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So your're doing all this bdsm stuff with someone who clearly has no idea what that is (does not know what roleplay is, safe word etc) and it's cleary scared even of normal sexual interacttions. All this while not explaining your intentions at all or even asking your partner if they wanna engage in bdsm play with you. I'm sorry but there is no logical explanations for this. He says he thought uke knew what was happening. What exactly gave him that impression cause maybe I'm crazy but everything showed otherwise....