Sooo I don’t really have a question, but I think some people may also need to hear this.
So for context: I had therapy yesterday again and my psychiatrist told me smth I usually know but hearing it from a real life person hit me differently.
“It’s not your fault, you were a kid and needed support yourself” had me almost crying tbh.
Also continuing to think of it, it’s seriously so logical, how is a kid supposed to act like an adult, when biologically everything inside you screams “children”? How in fact did I personally even manage that to be so mature and parent-like, even manage school when I was a literal kid??
Well everything is hitting me now and I don’t feel like almost 21, but as if I was 16. So all in all I guess it’s okay to be immature and childish, when you didn’t had the opportunity to be a kid.
Idk maybe whatever I just said was able to make someone feel less miserable for a second. May yall have a great week and y’all’s pillow be always cold on both sides <3
I feel like often times when growing up in an unhealthy or traumatic environment you just slowly start cutting out the part of your personality that makes us children. ( this is so tmi on my end lol sorry ) but growing up in a single parent household after my dad past. As the oldest I cut out all of my wants putting myself on the back burner and “ maturing “ by working odd jobs at 12 and all throughout school . There was so many things I wanted to do with my money but I put my wants to the side and became an adult . My therapist says it’s a natural thing to do when I’ve been in a situation where my needs haven’t been met because I put others before my own mental health.
I only just realized once I got my own home and started doing things with my bf that I never did growing up . ( sorry again for the random over sharing ; )
Real! Gotta be honest, you even could say “yeah it’s your parents first life as well” well yeah, doesn’t mean she has a right to ruin the first two decades of mine? (Not only my mom but we get it)
I genuinely don’t like those “Aww I saw some symptoms of XY on TikTok, now I have said XY” like get a fucking job or find a therapist/doc who diagnose XY.
But I also feel like certain self diagnoses are valid, like if u spend A LOT of time researching and got deeeep into the topi, I feel like it can be better than a “professional” diagnosie.
Like I am suspecting myself of ADHD (also got a confusing diagnose (the neurologist was not good) ) but I am also suspecting myself of autism, but I don’t want anyone to go and say “blah blah u don’t have a diagnose so it does not count” like I am waiting for my appointment to be diagnosed.
Lmao sorry for oversharing
self diagnosing can sometimes be helpful to truly understand the way you react or comprehend things. it is completely normal to relate to some of the symptoms. all we want is to understand the root of these actions, right? but i absolutely detest when people pick out a symptom then make the disorder their entire personality. instead of figuring out the reason for their behavior, they completely ignore the core and expect everyone to be okay with the way they act, no questions asked. it is good to inform people about the reasoning for the behavior (the reasoning being the core of the symptom) but there is a fine line between that and telling people about the behavior and expect them to just be okay with the sh!tty treatment. thats ehy many are usually against people who self diagnose. however, this is a multi-dimensional topic. getting a diagnosis based on mental health is unfortunately a luxury many can't reach. it takes time, money and a lot of effort. it is goof to go to the therapist informed, that usually saves time but the mental disorder you are informed about isn't always the diagnosis since many of the symptoms are intertwined. i really hope your session with your therapist goes well, all the best!!
i might've yapped a little to hard unfortunately but this is something i have been wanting to talk about since i suffered through a bad friendship because of the "i have these symptoms so yall need to keep up im not changing" mentality ://
You should take this test https://embrace-autism.com/raads-r/. It’s not a diagnosis, but it helps gauge where you might be on the spectrum. Autism/Adhd can be difficult to get diagnosed (especially if you are a woman), so make sure to bring up what you feel like you can relate to your therapist so they can do an assessment. Good luck!
Already made the one, had a 167score but thank u sweetheart
NOO I am so glad u yapped so much about it and I am so with u atp. Like anytime I talk with someone about adhd and tism I say it’s an assumption and I am waiting for my appointment (I basically have to wait for 10months but I am not mad)
I feel like explaining and saying “Yeah I think I got XY but not sure” or saying “this and that action comes down this and that situation in my past” is a way to let people know, but should never be an excuse. Like we would NEVER let a murdere call innocent for their reason, the reason is just an indicator of how bad the punishment will be.
I am sorry you had to experience such a shitty friendship and I am glad you got rid of it (at least I hope so)
EXACTLY!! Self awareness is a bliss, and i am so glad that you have the same mindset!!
And thank you, I got rid of her a long time ago and I have never been happier.
That’s good, I am glad you’re happier now
Maybe I am on my period and super soft, so please whatever hand you’re into or show or whatever u like show, gimme your favourite pookie photo or tell me smth that made u massively soft
As from my profile pic, I really love natsume yuujinchou/natsume's book of friends. For me, I think the art style + the storyline is soft, warm and cozy (a little bit sad) that makes me feel like I'm under the blanket while there's a storm outside.
No this is so sweet =( <3 maybe I will take a look into it
I feel bad today so tell me what makes u happy, send me cute photos or funny memes and tell me what actually inspires you what makes you happy.
Thank u<3
Are u saying there is nothing?
No. There seems to be a glitch in the matrix. I put a bunch of emojies and said that those were the things that I liked, but it seems that nothing went through.
I like cats and Ice-cream. I like reading and listening to music. I like being left alone and praised for my intelligence. I like wandering through life doing whatever I want and not minding what others think. I like to think, to dream, and to imaginate. Those are some of the things that make me happy.
Aww this is really great to hear, it’s really relatable actually
I'm glad that you enjoyed it, and I hope that this silly little comment made your day at least a tiny bit better.
It actually did thank you
I need to read smth new, I mainly read BL/Yaoi, big buff ukes, age gap (don’t u dare to recommend me smth with minors) and idk surprise me. Gimme your favourite Manga/Mahnwa/Mahnua + reason
Literally one of my top favorites (gonna have to read it on another site like mangabuddy) https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/love_for_sale_1/
Buff uke
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/love_me_doctor/
They’re both age gap with buff uke s.
Oh shoot you asked for reason,
For the first one it’s because the story and characters were very well written and goes through a wonderful psychological element in their relationship and character build! Also because older men are hot and glasses are hot and buff uke and just good overall.
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/a_thousand_cranes/
Reason- everything about this story is just perfection, i have lost count of how many times i have reread it
Yeah this one’s really good backing this up
Full Volume: buff, younger uke is a camboy. his neighbour realises who he is. read it a while ago, so i dont remember much, but surprisingly cute and wholesome as it goes on.
Love Tractor: love interest is another, buffer and much bigger, much younger uke. this was as adorable is gets. mc goes to the country just to housesit, not only finds himself, but also love.
Take Off (can read on webtoon): age gap, bigger younger guy. i loooove the premise. they are flight seatmates, off to a sour start, then eventually start talking, and well, you know.
Shutline (my #1 favourite): buff uke. peak dynamic between the two mcs, who're trying to navigate being involved in the drug/crime world (trying not to spoil too much). uke actually responds/reciprocates well during sex, and praises seme. passionate, juicy toxicity but in a way that's necessary to the narrative and the setting of the plot. obsessed with each other but they don't know it.
FULL VOLUME IS MY FAV I love you for recommending my baby
Thank you
I will Read it thx
Thank you
Isn’t it hilarious how we all have our own life like- one of us could be a scientist, Lawyer, student, basically in their mid 70s and we all just kinda brain rotting here on an illegal website reading either the most fucked up shit or comics, Mangas etc were too broke to pay for?
I have money but I ain't wasting it on sht I might drop.
But what ur saying is true and scary
literally cus what if i spend like 10 quid on sm and it has a rape scene or sum shit that turns me off an im like uuurgh spent a tenner on thiiiiis
Exactly
Exactly
This is so real! Actually I came to the point of reading it here and as soon as I have money I will buy the ones I liked (also when I get my first win flat, can’t let my fam see the stuff I read)
Valid