword (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
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Oooooh, now it makes sense, from Asher's explanation after that meeting where he took her to that little cottage. His ability is moving, hers is time. Ooooh, I hope we get to see Mielle realizing she's been trying to off someone of royal blood for quite some time. Mielle called Aria vulgar and lowborn, but oh dear, Aria is higher on the social ladder by her father's blood alone
I'm sure they must have heard how she fired the servants in their other household without the duke saying anything. Bold of them to be so frosty towards her
Oooh, someone's about to get SCOLDED!