blueberok July 28, 2018 3:27 am

Met this guy irl (he's actually working for an NPO) he knows anime and we had some commons interests but I have no friends and no social life so I don't know how to interact. He texted me this morning and I have no idea how to answer, how to befriend, and if I'm just being scammed (are dudes working for non-profit organisation really going far enough to meet people in cafés and stuff?)

I would really like a friend and the guy just seemed real nice. For someone afraid to talk to strangers we had quite a long conversation and I never felt anxious talking. I'm just anxious about the next steps to knowing someone.

    Night July 28, 2018 3:33 am

    ff

    okayreiji July 28, 2018 3:34 am

    Cliché, but when talking, just be yourself. When you see him next, do a friendly greeting and maybe bring up your common interests? I get very anxious about these things as well (if you do too, the “as well” part makes sense right). Light conversation works well first off. Just make sure to smile when talking, if you do he’ll feel more welcomed and less intimidated, and look him in the eyes, but not too much. Good luck.

    Lord Bread July 28, 2018 3:40 am

    I normally do weird stuff; I once twerked a light post.
    So good luck.

    Wayfinder July 28, 2018 3:42 am

    Hey there! I also have no social life and trouble with this stuff too lol I’m not sure what he texted you this morning, but usually I find that asking the person questions about his/herself really helps. It can keep the conversation going and it can give you the opportunity not to worry over what to say next. Then of course, the other person can ask you questions about yourself. So you said he knows some anime/has common interests, so maybe ask some more questions relating to that. Personally, I don’t think it sounds like he’s scamming you. If you meet him out at a cafe or something like that, you can make small talk at the start and then gear the conversation towards common interests or maybe even something new you would like to learn about him. Getting to know someone is really all about connecting with a person in different aspects or areas and learning about them in whatever way works :) Sorry if this doesn’t help at all xD just the ideas that came to mind. I hope it all works out for you!

    blueberok July 28, 2018 3:49 am

    You're right I usually get anxious. And yea Lord Bread I do weird stuff as well (too used to the weird part of the internet) so I guess it adds up to the anxiousness. Also he just texted : Hello this is Patrick (no pun it's his name) with Lil smiley. So it's weird to just answer hello?

    Zeffyra July 28, 2018 3:51 am

    guy: hi...
    you: happy birthday?

    Wayfinder July 28, 2018 3:52 am
    You're right I usually get anxious. And yea Lord Bread I do weird stuff as well (too used to the weird part of the internet) so I guess it adds up to the anxiousness. Also he just texted : Hello this is Patrick... blueberok

    Well if he said hi, you can say “hey” and ask what’s up or ask how he is :)

    Little July 28, 2018 3:56 am
    guy: hi...you: happy birthday? Zeffyra

    Waiter/waitress: Enjoy your food!
    Me: you too!
    Waiter/ waitress: ....
    Me: ....

    blueberok July 28, 2018 3:58 am

    Zeffyra you totally summed up what I do under anxiety (≧∀≦) I'm the kind to answer to "paper bag or plastic bag?" with "yes"... Online I write a bit better just cause it's not as weird as lot of other stuff online...

    okayreiji July 28, 2018 4:01 am
    You're right I usually get anxious. And yea Lord Bread I do weird stuff as well (too used to the weird part of the internet) so I guess it adds up to the anxiousness. Also he just texted : Hello this is Patrick... blueberok

    I say reply with hello/hi, but with a little something extra. So if he wants to talk, he can make a branch topic.

    Little July 28, 2018 4:41 am

    Just answer back like>> Hello! How was your day??/how r u?
    And then maybe try and start a conversation about anime/manga or just about life.. im not very social.. so i cant help that much... but i do talk alot on the internet.. so whenever someone says hi to me i will say " Hey! How r u? "
    ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭

    Night July 28, 2018 5:02 am
    Waiter/waitress: Enjoy your food!Me: you too! Waiter/ waitress: ....Me: .... Little

    Me: *Opens door for people*
    - after 2+ minutes of holding the door for a wave of people -
    Stranger: I can get that *grabs door*
    Me: *looks at their arm which is blatantly blocking my path*
    Me: Thanks *Limbos under arm and doesn't look back*

    Little July 28, 2018 5:38 am
    Me: *Opens door for people*- after 2+ minutes of holding the door for a wave of people -Stranger: I can get that *grabs door*Me: *looks at their arm which is blatantly blocking my path*Me: Thanks *Limbos under ... Night

    Me: *Finishes coke*
    Waiter/waitress: Would you like another look??
    Me: *doesnt hear them and looks down* oh.. uhhhh...
    Waiter/waitress: ....
    Sister: Do you want another coke? yes or no?
    Me: OH! UH YES! PLEASE.
    Me: *feels dumb and embarrassed*

    Little July 28, 2018 5:38 am
    Me: *Finishes coke*Waiter/waitress: Would you like another look??Me: *doesnt hear them and looks down* oh.. uhhhh...Waiter/waitress: ....Sister: Do you want another coke? yes or no? Me: OH! UH YES! PLEASE. Me: ... Little

    would you like another coke?))

    Zeffyra July 28, 2018 5:46 am
    Zeffyra you totally summed up what I do under anxiety (≧∀≦) I'm the kind to answer to "paper bag or plastic bag?" with "yes"... Online I write a bit better just cause it's not as weird as lot of other stu... blueberok

    been there... hahahah...
    guy: hi...
    you: happy birthday?
    ...if the guy catches that awkwardness and adds humor to it... wrap and tie that guy up... he's the one for u....

    Night July 28, 2018 7:27 pm
    would you like another coke?)) Little

    Waiter/Waitress: How would you like your eggs - sunny side up or over easy?
    Me: Uh... whichever one means that it's cooked.
    Waiter/Waitress: They both are.
    Me: Oh.

    Little July 28, 2018 7:37 pm
    Waiter/Waitress: How would you like your eggs - sunny side up or over easy?Me: Uh... whichever one means that it's cooked.Waiter/Waitress: They both are.Me: Oh. Night

    Waiter/waitress: What can i get you to eat?? *looks at me*
    Me: *stares at waiter/waitress while in just being in space*
    Waiter/waitress: .........
    Me: OH! UMM....... *orders something*

    Little July 28, 2018 9:36 pm
    Waiter/waitress: What can i get you to eat?? *looks at me*Me: *stares at waiter/waitress while in just being in space*Waiter/waitress: ......... Me: OH! UMM....... *orders something* Little

    while im))

blueberok April 22, 2018 2:29 am

the dude fell in love with a geek but the geek hates him at first. then the geek realise the person he texts and find cute in mannerism is the litt. guy he hates. then they go out. it's a very cute story and i just forgot the name of it T.T so can't find it

blueberok March 7, 2018 7:50 am

many volumes, it's about a whole family (4 brothers). one story is a dude marring the sole sister of the family in order to go live (with his adopted son) in the same house. he is an author and the guy he's after is his editor. another story is the adopted son with one of the brother. the brother is the youngest and is very cute and the adopted son is a delinquant. other story, about the second brother, his place in the household was taken by the author, he gets depressed, and ends up with a flower shop owner, a friend of the sister. *we actually never see the sister* I can remember so much but not the names of characters T.T I even remember one of the volumes art so i tried finding it but i suck at searches. I did 21 pages of the 130 pages of yaoi mangas and I'm still trying. plz help

blueberok September 18, 2017 3:23 am

Not really related to mangas, but I am planning on visiting japan next year and I thought learning japanese would make it easier but also... losing weight. Since only about 4% of the population in japan is overweight I didn't wanna be the foreigner and fat person T.T (I don't like exposure much) so my question is, for days where one does nothing but read manga and play games (aka not moving besides going to the fridge) what should one eat? normal meals? or lessened ones?

    Chichi-chan September 18, 2017 3:33 am

    Lessened, since you're not really burning anything.

    ebjean September 18, 2017 3:38 am

    If you're literally just sitting or laying around all day, 1200-1400 calories spread out in multiple small balanced meals is appropriate.

    ebjean September 18, 2017 3:40 am

    Though, really, it would be better if you threw in at least some light activity. Even going for a walk. Even if you aren't taking in more calories than you're using, extreme inactivity is still bad for you. It messes with all of your systems.

    Anonymous September 18, 2017 4:16 am

    At least do some light stretches and exercises. Drink a lot of water and eat more fiber. Avoid junk food.

    blueberok September 18, 2017 4:19 am

    It wasn't technically a manga question so thanks for the replies. I didn't think about extreme inactivity being a problem so I'll consider doing stuff besides lazying around on these days.

    Mesperi September 18, 2017 4:59 am

    it doesn't matter about the calorie intake, as long as you burn more than you consume. If you don't exercise a lot, then eat more healthy food that have less calories and more fibers and proteins

    Mesperi September 18, 2017 4:59 am
    it doesn't matter about the calorie intake, as long as you burn more than you consume. If you don't exercise a lot, then eat more healthy food that have less calories and more fibers and proteins Mesperi

    oh I just realized how late my comment was

    Yuri Katsuki September 18, 2017 5:26 am

    we should become friends lol because I might be visiting japan next year too. Also, for personal reasons but i am in the process of losing weight. Look how that works out?? lol

    blueberok September 18, 2017 8:41 pm

    Late or not it adds info so it's nice to see your comment :) And yea i'm also losing weight for personal reasons, just that japan gave me a set date for some progress so it helped motivate me... otherwise each time I see some meals or such in a manga I just wanna eat because it always looks sooo good ლ(´ڡ`ლ) but I have to be careful since I read manga everyday, sukiyaki, ramen and such aren't exactly healthy food...

blueberok April 28, 2017 3:12 am

It's actually more like talking to them via a dating app because I've been far too lonely. But I have no idea what a relationship is and a family member told me that I don't know love and don't have basic human emotions. So I'm having second thoughts about a relationship.

But I met this person... we play online games and he doesn't push me to voice-call (I hate that) and is very nice. I do think highly of them but I wonder if I really can make them happy? Being so shy, anxious and not knowing my feelings?

Shoutout to anyone who answers, you're awesome cuz this can't even be answered easily. thanks (=・ω・=)

    Sparkly Muffin April 28, 2017 3:36 am

    I say go for it. The potential seems to be there. It would be a shame to lose a possible relationship out of fear. Even if it doesn't work out, every experience a person has builds who they are, the effort may be worth it in itself.


    ...now if only I could take my own advice...

    Sparkly Muffin April 28, 2017 3:37 am

    Hope that helps....

    My opinion April 28, 2017 3:58 am

    Honestly, I think you should do it. Even if you are shy, anxious, and unsure of your feelings, I think it is better to try than to regret not having a relationship with them. I think that the family member who told you those things was being really harsh on you. The way to learn more about relationships and emotions is to have someone to experience them with. And if you are normally a shy person and found someone who makes you feel comfortable and who you have a high opinion of, then they might be the right person for you to begin exploring those feelings with!

    I am speaking from experience as someone whose online relationship did not work out, partly due to feelings of anxiety and low self-esteem. My advice would be to not let any negative feelings hold you back, because if you hold back, you may end up regretting it in the future. On the other hand - I think it's important to have confidence in yourself as well. People can come in and out of your life easily... that's why I think it would be good to be in a relationship with this person while you still have the chance. However, I don't think all of your happiness should depend on them, and it's for that same reason. Try a relationship with them, but don't beat yourself up if things don't work out. At least you can say you tried, and that already is a step forward. But I really hope things work out for you somehow and that being in a relationship with this person ends up being good for you. Best of luck.

    blueberok April 28, 2017 1:21 pm

    Thanks a lot, I had never been into a relationship before so I was scared because of that too. I guess I should try it even if I don't know the outcome... because it can't entirely be bad? And it would be a step forward, that is true. Better then being alone in front of pc all the time... Thank you guys a lot, your advice does help :)

blueberok January 27, 2017 2:26 am

Is there any manga with an inter-racial couple? Could be shojo, could be yaoi or yuri, I like any genre, as long as the story is interesting! ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~

    tokidoki January 27, 2017 2:29 am

    Under Grand Hotel - Yaoi

    MrsHatake January 27, 2017 2:40 am

    Mother's spirit

    KyoZaNa✿ January 27, 2017 3:26 am

    Check it out. It mixes with historical theme but you should can tell review & cover.
    http://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/224/

    yup January 27, 2017 3:36 am
    Under Grand Hotel - Yaoi tokidoki

    thats an excellent choice read it several times

    blueberok January 27, 2017 5:33 am

    yea under grand hotel definitivly was a great read! i kinda like they the end wasn't a sad one too :) any other recommendation? (other inter-racial or like UGH)

blueberok September 10, 2016 11:37 pm

I like the kind of mangas where you see someone who's impotent, so that he doesn't usually think about sex or such but then they taste love and have an amazing relationship!! (not without hardships tho) I find it cute ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~

blueberok August 25, 2015 1:48 am

It's about 4 brothers and 1 sister that never appears in the story. for the first brother, his editor (and old friend from school) got supposedly married to the sister and comes to live in the house with a son. For another brother, he fell in love with a guy who was in the same gang as the sister but now works at a flower shop. The other brother (very cute) fell in love with the adoptive son of the editor/friend/lover of the first brother. And the last one is a stupid muscular but very kind guy who hasn't fallen in love with anyone yet.

If someone could help me find it again I would be very happy. I can't believe I remember most of the story but not the name of it, it makes me so sad. (/TДT)/

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