This may be a slightly less popular opinion but I will give my 2cents as a queer man. If we are talking yaoi specifically : There is always something fetishistic about smut. Shounen ai? Generally less sex focused, so there is a less of that in my experience. And yeah you can argue that "its written by fujos who get off to gay porn and fetishize gay......
LMAO might be a lil late to answer but thrs no right or wrong way to give a bj so don't worry too much yea? but my guy fwb he likes it when I do certain things like when we first start the bj, hold his thing w one hand n lick up n down the *cough* shaft *cough*, u can like use ur other hand to like run it up n down his thigh a lil, not too much st......
The top always being taller and the bottom always being shorter. And not necessarily the trope itself, but more the fact that it's the standard. I hate bl authors and their heteronormative bs. I finally get a good tall bottom x short top but freaks in the comments complain "ohhh I wanted him to be the toppp" YOU ONLY WANT THAT BECAUSE HE'S THE TAL......
Is reading BL bad? Does it fetishize gay men?