Pros and Cons of having Gay / Bi significant other (crush, MU, etc)
*in my case, i have a bi MU*
Pros: we get to share the same crush sometimes, compliment some random nice ass, a lot of squealing over hot guys that also likes hot guys.
Con: constant worry that they might actually prefer the other side (coz u know theyre hotter than u)
what bout y'all
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9X08dO9ygc&t=11s
so ive seen this dialogue before where one of the smut scene goes the uke rides the seme and his d*ck is kinda tied up then the seme unties it and he squirts and the seme gets a towel or smthn like that
the manga mentioned in the blcd is
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/utsukushii_yasai/
how do u choose what yaoi manga to read:
me:
-if its to my tastes
-if it has sMUT
well err as long as it's in the yaoi or BL tag
art style, tbh
do you want yaoi?
yes I do, yes I do
do you want smut?
yes I do, yes I do
do you want smutty yaoi?
no I don't, YUCKY
if the art is good and it's over 7.5 stars
Completed —A MUST
8.8 rating or above
Historical/deep manga not just love fluff
Kinda not so long cuz I’m bored easily
I used to be like you back then when i first discover bl. But now, i would say I'm more into plot. Doesn't matter whether the drawing sucks or there's no erotic scenes, but as long the plot is interesting, then I'm in.
Oh, but i usually prevent myself from reading a seme pov for no apparent reasons tho ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
things u cannot stand in BL
Heres a list of some of my BL pet peeves:
- Rape (Esp. if it's romanticized and dismissed early on in the story)
- Really feminine bottoms
- Really large age gaps (gosh I hate dropping books after gushing over it for like a good 2 minutes before reading the Q&A section and seeing the 8 year age gap between the pairings. Yuck!)
- Immediate sex (quite biased since I prefer shounen ai more than smut so...)
- Annoying female characters that have 0 personality traits other than to be annoying
- Homophobia (unless written well)
- Weird body anatomy
I probably would add more since I know I'm incredibly picky nowadays when it comes to BL but these are some red flags that make me immediately drop a BL when seen :P
One of the characters claims to be straight and their partner is just an exception
-buttholes too close to balls.
-self lubricating buttholes
-first timer, immediate penetration after 2 fingers preparation
-jumbo elastic nipples
-obvious bottom with obvious spinal arc to signify they are obvious bottom
-“we can’t be together because I am a man, I don’t want to ruin your normal future,”
-“I’ve only kissed you but you’re already this wet,”
-“no,”
-“you say no but your body is saying something else,”
-“it hurts but I’m happy,”
-obvious bottom by obvious smaller dick
-one is a man, one is a twink
Drama over drama stories for one chapter happy together forever. (misunderstanding are the worst)
The usual "we fuck everyday but he's straight so it might be because he hates me"
"you're wet like a girl" No man. This is not a vagina.
When ukes have bigger boobs than my non-existant ones because he's a uke and feel it so hard from his nipples.
"I'm gay only for you."
But the only thing that makes me drop a story is the usual blackmail no other plot drama I realized I love you after you forced your dick into my ass which didn't bleed nor hurt one bit the next day. How do I know this is love ? Because now every time I see you my heart goes *kyun kyun* and I didn't hate the sex that much.
To sum it up: blackmail>rape( for 4 chapters) > sweetly in love for the rest of our life (last chapter). Basically, no plot, just sex, annoying characters, and a waste of time.
hey so ive been reading yaoi since i was 13 and now im 21. i recently just had my first kiss and other unholy experiences which i thought only existed online (jk). since ive experienced the stuff ive been reading, i realized its not that super fucking hot ecstatic tearing jerking pee inducing activity i always thought it was. i think it made me lose the spark i once had whenever i read yaoi since it left a lot to one's imagination. anyway just wondering if anyone else felt the same
Yaoi lost its spark for me but not for the same reason as you. I just found something wayyy better and my standards are super high which is something yaoi can’t get up too.
That's normal. Once you know how anal feels like, how sex in general feels like, when you see the scenes in yaoi, they don't hit the same cause you now know it's not as unfamiliar or exciting as it'd portrayed. A kiss or a make out session all of a sudden are nothing but just something that happens. For me, only super hot art, angst, and unusual places/positions/bdsm can somewhat ignite the spark. I'm a dom in my relationship (only during sex) so it's extra fun to read
that is why it is important to separate fiction from reality. and to keep expectations low lmao.
there once was a saying where I come from (a03). "Virgin authors write the best sex scenes". I plan to stay virgin for the exact reason, so sex will always stay a fantasy for me, teehee