Can someone help me? It is something related to my personal life. Idk if anyone knows something abt psychology or something. So, I have exams this week and next week, but for some reason, again like the year before- I literally lost all motivation to do any work or get any of the information in my head. Like, I have an exam tomorrow and I feel like I should be stressing but I'm not for some reason, I just feel empty. Also kinda have the urge to just lay in my bed all day and do nothing. Idk if something is wrong with me or smth, but I have Asian parents and they'll legit murder me if I fail, but I still don't care tbh, and I have the feeling that nothing matters anymore. I haven't gone through something horrible or something, it just has been like this the past two years. Any thoughts?
This happened to me before, I realized i lost motivation because i also lost my goal or purpose. I took a course major in finance because i thought I'd be good at it and jobs in finance pays well, however after almost 2 years in I just lost motivation; just getting to study was hard and i didnt care anymore whether i failed the exams or missed any assignments. After some thought i realized it was because I was trying so hard at something that had no end goal or like a purpose to why exactly am i doing what im doing. It was like a "what exactly am i doing this all for?" moment, and of course getting good grades means getting a higher chance of being employed, but that didn't necessarily gave me a goal that i was passionate about or a goal that would make me happy accomplishing. In my situation, finding a goal that I'm passionate abt made me motivated to work hard, which for me was harder than it sounds.
i related to this a lot. during my degree, during and after my 2nd year i started struggling a lot with motivation and finding the will to study for exams, which had never happened to me before. this ended up fucking up my grades a bit which made my mental health even worse as i was used to be a very good student with high grades, and seeing something that didnt quite meet my requirements made me lose even more motivation. it was a vicious cycle. i also started hating my major, or not exactly my major itself but all the other mandatory subjects which made everything even worse. i ended up needed an extra year to finish my degree and it was hard as hell, the only times i could focus were during random bursts of energy at night and i would do my projects and study in an entire night. it was hell honestly.
as someone mentioned above, studying with friends did help, on call on discord or something, specially at night since that's when im more productive i feel like.
my advice is to try to schedule an appointment with your school psychologist if they have one; maybe try studying with your friends on call; if you feel tired during the day try vitamins for students specific for studying - they're very popular during exam season and you can generally get them in any drug story, at least in europe.
also, think if what you're studying is really something you enjoy and see yourself doing; try to set a goal if the answer is yes; if no, see if there would be any chance of changing majors or studying something of your interest after you're done :)
anyway, good luck for your exams!!
I got like this around my exam periods as well. It got so bad when i had to write my theses (yes, multiple) i even had sui thoughts. I talked it over with a psychologist, and they said that i had passive fear of failure (tho from comments, i think your situation is a bit more different then mine. I would also highly suggest to talk to a school counselor or someone from your school).
To motivate myself, I always studied with a study buddy (during the quarantine period, we would videochat). When you make a promise to someone, you "have" to do things. It also motivated me to study when i saw my friend study as well.
It also helps to talk things out with a friend. To have someone listen to your worries and fears and/or even guide you or offer you some kind of advice.
Hope you'll feel better soon and find your motivation back
i probably won't be of much help at all, but i just wanted you to know that happens to so many of us. you're not alone. it's okay, you've got this. you can do this. i have really severe depression and completing my postgrad took almost everything i had in me. but it's over now. you can do this too, you really can.
one thing that helped me a lot was breaking things down into their component parts when making plans. write it all down. highlight the stuff you finish, colour them in, celebrate them. celebrate the tiny achievements. there was also this app with little forests that grow more, the longer you concentrate (the trees die when you switch away from the app window for too long). those little forests kept me going, maybe you might find something similar to be a good motivator too?
good luck, Kuro. you've got this
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