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Yeah, he slept around BUT, he wasn't in a dedicated relationship or cheating so you have no right to criticize him. I know it seems wrong/awful of him to sleep around but, he was just seeking comfort. Does sleeping with a person when you are not in a relationship (it doesn't matter what your intentions are) make you a slut who deserves to be hated?

Not a fan of people who choose to slut shame other for what they do in their private lives with consenting parties....

I'm really sorry if I offended you guys but I just cannot take it. I may be an old fashion person but to know that the person you devoted yourself to sleeps around with other whatever reason they might have, the feeling in regards that matter is beyond words I can say.

Slut shaming is terrible. You havent lived any life but yours so you can't possibly understand why some people live the way they do. Their lives are just as important and special. I've been in a faithful relationship longer than some readers have been alive (16 years), but sluts still hold a special place in my heart

I agree with you, I can't read this sort stories, they have the right to do what they want with their bodies, it's just me that can't bear reading of them sleeping around

I'm glad someone understands me. Thank you.

thank to you, I thought I was the one to think taht way xD

What bothers me about your comment is not that you dislike stories about people sleeping around, because that's totally personal preference. What bothers me is that you specifically call out "loose ukes." So it's fine for semes to have multiple sexual partners? I think this is problematic because it equates to holding individuals who assume the "female" sexual role to a different standard. This is the 21st century. Both partners in a relationship should face the same sexual expectations, whether sexually liberated or sexually conservative depending on your preference. Criticizing "loose ukes" is the type of patriarchal gender-norming that is not appropriate in a positive and inclusive yaoi fandom.

I don't know if you understood the manga so just in case I'll explain it to you and @nemu-nemu. Then if you are still saying the same I'll just give up on you two.
There was no cheating. The semester decided himself to devote himself to the Ike. It was completely one-sided and he knew it. He even says he's the one dragging the Ike around when they are outside of school.
In fact the Ike is anything but a cheater. He makes their relationship very clear. Only sex and only within the school boundaries.
Your traditional values here have nothing to do with the story. In fact, I think the blind you to see the actual story and in doing so you are missing facts that makes you have an ignorant opinion.

YES! You wrote the exact thing that bothered me about the comment. It's always the ukes that gets it.

But I am also irritated about the slutshaming as well. Like it's ok for the OP not to like it but why'd the OP have to judge others for it tho.

OP might not be a slut. Still doesn't make OP a better person than a slut. Probably worse.

I don't think you need another reader to blast you for slut shaming. So, I'm not going to do that. Instead, I'm going to tell you a little story. A story about a young girl who was SUCH a slut.... me. I was raised in a home where even familial love was denied me. My mother made it perfectly clear to me when I was 10 that she wished I had never been born. My father bailed long before I was born and my step-father like to "rent me out" to his nephew when I was 6 until I was 10. So, needless to say, I craved love and attention. I, like many other young people, assumed that sex=love. That led to me giving my first blowjob at age 12. I would have sex with anyone who showed me attention. I mean, I was pretty desperate for a little love. By age 15, I was working in the adult entertainment industry. Yes, underage. I lived that life considering myself a pretty happy and content person. I got "love" and attention and my partners had sex. That's not to say that I didn't enjoy sex immensely, but the love and attention was my ultimate goal. When I was 24 and mother to 2 sons already - sex has consequences after all - I met a man who said he loved me. Well, they all had said that, hadn't they? Yet, they all were no where to be found now, Right? I was pretty jaded at this point because I learned long ago that sex =/= love at all. Sex is its own separate entity and is simply an act that is commonly used to express love, but love is not required for sex. Trust me on that, I would definitely know. So, I meet this man and he says he loves me. I don't believe a word. The sweetest words are often lies. That was 23 years ago. He and I have been married, quite happily, for that entire time. The only person I want to have sex with is my husband. Sex where there is mutual love is the best, after all. We have raised three sons into happy, healthy men who now have their own families. And I can honestly say that I am one of the happiest, most content, most blessed women on the planet.

So, why did I tell you all this? It's not a sob story, I don't want or need your sympathy. I'm not proud of my past, but I'm not ashamed of it either. So, I'm not bragging. I told you because I want you to understand that we, you and I, regardless of our moral differences, are both human. I may have been a slut, but that doesn't make me less human, less of a good person, or less deserving of respect than any other human on the planet. We sluts, we have our reasons for being the way we are. Even if we are too proud to admit it. Personally, I have no "pride". There are things that I'm proud of, but I have no "pride". It gets in the way of being honest with yourself and others. Thanks to that, I can tell you my story. Just remember, even if you "think" you're better than someone else, for whatever reason, morally, financially, socially, you are still just a human. Just like them. You bleed, you eat, you shit, and one day, you both will die. So, ultimately, no one is really any better than anyone else. We all just want to be loved and accepted by others and by ourselves. How we go about achieving that is our own personal path.

i honestly respect that.

i hate ukes that are sluts but people in comment look like they are sluts too since they defend him so much smh

Lol

but nevertheless, I'lll still look for this once I've come around.

You're going to Japan too? I'm going to be over there for 2 weeks (≧∀≦) I am looking forward to buying lots of manga/anime merchandise!!!

Yas! manga/anime merchandise is my top priority. I'm actually making now the list of titles I'm going to look for XD

... your If is hurting me even more here. fck i wanna cry.

I'd be upset if this manga goes down that cliched road, I expect a bit more from this mangaka.

exactly. tho I did say that since it's Ogeretsu-sensei we're talking about then there musy be something which I dreading more about because Ogeretsu-sensei is a total tease and sadist to the heart of the readers Y. Y

must*

I am dreading more about*

my heart is already crying. Tho I know that there's something more about this mangaka I just can't help but to expect something that will break our heart apart.

my whole being is desperate for happiness of these two TAT//... /please please/ i hope at the end of the series, both of them can be truly happy. cuz so far, They got tangled in problems and conflicts ;_;. lets hope for the best.

yes, let's do hope for the best. they deserve it and so is us

If she's going to break my heart I prefer it be in a way that is different or unexpected. One of my most disliked plot lines is the "I know what's best for you so I'm going to end it regardless of your feelings or opinions". For once I wanna see a couple work through it and discuss it together, without the needless angst. But alas, Nishina is going to relevant at some point so let see where this goes. I'm excited but also dreading what happens next.

Also, she already did the whole "let's break up cuz I want you to have a wife and kids" in the Kuroko no Basket dj so hopefully she won't go down that road.

I totally get you. I also don't like that kind of plot lines, it's actually a nonsense for me, I mean if they totally want and love each other why would they say that they rather have someone else make the other happy. I know for a fact that insecurities do tend to lead them into thay kind of thinking but how can they just assume that they they know what's the best for the other person. It tollay breaks my heart and brain apart LoL.

let's really hope that she won't. And she won't hurt us too. No matter what. I want a happy ending for Taichi and Nao

holy shit. shit got real. I am so disappointed

I will never say my predictions anymore. I don't like where this is going. I really am so disappointed.

And so it happened. Not much a surprise tho, since you mentioned that she already used this twist in her knb dj, I feared that it will happen again but I expected more from her and now I am so disappointed.

I will give credit to Naoto since he's not having any of Taichi's bs. Usually they go the 'if that's what you want' route and then just angst over it for a couple of chapter. Naoto clearly said that he didn't agree with breaking up or separating so now I want to see where this goes.

you're exaexactly on point. I am being all pessimistic here and you are a ray of light for me. I will try to contain my negativity for now and will look forward to Naoto's perseverance and love.

please guide me from here on @Harmonia. let's be comrade to make it through.

I'm just going off on what we've read so far in the manga. Both of them already know what it's like to be apart and they know that that's not what either of them wants. Taichi is being an idiot because his mom dug up his insecurities. Ogeretsu Tanaka is one of the better yaoi mangakas so I have hope that she won't let me down. Let's just hope for the best together.

Wow, reading back to this, it really did happen but somewhat different. spoiler aler


Taichi's the one who distanced himself and while Naoto's not taking any of that shit, of course he's bound to feel exhausted at some point and here comes Nishini pushing his way between the two. Ugh.
it's already been 6 months yet we're still stucked with this... come on, what will gonna happen? will they kiss or not? Naoto and Nishina is. Will Taichi really be late? Will he see them kissing and feeling regretful then just walk away? well anyway, despite of saying all these, i think and do hope that Naoto will reject Nishina.


please, i cannot take this anymore, let this end with just 3-5 more chapters.