Otakuolymp's Questions (2)

Can’t you gaslight her? Maybe pretend as if you find it weird too and wanted to prank her?

I agree gaslight her and pretend to be unbothered

i don't think i can say its a prank or something like our conversation went that way.......i guess i will just pretend unbothered by that ( ･﹏･) And i never said something like that

I have this dear sister of mine who used to read bl and even worse bl than what I read and now she kinda hate it so much that whenever she talks to me she asks with disgust in her face : are you still reading that shit ?! You know I like it so if someone hates on you bc of your preferences then they are just immature and ignorant. What you can do is actually defend yourself and confront her, do as I do I just say that I find my comfort in those works so if she can find me smth better I'm all ears.

sry to hear that...fr she so immature but she is like 20.....uk what im afraid of that she gonna tell her mother worse

Noooo! Im so sorry you experienced that! Honestly I’ve wanted to tell my cousin too but she will for sure judge me I already know it lol. I don’t know what you should do but I’ll be your online cousin! Also it’s totally okay that you read that. Everyone has things they read or watch for comfort or entertainment. You just happen to mesh well and like this. It’s not a bad thing.

Girll Thanks for understanding ...I really wanted to share things with her what i like....so i went overboard.....now regarding so muchh...... Girll i loveee yaoii..its a mental peace for me....

I get it! It makes me sane after a long day! And yeah it’s nice to share interests. Too bad that our families just don’t get it.

ya fr ┗( T﹏T )┛

I’m open to all but it’s totally up to the reader and their preferences! So you go girl get that yaoiii~~~

Agree

nah, you're not the only one ^^ I go through phases, so I started with shounen, shoujo seemed boring, so when I discovered yaoi, I was reading only yaoi for months if not years ;) until it became boring, because I've read most of the tropes available, so then I found some interesting shoujo and josei, then I went into shounen isekai, then villainess and romance isekai and now I'm in general isekai/time reversal/transmigration area :P

Same with me. I just feel like straight romances when it comes to manga and webtoons don't have nearly enough options. Like bland, either super sexist, or boring plot. There are a couple that are great. But I feel like BL just has so many more heartfelt stories. I personally feel like BL is just shoujo 2.0. But I mean there are also some BL that have just as many issues. You aren't alone though. BL for life (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

Yaoi evolution, we learn and adapt the beauty of life

Exactly! Bl is the Grace from above I find the stories that vary from heart wrenching to pure fluff overload.
That being said I agree straight romance lack and I desperately need more that actually hit
But I be picky soooo

You hit the nail on the coffin with this one ! I went thru the same and now I’m back to yaoi but now instead of just it being purely yaoi IM OPEN TO ALLL~~~!!!
I’m curious what’s your #1 like top fav you’ve read and are currently reading ?

If you are straight woman, and you ONLY read BL, it’s weird, not gonna lie. Idk how some of you stick to one genre I would get bored.

for straight romance, you can see my list :) some are for shits and giggles, some are absolutely stunning - a variety for different moods, but all are worth reading ^^
https://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/2948457/

...its mental illness at some point if your entire personality as a bl reader is "i dont like straight stories"

Some are more adaptable to other stuff ig just like how it may bore you it’s another one’s drug

I’m gonna eat this uppppp :p

I don’t see the issue since it’s what they read and are into

I’m kind of the same, but I’m different from the rest of you because when I say this, I mean heaven officials blessing I have never read a straight romance anything like it or as good as it.

I have never been the same after discovering heaven official’s blessing

Nobody should be judging anyone here. We all have preferences. Some people will only read Shounen, some only shoujo. I read everything but BL is my go to 90% of the time. I mean this website is a godsend for having such an amazing selection. And obviously most of us here are BL lovers I mean have you not seen the home page? BL takes over the majority of this site. Half a year ago I started branching off from BL to more of straight reincarnation and isekai webtoons. But recently they haven't been satisfying me and now I'm right back to BL which never gets old.

You speak of peak ? I applaud you

No one has…we walk this lonely road the only road that have ever knownnnn```

PREACHHH PREACHHHHH

Tbh if you're that into the genre there is no way that you're not in some way conflicted about your gender and/or sex. Like it won't be long until you start working out that you're one of the letters in the LGBTQ lmao.

I don't understand what one has to do with the other. I was solely into yaoi for a long time, but never had any gender or identity crisis. I just found reading yaoi more enjoyable due to more complicated settings, inner conflicts, and social conventions to think about. They are just more intriguing than straight romance. Plus I get to look at some fine men, so double the fun ლ(´ڡ`ლ) The only reason I'm not reading as much yaoi as I used to is that I already read so much, that rarely something feels novel, but I still enjoy it if some new and exiting yaoi comes out. I'm very much a fujoshi and - just as much - just a normal woman.

yaoi is targeted towards straight girls so it’s not weird lol?? And I totally understand not liking straight stories after reading yaoi because idk some of them don’t hit the same as yaoi but of course I’m sure if you keep looking there’s definitely straight stories you will like too (same goes for any genre tbh). And the people judging people for exclusively only read yaoi is ridiculous, everyone have preferences?? Like personally i pretty much only read manhwa bls HOWEVER in the past I read like anything and everything but now I’ve realized manhwa bls is just what I prefer to read. But am I going to judge manga or Manhua readers? NO of course not LOL. Same goes for straight stories, every once in a while I find one I like even if I don’t read it often. So yuhhh this website is my holy grail as a proud bl reader (●'◡'●)ﾉ

It might be targeted towards straight women, but it’s still about gay men and you’re consuming only gay porn is in fact weird because at a certain point you’re just fetishize gay and if that’s the only thing you can consume of course.

I guess my prev reply didn't save... So why are you so sure, that liking yaoi that much has anything to do with a person's gender identity? I've read exclusively yaoi for a very long time, but never had any doubts about being straight. The main reason I got into yaoi so much is because it's more intriguing than straight romance. There's internal conflict, social conventions to take into account, finding yourself... It's a lot more complicated than most shoujos. Now I have a wider range of manga I read, because well there's only that much yaoi one can read before it gets repetitive. I still read yaoi if I find something new and interesting.

yuhh of course

yeah, there are ppl like that, but assuming all yaoi is just gay porn and all ppl reading only yaoi must be fetishizing gay? that's just absurd... yes, yaoi mostly do have sex scenes, but to simplify ppl tend call all man x man yaoi, even though technically there is a distinction of shounen-ai vs yaoi :) basically yaoi is shounen-ai + sex soooo maybe read some shounen-ai?

Nah just like attractive men. Unfortunately we don't see men showing that they feel good during xxx during straight manga. They tend to be super straight faced. In BL its like all the emotion has been unleashed

good point! love to see some fine men show emotions and vulnerability!

Nah I just like hot men. Especially when they actually show emotions toward someone. Straight manga they tend to be super straight faced and rarely show when they are feeling good. The most emotion we normally see is possessiveness. BL is a all rounder. If u want to know how men are feeling in the manga, choose BL. Cuz straight don't give you nothing. Whether it be love, sex, or conflict. And yes typically it's a female author. Well that's why we enjoy it so much, because we are shown what we want to see. Hot men with emotions lol

In your case it might also just be that you just didn't read anything good in any other genre yet. Like anything else just wasn't able to stick with you yet. You feel compelled to stick to Yaoi because you enjoy it and it's easy and plentily available.
I'm the same with shoujo, I like to just read shoujo slop for the most part and for a long, long time I only did that. Until I found content within other genres that I enjoyed. We were all born trash goblins, but we can evolve to like other trash too.
Mind that I'm using insults like trash in a loving selfaware way.
(I'm still convinced it's either this or you not being totally straight or aware of your preferences tho lmao)

Nope just a girl with super high standards when it comes to men, because fiction has made it impossible for me to find a man better than what I've read. I like the genre because it has great plot and hot men

its more on the genre tbh. i can find many genres on yaoi. but straight? its all filled with isekai rofan, sometimes i just wouldnt be bothered to explore more

I’m not assuming I literally read BL if you didn’t even notice my pfp but if you’re only actively reading BL and nothing else you are straight, it is fetishization at a certain point because why do you refuse to read any other media unless if it’s two men

I'm so sorry I'm just over here thinking that you haven't found anything with that level of emotional depth yet. Kinda does play into my point how Yaoi is very easily available tho. Like, you are comfy with it, know what you're getting into, so you indulge naturally. What's weird is when it's the only thing you ever read >constantly<. That's where it gets questionable for me. Otherwise, who cares we all have our own beloved, yummy slop.

It certainly is true tho, men in BL are generally written with more emotion.

At the time I read only yaoi, because the stories had more emotional depth and showed a world that was completely new to me, it broadened my horizons and my view on the world. It was much more than "does he/she like me or not? uwu". Of course since yaoi was so intriguing I also tried reading yuri, but it felt more shallow, maybe because yuri is more targeted to men... Either way for a year or two I've read practically only yaoi. And you know why it's not fetishization? Because I'm not a dumb teen, I'm an adult, I know that there are those things... what do you call it... oh! "fiction" and "reality" *ba dum tss* I can only assume that you are either very young or not the brightest one, if you can't understand, that people can like something for a long time without obsessing over it and making weird scenarios in their heads.

Hun, I've read my fair share of many genres. I had my yaoi-only phase for a long time, and after I've read every possible trope there is, I've read something else. Why do you assume, that I haven't read anything else? ;) We're all goblins here gobbling up all the good stuff. What I'm saying is: even in my yaoi-only phase it was always only a good story to me, I've always liked reading books. It doesn't have to be that deep of a "you're reading this, because you identify with it". Sometimes it's just "I read it because I enjoy the story it tells", and sometimes it's "I wanna see some hot guys" ;)

btw I already had a boyfriend at that time, who is now my husband, in total now 18 years together, so I'm pretty damn sure I'm straight (≧∀≦)

I kind of got your point but gl is not targeted towards men 90% of them are written by women for women so I don’t know where you got this information or what you read. It is in fact fetishization if you only consume yaoi because again why do you only consume media when it’s only about two gay men.

You are very obstinate in claiming that reading only yaoi must mean fetishization. You know, that most people are not extreme in their interests. Reading one manga a month and it being only yaoi also counts as reading only yaoi, but doesn't seem in any way wrong - just a person enjoying some yaoi from time to time - even if they don't read any other genre of manga. I get that there are some who fetishize gay ppl because of yaoi, but I think that what you are talking about is not only reading yaoi, but being obsessed with yaoi. Any kind of obsession is not healthy, but being interested in only one genre is nothing bad. By your logic reading only shoujo is fetishizing straight ppl - doesn't make sense, does it?

The original question was about yk, reading only yaoi. You are here, so yea I assumed that. I specified in my later comment that I'm specifically talking about people who only ever read yaoi. Emphasis on only ever.
I should've specified that it doesn't have to be about being gay or trans either. It's also about being into things outside a conventional hetero relationship, about curiousity. You just might bend away from what society dictates to be a normal image of gender, preference and sex. That's the kinder explanation anyway. We all have a bit of gay in us, and perhaps that's what makes Yaoi so compelling to a lot of women who feel tied down to those given norms.

I don't doubt that you read for enjoyment only but when it gets to a certain quantity it's like, there is def some of that in you more than it is in other people.
Bro at this point I'm just trying to get to the root of why tf fujoshis even exist, I'm not even mad. Btw I'm high af rn.

(☆▽☆)omggg girll ur right!! I thought the same way!!( ꈍᴗꈍ) I think im good then !hehwhehhw

( ° ʖ°)ᕤ yayy girll!

I know that right! i read few straight mangas but didn't found any story with a good plot:- So When i tried bl......Girlll I found so many good ones >.< Now im addic to yaoi mnaga or any bl movies and bl anime tho ,╣[-_-]╠

I don't know why its weird tho .....even tho i don't like yuri...cause I don't find it interesting so....what it makes me then?¯_༼ ಥ ‿ ಥ ༽_/¯

Yea, I get you. I'm here because there *was* a long time in my life, when I only read yaoi. My point being: just because you only read yaoi right now, doesn't mean you'll read only yaoi forever. Just because you found something that interests you and you're digging deep into it, doesn't mean that you're doing that for some deep reason or because you're feeling a deeper connection to it on a spiritual level.

Just out here for the young-uns that are susceptible to what others tell them. Just because you read a lot of yaoi DOESN'T mean that deep down you're a LGBTQ+ person in denial. If you enjoy it - read it, no need to over-analyse it :) If you feel the need to over-analyse it, then maybe you're onto something, but don't force yourself to do it only because others tell you so.

Good discussion to have after a joint ε=ε=(ノ≧∇≦)ノ

I don't see that weird at all everyone is entitled to their likes and dislikes so if you find bl more interesting compared to gl then that's totally fine! Just cuzs a majority likes 1 things doesn't mean you have to like it to and I hate that being labeled weird ??? Like this entire site is to cater to whatever we're into and shouldn't be shamed bcs of it !

Yaoi is yaoi... yaoi is life lol

Of course you’re good! Don’t let the others claiming that you’re fetishizing or weird for only reading yaoi get to you BECAUSE they don’t know your reading habits, none of us are exclusively consuming bl media. they just don’t get it and that’s ok!!!

I hope what I said didn't come off that way, tbh I forgot most of it lmao and just reread a bit. The thing is we're weird (also read yaoi but more like dip into it from time to time) but weird isn't bad. It's the same weird that people who hyperfocus on any specific genre have.