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Everyone goes so easy on Tomoe and idk if it's because you wanna protect hard into just have a kid and leave it and still be told you're a good mom.
Now, the fact that she left her kid knowing she was not fit for mom hood is awesome, she was aware and left her with people that will love her. That's commendable.
The fact that she leaves and never takes care of Ayu, just when she's on vacation or when she wants to, while both guys are just taking care of Ayu and her needs daily sacrificing time and doing all their effort all that while Tomoe still gets to be the legal mom. That's what's shitty.
She does none of the work and gets to be the "real" parent. And everyone plays into that, she's incredibly selfish.
She doesn't want to be a mom, but doesn't want to give up her mom status.
Both guys deserve better.
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I'm not slandering her. She's a bad mom and a selfish person.
I'm just saying the manga could have addressed that better cause she was painted in a good light, when, actually what she did was just terribly selfish.
The whole adoption point doesn't hold because these boys didn't want a baby. Tomoe dropped Ayu on them. They didn't ask. Of course they ended up loving her but they didn't want her. They didn't ask for her. Tomoe just dropped Ayu on them, not considering what they wanted at the time.
A kid needs so much time and work. And they have done so much. Tomoe doesn't deserve to be called ayu's mom, while the boys are still referred to by name by Ayu.
Tomoe was a selfish person. She dropped Ayu, didn't think of the baby, nor on the people she was dropping her with.
Tomoe is a bad mom. She's never there for Ayu. Just when SHE has free time.
these are facts.
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Did your mom drop you on two gays that didn't even want a kid?
Cause I see you projecting but I don't see the correlation here?
being a distant mom is not the same as just dropping you to follow some guy in another continent for someone else to be your whole family unit?
Like maybe stop being defensive and understand they're different situations instead of projecting.
Tomoe dropped her kid to her two friends cause she didn't want a kid, well, the guys didn't want a kid either.
she was selfish.
Oh but she wants to be seen as a mom without ever being there, oh wait, she sees ayu like one month a year! And then just talks to her on the phone! Yep that's deffo gonna help her when she's got the flu. Lemme get out my #1 mom mug.
My point is no one ever calling her out on it and treating her like she's perfect and good. She's not. She's allowed to be selfish, but no one ever calls her out on it.
That was my critique. If someone ever called her out on it ever, I would have no issue.
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Also @bimblefrog. Yep, I agree no one is ever gonna comment anything which is annoying af, she's never gonna get better.
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1. Tomoe did not "follow some guy into another continent". She goes to underdeveloped/dangerous countries for social causes as her job.
2. She loves her child. It is the child she had with the man she loves who is now dead. She cannot prioritize over her child or job because both are important to her. If she didn't want a kid she would've aborted.
3. Tomoe tries her best to keep up with her daughter's life through technology. Ayu's personality emulates her mother's which means they must've had a decent amount of interaction off screen.
All in all, yes she was selfish but looking from her perspective I could understand her decisions. Besides, she is not the focus of the manga and her lack of involvement in Ayu's life is just a plot booster for Ayu to stay with the guys.
I feel this manga is just, dated.
Idk if Japan is still into this, but the west definitely doesn't like the tsundere uke.
I just feel like I'm reading an old 90s manga, with that sort of humor and tropes.
I luv a good tsundere but the keyword here is GOOD... that uke was definitely not a good character
I feel like the mangaka tried to make Aki a tsundere, but he mostly just crossed over into being abusive which is not cute.
That's my whole point abusive tsundere were a common trope in the 90s
'omg the girl punched the guy into the sky lolololololol so funny'
it was everywhere.