Saying "I want to marry and have a family with you" is so unclear, that does not count as planing a life, my guy. Is she wants to use birth control that's her choice. If you really want to have children you need to sit and talk like adults without pressures. He is just trying to trap her. You just don't stop birth control over some shallow plans. I insist: "I want to marry and have a family with you" is not a proper discussion nor a reason to stop using birth control. Maybe he is a failed comic artist and is trying to live his dream through her.