That sentence hit hard!!!! I was also in that same situation where I gave up on myself to be with my ex "so things can work" and in those 5 years I truly lost myself for our relationship. The last straw was when he left me alone for 3 days when I was having a hard time and in his words "to get your shit together" I was so hurt that I didn't even cry but physically felt my heart ache and my soul detaching from my body.
This dude cheated on me and always breaks up with me when he's emotionally unstable in pretext of he never really know how/felt real love because of his upbringing and I was stupid enough to be determined to make him feel all the love that he deserved.
So I took those days while he was gone to decide if I should end things with him permanently and I did.
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We have a same birthday ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~