I read a lot of wlw and mlm because a lot of th mlw things is like this. Either oversized / fetishised female parts or harem
Yaoi IS fetish content, so is Yuri. Bara which is made by gay men for gay men? Also filled with fetish content just more muscular with more hair. Lgbt stories is just like straight stories, it's fantasy romance/sex. Not only that wtf are we looking at cartoons and expect realism? Don't even look at real people porn for realism. Don't look at ANY media expecting 100% realism. Not only that it's only the women you are complaining about when it comes to realism. What about the men? I mean there's even a whole term called "yaoi hands".
Bros just so cute