THIS!!!! This is sth I've been talkkng about with my friends. HONESTLY, BEING ASERTIVE IN WHAT YOU WANT AND WHAT YOU CAN DO. Now, its Sanho turn to decide what to do and if he is ok with this. In my point of view, I wont accept it, because the other part has in mind to be separeted from me (Sanho) before being together, I'm not willing wasting my time,my efforts my emotions in sth like that. I'd rather to look for sth more like what I aim. ' I 'll let you go when you find someone who can love you the way you want'. Aaaamm. Even if I love this person, this statement wil make me feel anxious and probably frustrated. Somehow, I' m not good enough. Yes, it's my insecurities, my problem that's why I never accept this. But if Sanho o whoever are ok wth this, it's great, since the other part is honest
Yessaahh I've been waiting the assertiveness too! But sincerely, about what Tak said I think I can understand, people love in different ways. The thing of a strong passion is more of a illusion of the movies sometimes but there's a lot of people who just love casually without much thought on it or drama.
For me, specifically, (since is my point of view too) I am in the aroace and autistic spectrum, I also can't understand the feeling of loving someone, its not something that I ever felt or I think I never felt it, when I like someone I like the company of them, but not necessarily want to be all romantic with them, I just wanna stay close. I personally dont try to date anyone because I know my view of a relationship is that restricted and that can hurt the person if they expecting me to have those romantic attraction, but I still feel needy and still want to be in a relationship.
So when tak says "if you find someone who is like that with you you go" it looks pretty much the "aroace situation" of wanting to date someone but then tell to them sincerely that you can not change the way you "love".
But that's a guess because I felt this was relatable
I'm gonna drop this. I LOVE ODETTE DESIGN but I read the novel and I hate sooo much Bastian. To me he's depicable.
Spoiler.
I think that even if Odette betrayed Bastian that doesnt mean her punisment is being raped every day, Bastian did it over and over brutally, saying awfull things. Yes, she did sth bad when he admitted feel sth about her, but rape her , it was violen not only that. He wanted to impregnat her and he said that Odette 'll never gonna se their child after divorcing. Their child gonna be Sandrine and Bastian's child. Over and over he abused phisically and emotional telling her she is cheap and she sold hersel so easly. In this kind of plot of course Odette not only acepted the rape, she 'enjoyed' it even if she doesn want it???? She is still in love when Bastian felt nauseous about her. of course, his background is sooooo sad and dramatic that everyone feels sorry for him and plus he wanted commit suicide. I skipped so many chapters, I couldnt stand their dynamic. ' I think is fair. THAT BITCH DESERVED THIS. Whats the problem, he lost money so she has to pay with her body. Oh my poor baby Bastian". Ay, romantic rape isnt my cup of tea and I dont get why is so popular. I love the art but nooo
She betrayed him. Bastian stepmother blackmailed her about her family to give important information about bastian's revenge. So the plan failed. But before this, Bastian already fell for her and was planning to propose and make their marriage real after his plan worked. Sadly, it did not happen because of Odette. He doesn't want to divorce Odette, he think that there is no loss for Odette on that regard beacuse after their divorce odette can remarry someone like the count. He's jealous of. He loves and hate her at the same time. That's why he wanted Odette to bear his child, to crash odette beyond repair at the same time keep her. He tell her taht it will be sandrine and his child, but he's actually cutting ties with her. Because despite odette's betrayal, he still loves her. In the novel, you can clearly see how bastian was hurting evertime he do something to Odette. It was wrong I know. It was very dark romance and not for everyone. Odette on the other hand is really good at hurting bastian with his own action, like asking him to pay her everytime they do the deed.
NO SEAS MAMOOOON. FLUFFAROOOO Y LAS TERNURINES MAIDEN