I'm really hesitant and disliking Akira right now. He seems wishy-washy. Or like he's leading Kanata on. Akira was having relations with another (significantly older pedo) guy, yet still wanted to start something 'serious' with Kanata. It just makes it feel like Akira wasn't serious or thoughtful about his feelings and potential future with Kanata like Kanata was, because Akira still went out to have sex with another person. If you were serious about a relationship with another person, you wouldn't have sex, even if it is casual sex, with different person.
Like if you were dating a person on Tinder, nothing super serious yet just feeling the other person out, to know that they're having sex with another person (without you knowing!) would turn me off and just give me vibes that this guy wasn't taking me seriously.
He’s been having sex since middle school. He’d be around 12-15 in Japan so I take it’s not the easiest decision when you get attached (sexually or otherwise) to an adult who basically groomed you since you were young. If anything, I’d say he’s a victim that deserves sympathy. Maybe he doesn’t know how to be in a normal relationship because of what happened to him. I’m betting his feelings for Kanata IS real but he doesn’t know what to do. You might be looking at this as a perfectly sound individual and not as a man who had a sexually relationship with an adult since he was young. I can’t tell you to not dislike a character, but give him some sympathy.
If he doesn't know how to function in a normal relationship, he shouldn't be seeking one out. He needs therapy, and lots of it. Even if he wasn't looking for a relationship, he still needs a shit ton of therapy, because being groomed causes lasting effects (aka probs why Akira refers to himself as dirty). This man don't need love, he needs a team of psychologists.
Psychologist and psychiatrist doesn't cure people, they can only help easing the symptoms and give advice. Support and love from people around the patient is way more important than both of them, because the problem is with their mind and heart. No medicine or therapy could work if they're still trapped within themselves. If people who are important and loved by the patient can't even lead them out, how can a bunch of unknown people do that? Also, sometimes even finding a compatible psychologist/psychiatrist is a journey on itself. So yes, love is important for case like this, even more than psychologist. Then what's wrong with him searching for love? Is people with mental problem shouldn't love?
‘If people who love and support you can’t help you out, then what can a stranger do’
Sis you have a severe misunderstanding of what a therapist or someone who works in the mental health does. The entire POINT is to have someone specially trained and removed from the situation that can help you understand why you have defense mechanisms (like having unhealthy sexual relationships with older men) and then help you change your way of thinking via CBT.
That’s like saying if someone was depressed, why aren’t they fucking happy when they have their family around them. Or when someone has PTSD, why they aren’t okay when they have friends around them. Frankly, it’s problematic that you have this rose colored glasses that love can fix everything. If it did, we wouldn't have domestic abuse of cheating, where people stay with those who abuse them physically, mentally, or emotionally due to ‘love’
I’m saying that people who don’t know what a healthy relationship is like and do toxic things and have toxic behaviors, shouldn’t drag other people along with them. I don’t think you’ve ever dated, because loving someone doesn’t fix what’s wrong with them. They’re just going to drag you on mentally exhausting journey, where they release their toxic behaviors on you or keep repeating them and they end up either hurting you or needing professional help anyways.
I never said love can fix everything, I just said that love still plays an important part in curing someone with mental health problem, romantic or not, depending on their problems. It's good to have professionals helping them of course,and they should, so they would know what to do. But they can't be healed with just professional help without people around them. I've seen cases where going to psychologist doesn't help, sometimes it even gets worse, it's all really up to the patient themselves. And whether love, romantic or not, can help them, it's up to them too. Also, bad behavior and habit should be differentiated from people with mental problems. Abusive tendencies and cheating habit are mostly not caused by mental problems, it's in their personality.
The character in this manga isn't even toxic or abusive, he just don't know what to do with his feelings, but he's in the process of learning. He realizes his mistake and repents. He never intentionally wants to hurt the other, he doesn't even cheat or inclined to it, just confused. And if it's real life, whether Kanata wants to help him and be with him or not, it's up to him, not for us to judge.
Meowster:
Agree with you to 1000%.
OOh, looks like our MC isn't the only one with a (ex) pining lover...
Mathew go get your man! He's already a sucker for your pretty face!
How the hell can he stay with an animal killer like that?! Like, killing animals is the first sign of a serial killer wtf. Dude, where tf is your sense of self-preservation (not to mention that poor dog!)
Everyone’s talking about the guys, but dude. That poor dog, just imagining it’s suffering out me off the entire chapter :(
I couldn’t pay attention to all the angst and *unrequited feelings* because I kept thinking of that poor animal
JESUS CHRIST THE BEATDOWN THE MC GAVE WAS AMAZING.
It had everything i ever wanted to tell my shitty groupmates but never had the balls to do
Everyone’s talking about how good the author is, but I’m over here trying to decipher wtf that summary even means
Hahaha true but I swear it’s good
Yeah I spent like 5 minutes on it before realising that the problem isn't with my brain lol
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Need a sum up?
Everyone: screaming about the ring
Me: wait did the first couple die or something? Where are they???
Me: yup, totes dead. Gone forever.
Dude our MC is beautiful! Like normally the ML are better looking, but honestly our MC is hot one. ML better count his lucky stars!