⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ May 6, 2025 11:13 pm

I genuinely think authors need to retire the victim x abuser trope. It’s not cute it’s just sad. It frustrates me that every time I come across a story like that, people react like, “Oh my God, I can’t wait for his redemption arc. I can’t wait to see him fall to his knees, fall in love, realize the error of his ways” blah blah blah. Like please.... It’s tasteless, It gives nothing I seriously can’t wait until more people start to realize that
It’s not romantic, it’s not deep, and we’ve completely lost the plot with the ‘enemies to lovers’ concept. I’ve seen way too many people confuse that trope with straight-up abuser-victim dynamics as if that’s the same thing. It’s not. Not even close.
There’s something disturbing about how comfortable people have become with romanticizing pain, control, and manipulation. The idea that someone who has emotionally, psychologically, or even physically harmed another person can suddenly be redeemed by love isn’t just unrealistic, it’s dangerous.
I wonder if we’ve all collectively lost the plot when it comes to romantic storytelling enemies to lovers is never actually what it is anymore lmao. What once was a fun, dynamic narrative about conflict, tension, and eventual understanding has now been twisted into something unrecognizable. Too often, people conflate ‘enemies’ with ‘abusers’ But those are not the same, one is built on equal opposition and emotional complexity; the other is built on power imbalance and harm. Sighh

    Me_for_ president May 6, 2025 11:19 pm

    Exactly!! It’s not even enemies to lovers it’s straight up Stockholm syndrome. There’s nothing romantic about someone ending up with their abuser and I’m sick and tired of people hyping up and popularizing abuse stories. They also say it’s toxic like no that straight up abuse. Toxic relationships only work if they’re both toxic, not when someone’s getting brutally raped by the other. (⊙…⊙ )

    miaumiau May 6, 2025 11:19 pm

    So many of these authors writing abilities are straight up fried, they prioritize those scenes instead of good sensible writing and the worst part is that it works (a huge amount of ppl read it i mean). Its gotten much better than it was years ago but its still rough

    STANCUPCAKKE May 6, 2025 11:23 pm

    I genuinely feel like I can't escape this trope its like EVERYWHERE

    Cruchy_rollers May 6, 2025 11:29 pm

    exactly omg. I swear 90% of the story's these days are becoming abuser x victim or just rapist x victim(basically the same thing), and the story's don't even have a half decent plot, its all just trash with a trash plot and a trash trope. I really wish people would stop producing story's like this and we could go back to the days where this wasn't such a big issue, but unfortunately, that doesn't seem to be happening anytime soon. I also wish more people would stop consuming and enjoying things like this which is also contributing to the mass production of story's with plots like this. I seriously hate this all so much and just want to be able to enjoy story's again without having to encounter rape or abuse.

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ May 6, 2025 11:36 pm
    Exactly!! It’s not even enemies to lovers it’s straight up Stockholm syndrome. There’s nothing romantic about someone ending up with their abuser and I’m sick and tired of people hyping up and populariz... Me_for_ president

    It pains me cause I used to be SUCH a huge #1 stan of enemies to lovers like that was MY SHIT but saying that nowadays feels like a crime and people confuses it, mishears it as "yes I love seeing the person who just made the other persons life a living hell get with them and become a sweetie pie out of nowhere" like NO I LOVE RIVALRY THATS IT, ACADEMIC RIVALRY EVEN

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ May 6, 2025 11:36 pm
    I genuinely feel like I can't escape this trope its like EVERYWHERE STANCUPCAKKE

    Because it IS everywhere let's not lie

    Me_for_ president May 6, 2025 11:39 pm
    It pains me cause I used to be SUCH a huge #1 stan of enemies to lovers like that was MY SHIT but saying that nowadays feels like a crime and people confuses it, mishears it as "yes I love seeing the person who... ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺

    If you are interested in this manhwa I tend to promote it kinda has enemies to lovers forbidden love trope
    https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/sangyang_the_wanderer/

⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ April 21, 2025 9:03 pm

Dom/sub verse manga recs please

⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ April 19, 2025 3:18 am

Freaky shit with phone sex recs please, begging on my knees and all.

⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ April 18, 2025 11:00 pm

Whoever said 9 inches was too big well they're fucking lying, it don't even hurt fr.

    Abow April 18, 2025 11:03 pm

    (=・ω・=)…
    What

    para site April 18, 2025 11:06 pm

    The question is how THICK it is? Lmao

    lebron's #1 pookie bear April 18, 2025 11:14 pm

    big dick propaganda smh

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ April 18, 2025 11:18 pm
    The question is how THICK it is? Lmao para site

    We got big dick graduated expert over there

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ April 18, 2025 11:19 pm
    big dick propaganda smh lebron's #1 pookie bear

    I know for real you got a big one twin

    arkaived April 18, 2025 11:28 pm

    depends on the girth and where it's going ngl

    Me_for_ president April 18, 2025 11:29 pm

    The bigger the better!

    Me_for_ president April 18, 2025 11:33 pm

    Like my pookie Lau from Sangyang:The Wanderer has a penis as tall as him

    your fave side hoe April 18, 2025 11:44 pm

    are u speaking from experience ho cus imo...

    arkaived April 18, 2025 11:46 pm
    are u speaking from experience ho cus imo... your fave side hoe

    right..

    your fave side hoe April 18, 2025 11:49 pm
    right.. arkaived

    trying to decipher ur tone makes me feel like a stereotypical hacker in a crime movie "now if i do this.. ill get into the dataframe.. haha! easy

    arkaived April 18, 2025 11:51 pm
    trying to decipher ur tone makes me feel like a stereotypical hacker in a crime movie "now if i do this.. ill get into the dataframe.. haha! easy your fave side hoe

    BRUH STOPPP i was js tryna side w u bro DAMN

    your fave side hoe April 18, 2025 11:53 pm
    BRUH STOPPP i was js tryna side w u bro DAMN arkaived

    YOU SAID "right.." MDR HOW AM I MEANT RO KNOWW SKAJAHA

    arkaived April 18, 2025 11:53 pm
    trying to decipher ur tone makes me feel like a stereotypical hacker in a crime movie "now if i do this.. ill get into the dataframe.. haha! easy your fave side hoe

    oh shoot damn i read this wrong i thought u were tryna say i'm the hacker MY BAD GNG LMFAOOO fuck

    your fave side hoe April 18, 2025 11:55 pm
    oh shoot damn i read this wrong i thought u were tryna say i'm the hacker MY BAD GNG LMFAOOO fuck arkaived

    Im acc crying so bad bro my ass would NOT push my glasses up my nose and call u a hacker im DEAD

    arkaived April 18, 2025 11:58 pm
    Im acc crying so bad bro my ass would NOT push my glasses up my nose and call u a hacker im DEAD your fave side hoe

    IM GONNA FOLLOW U HOME NOW

    your fave side hoe April 19, 2025 12:00 am
    IM GONNA FOLLOW U HOME NOW arkaived

    whipped my head around like u were behind me

    arkaived April 19, 2025 12:02 am
    whipped my head around like u were behind me your fave side hoe

    follow me back gng i'm quite funny too aha

    your fave side hoe April 19, 2025 12:03 am
    follow me back gng i'm quite funny too aha arkaived

    brother get up off ur knees jesus christ

    arkaived April 19, 2025 12:06 am
    brother get up off ur knees jesus christ your fave side hoe

    my brother in christ i accidentally deleted your message my bad bruh LMFAO lemme send a message back

    Okarisu April 19, 2025 12:27 am
    The question is how THICK it is? Lmao para site

    Nah, length is definitely important if you don’t want your cervix getting hit. I can’t barely get through a pap smear lmao. I actually remember an interview with the guy with the world’s longest dick which we are for some reason keeping track of. He said there were girls who’d sleep with him out of curiosity and they hated it because of how big it was.

    para site April 19, 2025 12:49 am
    Nah, length is definitely important if you don’t want your cervix getting hit. I can’t barely get through a pap smear lmao. I actually remember an interview with the guy with the world’s longest dick whic... Okarisu

    Oh that's interesting ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭ I'm not a girl tho hehe but yeah I get your point (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ December 6, 2024 5:54 pm

Y'all ever be in a story's comment section and be like "damn they dumb asf" or like "those are definitely kids omg".

    chickenmayo December 6, 2024 5:58 pm

    me w those isekai manhwas that are actually godd but evetyonr just calls tjem trash bc of one thing that the fl did that was "stupid" or wtv when its such a reasonable thing to do in her situation like WHAT do people not get that we arent the characters but the readers???? And its just ONE thing that the fl did that led to a bad rating when its such a masterpiece like ong and the ones that get good ratings from these types of people are the most BASIC most frustrating type of stuff to read like what ?????

    Jaxx December 6, 2024 5:59 pm

    Yeah jinx comment section all the time

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ December 6, 2024 6:02 pm
    Yeah jinx comment section all the time Jaxx

    Those are just mentally deranged people.

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ December 6, 2024 6:04 pm
    me w those isekai manhwas that are actually godd but evetyonr just calls tjem trash bc of one thing that the fl did that was "stupid" or wtv when its such a reasonable thing to do in her situation like WHAT do ... chickenmayo

    They always have the most basic repetitive opinion and people are still sucking their d because of it, they can't bother forming a thought of their own about a story that they just read, sometimes I wonder if they didnt just skip to the scene everyone talks about to complain about it too lmao.

    kissdohyun December 6, 2024 6:04 pm

    for sure

    Mioro December 6, 2024 6:24 pm

    Me with every bl story with a toxic ML, they be doing cartwheels trying to explain why the bad guy is the MC and not the (usually) r@pist

    Jaxx December 6, 2024 6:26 pm
    Me with every bl story with a toxic ML, they be doing cartwheels trying to explain why the bad guy is the MC and not the (usually) r@pist Mioro

    The victim blaming is real in yaoi

    kissdohyun December 6, 2024 6:29 pm
    for sure kissdohyun

    When people start calling the ML a green flag, forgetting the fact the character's first meeting was when the ML assaulted MC. -> Jaeshin...

    Mucha December 6, 2024 7:01 pm
    Me with every bl story with a toxic ML, they be doing cartwheels trying to explain why the bad guy is the MC and not the (usually) r@pist Mioro

    Fr I was re-reading Love is an illusion and the amount of hate Hyesung got was crazy like you saw his backstory and everything he’s going throught right now so his reactions are appriote with how he’s reacting since he never got professional help Σ(っ°Д °;)っ

    Never goon December 6, 2024 8:18 pm

    Pearl boy’s apologists lol they glaze it so hard

    Never goon December 6, 2024 8:20 pm
    Fr I was re-reading Love is an illusion and the amount of hate Hyesung got was crazy like you saw his backstory and everything he’s going throught right now so his reactions are appriote with how he’s react... Mucha

    Nah ong They be hating on him then go straight to licking the ML’s nuts like hes all that

    aggravated seme December 6, 2024 9:23 pm
    Me with every bl story with a toxic ML, they be doing cartwheels trying to explain why the bad guy is the MC and not the (usually) r@pist Mioro

    hidoku shinaide.
    this foolishness been going on for years like im tired.

    Mioro December 7, 2024 1:26 am
    Fr I was re-reading Love is an illusion and the amount of hate Hyesung got was crazy like you saw his backstory and everything he’s going throught right now so his reactions are appriote with how he’s react... Mucha

    funny I was talking abt this one lmao. Since it got popular again bc of the sequel I be fighting for my life in the comment sections defending him from their stupidity and victim blaming

    Mini December 7, 2024 3:27 am

    When people shout "OMG RED FLAG" over a character flow that makes them more human. Like let them make mistakes and be imperfect?? Otherwise how are they going to have a character development.. i hate those picture perfect characters who does nothing bad and everything they say is right. For me, it makes them lack personality and so unmemorable.

    And when comments can't understand morally grey characters like it always should be either black or white for them.

    Ps: I'm not talking about rapists who are that for no reason and only to make mc and ml have sex and then forget about it

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ December 7, 2024 3:34 am
    When people shout "OMG RED FLAG" over a character flow that makes them more human. Like let them make mistakes and be imperfect?? Otherwise how are they going to have a character development.. i hate those pict... Mini

    This is exactly what inspired me to write this question, I hate it when people immediately shout "red flag" especially when it doesn't even apply at all. It's so easy to throw shade at the character but not easy to try and understand them, I know not every story needs analyzing to a degree, not everyone takes seriously a complex character, but if you're not even making an effort don't even suggest utter the words "red flag" and reduce a character to only that. People like that are so insufferable and I wonder why they read in the first place.

    chickenmayo December 7, 2024 8:53 am
    When people shout "OMG RED FLAG" over a character flow that makes them more human. Like let them make mistakes and be imperfect?? Otherwise how are they going to have a character development.. i hate those pict... Mini

    OMG RIGHT like youre not even 50 chaps into the story and youre making judgements alr...

⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 21, 2024 11:59 am

Give me 3 manhwas from my "want to read" list that you think is good enough to distract me on this boring day.

    NutMan November 21, 2024 12:15 pm

    Sleeping Dead
    Goodbye Nameless Violin
    Ito-San

    NutMan November 21, 2024 12:15 pm
    Sleeping DeadGoodbye Nameless ViolinIto-San NutMan

    Sorry, Itou-San

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 21, 2024 12:23 pm
    Sleeping DeadGoodbye Nameless ViolinIto-San NutMan

    Thanks ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 21, 2024 12:23 pm
    Its 5 but these, also Moritat is just brain damage so feel free to read that as well if you want a confusing story that no one has the answer to lolhttps://www.mangago.me/read-manga/sleeping_dead/https://www.ma... Mia

    Thank you (〃'▽'〃) i'll put moritat on hold tho

    Byygvy November 21, 2024 12:25 pm

    “No home” and “dream away” !

    ectoplasmies November 21, 2024 12:28 pm

    Tokyo Shinjuu (totempole)!! underrated imo
    seconding Sleeping Dead and No Home (but i think you already read it maybe?)

    Tkook November 21, 2024 12:30 pm

    Dream away
    Goodbye, Nameless Violin
    Love gym

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 21, 2024 12:31 pm
    “No home” and “dream away” ! Byygvy

    I've heard if no home and since it's my favorite author I plan to read it soon but not now since it has way too many chapters and dream away seems cute I'll read it, thank you<33

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 21, 2024 12:32 pm
    Tokyo Shinjuu (totempole)!! underrated imoseconding Sleeping Dead and No Home (but i think you already read it maybe?) ectoplasmies

    Sleeping dead is definitely 1rst to read on my list since many people are recommending it lmao thank you (▰˘◡˘▰)

    Byygvy November 21, 2024 12:33 pm
    I've heard if no home and since it's my favorite author I plan to read it soon but not now since it has way too many chapters and dream away seems cute I'll read it, thank you<33 ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺

    That’s fair! Definitely would need to free up an entire day or two for no home lol but it is very easy to binge

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 21, 2024 12:34 pm
    Dream awayGoodbye, Nameless ViolinLove gym Tkook

    I'm actually reading love gym rn and it's kinda cute, i'll read dream away as 2nd since it's been recommended twice and I might check out nameless violin thank you tkook pookie (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 21, 2024 12:37 pm
    That’s fair! Definitely would need to free up an entire day or two for no home lol but it is very easy to binge Byygvy

    Yeah but I wanna take my time ( I barely finished read their other work "room #305") i've been kinda in a reading slump sadly I can barely read stuff that has more than 60 chapters but i'm trying ☹

    Byygvy November 21, 2024 12:41 pm
    Yeah but I wanna take my time ( I barely finished read their other work "room #305") i've been kinda in a reading slump sadly I can barely read stuff that has more than 60 chapters but i'm trying ☹ ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺

    Omg that’s so real I have a rlly short list of things that take less than an hour to read if u wanna check that out <3

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 21, 2024 12:49 pm
    Omg that’s so real I have a rlly short list of things that take less than an hour to read if u wanna check that out <3 Byygvy

    Oh thank you I followed, i'll check out some things, it also seems i've already read some good amount, it's a good list really thank you again love<33 (▰˘◡˘▰)

⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 20, 2024 2:31 pm

Suggestions for age gaps/old men bl please for this list y'all can check out!!
https://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/2945946/

⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 9:22 pm

I'm asking this again bro I'm looking for it everywhere but I can't find it, so basically it's about this guy who has a butler an old butler like very old but the guy loves him and he tries his hardest to flirt and get with the old tired butler it's so funny and he fails every time but you can tell the butler has a soft spot for him but he doesn't actually believe that the guy who has every girl after him who's handsome and young could ever love an old tired man like him which is what the other guy is trying so hard to prove.
It's a comedy manga or manhwa? I barely remember, it had this unique artstyle which I can't differ so I genuinely Need to find it, I remember it was only 3 chapters on here so I wanna know if it ever got updated. Please and thank you!

    Gurl November 19, 2024 9:28 pm
    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 9:31 pm
    maybe you can find it here - https://www.anime-planet.com/manga/tags/butlers Gurl

    Thank you ig ╥﹏╥

    Gurl November 19, 2024 9:33 pm

    Is it this?

    Bamford Koushakuke No Shitsuji
    https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/bamford_koushakuke_no_shitsuji/

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 9:35 pm
    Is it this? Bamford Koushakuke No Shitsujihttps://www.mangago.me/read-manga/bamford_koushakuke_no_shitsuji/ Gurl

    No... (╯︵╰,)

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 9:37 pm

    Maybe the old guy was actually a cleaner, idk I barely remember but he was definitely working as a housekeeper for the guy like washing stuff bro.

    Gurl November 19, 2024 9:41 pm
    Maybe the old guy was actually a cleaner, idk I barely remember but he was definitely working as a housekeeper for the guy like washing stuff bro. ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺

    ohh maybe you'll find it here then -
    https://www.anime-planet.com/users/AnnaSartin/lists/housekeepers-in-bl-132111

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 9:45 pm
    ohh maybe you'll find it here then - https://www.anime-planet.com/users/AnnaSartin/lists/housekeepers-in-bl-132111 Gurl

    Bro is this shit the one piece? It's not there either lmao, but thank you for the housekeeper list, I love those I seriously need to find the story or else i'm gonna lose my damn mind.
    What's worst is I thought I definitely kept it in my notes/lists but I didn't find it, it was definitely a manga since I think it had a Japanese name.

    NutMan November 19, 2024 9:49 pm
    Bro is this shit the one piece? It's not there either lmao, but thank you for the housekeeper list, I love those I seriously need to find the story or else i'm gonna lose my damn mind.What's worst is I thought ... ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺

    I hesitate to say this, but you can filter out stuff better on MRM

    Gurl November 19, 2024 9:51 pm
    Bro is this shit the one piece? It's not there either lmao, but thank you for the housekeeper list, I love those I seriously need to find the story or else i'm gonna lose my damn mind.What's worst is I thought ... ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺

    oh damn, well good luck finding it

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 9:54 pm
    I hesitate to say this, but you can filter out stuff better on MRM NutMan

    I'm not going there it'll take 500+ awful cheap yaoi porns to get to what I want no matter how much I filter stuff, it's a very short unpopular manga too.

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 9:55 pm
    oh damn, well good luck finding it Gurl

    I give up (/TДT)/

    Nerium November 19, 2024 9:58 pm

    Do you remember anything about how they look or age range of the butler? Was it updating when you were reading it or was it possibly an abandoned series? Older men are my favorite and I might have it hiding in the abyss of things I've read on another site.

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 10:00 pm
    Do you remember anything about how they look or age range of the butler? Was it updating when you were reading it or was it possibly an abandoned series? Older men are my favorite and I might have it hiding in ... Nerium

    Okay so, the older guy looked kinda tired, white hair and I think the other guy was tall with dark hair or brown? I don't remember, the old guy wasn't those super tired old guy but just chill??? He's not too old.

    Nerium November 19, 2024 10:20 pm
    Okay so, the older guy looked kinda tired, white hair and I think the other guy was tall with dark hair or brown? I don't remember, the old guy wasn't those super tired old guy but just chill??? He's not too ol... ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺

    It sounds so familiar. I'm going to do a deep dive in my lists later to try to find it. I'm curious now, too!

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 10:21 pm
    It sounds so familiar. I'm going to do a deep dive in my lists later to try to find it. I'm curious now, too! Nerium

    Please and thank you so much, you give me hope and faith to continue searching for it too (┳Д┳)

    gintokisdykewife November 19, 2024 10:37 pm
    https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/urekko_model_to_kaseifu_san/ this one maybe gintokisdykewife

    the dude here is a super star and he keeps asking his old housekeeper to stay for longer and the old dude is like r u gna pay me overtime? im pretty sure its the one ur looking for

    ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 10:37 pm
    https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/urekko_model_to_kaseifu_san/ this one maybe gintokisdykewife

    OH YESS YESS YOU YES YOU I FUCKING LOVE YOU, THANK YOU SOO MUCH BRO I BARELY REMEMBERED WHAT THEY LOOKED LIKE THANK YOUUU, I WISH I COULD FUCKING KISS YOU, I'M SO HAPPY o(╥﹏╥)o(づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

    gintokisdykewife November 19, 2024 10:38 pm
    OH YESS YESS YOU YES YOU I FUCKING LOVE YOU, THANK YOU SOO MUCH BRO I BARELY REMEMBERED WHAT THEY LOOKED LIKE THANK YOUUU, I WISH I COULD FUCKING KISS YOU, I'M SO HAPPY o(╥﹏╥)o(づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ ⁺✧Ridora✧⁺

    OMG YAY IM GLAD(⌒▽⌒)

⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 19, 2024 5:01 pm

I'm looking for it everywhere but I can't find it, so basically it's about this guy who has a butler an old butler like very old but the guy loves him and he tries his hardest to flirt and get with the old tired butler it's so funny and he fails every time but you can tell the butler has a soft spot for him but he doesn't actually believe that the guy who has every girl after him who's handsome and young could ever love an old tired man like him which is what the other guy is trying so hard to prove.
It's a comedy manga or manhwa? I barely remember, it had this unique artstyle which I can't differ so I genuinely Need to find it, I remember it was only 3 chapters on here so I wanna know if it ever got updated. Please and thank you!

⁺✧Ridora✧⁺ November 13, 2024 10:55 am

Can I get a little dry humping bl smut pls...? If not something with phone sex...

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