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This story frustrates me because on the one hand Cheon Je-hwa is incredibly annoying the way he's treating the MC is frustrating but I also like her it like I think the writer did a good job of showing us both his personality where he's coming from and also how immature he is Jaewha is acting like a teenager in his first relationship with someone he really likes because well he is this is the first person he's ever liked he's someone with an already incredibly abrasive and up front personality while also being cursed to never fully explain himself and he gets attached really easily and to him based on what he said that night was important not just cause he likes him but because we can see that Jaewha places a lot of importance and value in intimate relationships like this we can see that with the way he reacts to his friend just liking someone else or how he straight up says "I will never sleep with anyone else ever again" like that night and those types of relationships are clearly things he values a lot and part of what's getting lost in translation is the fact that he's is also a pretty aggressive personality so it doesn't come if as if he's a romantic that he is but you can see it in the ridiculously clumsy and immature way he's handling the entire situation making incredibly snap and impulsive decisions not understanding just how being drunk seems to work (he seems to have not even considered the idea that maybe Seonwoong is a black out drunk which is stupid yes but also reminds me of something a child or someone who rarely if ever drinks would assume) putting everything single interaction he has with Seonwoong on a pedestal or overthinking it getting jealous over the most petty stuff and jumping to wild conclusions in a panic it's all very much like a teenager in their very first relationship and if Seonwoong were a different person I think it would be something he very organically grew out of none of these traits are good but they are just kinda things experience helps kids grow out of however Seonwoong is kinda of the worst type of person he could of fallen for and that's not me like complaining about him as a person that's me saying they're both vastly different people with vastly different understandings of the situation Seonwoong is someone who prioritizes the well being of others over himself however also he's someone who centers his own interpretation of events over others and a lot of that is probably trauma he's been through a lot but some of it is kinda the worst kind of paternalism where you assume by virtue of your good intentions that you know what's best for someone and that's actually a very frustrating person to be around because any genuine attempts at connection unintentionally get thrown back in your face the moment they decide that actually you're better off without them striping you of any chance to make your own decisions or express your own feelings about a situation and he does this to Jeawha like a lot and I can very easily understand why he's frustrated by this but also Jaewha is not sharing all the information that would explain why he's so clingy because I don't think he's realized he has to again like a kid where you sort of expect the people around you to read your mind and get annoyed when their guess is wrong but instead of correcting them you sinner in your annoyance it's all very immature this entire thing but idk I think the way the problems are so specific to their personalities is actually pretty interesting it makes me wonder if the writer will satisfy the problems in a satisfying way maybe maybe not either way at the moment solid 3.5

Doyun not ending up with anyone actually makes a lot of sense imo Wohae's problem was acting out due to feeling neglected a problem easily solved by both a getting a non neglectful partner and b getting better at communication and knowing when to leave something he ended learning already Doyun's problem however is very different and can't be solved by just having a better relationship his are solved by becoming a better person internally Doyun and Gyulwoo's journeys mirror one another Doyun similar to Gyulwoo is someone so obsessed with the status quo and fitting in to society that he's basically become a doormat similar to Gyulwoo but the big difference is well Gyulwoo was bad at it and refused to draw people in to his bullshit while Doyun was very good at fitting in to society and hiding his secrets and continued to rope people in to it that tendency is something he needs to rectify before getting in to another relationship not during the relationship not to mention Gyulwoo's primary issue was fear Doyun in contrast is just a fucking push over

What the heck dude he didn't even use her money hell he wanted to return it and she gave it to him telling him to keep performing no part of that is a scam she walked up to him gave him her money with the promise that he'd keep performing and not only did he continue doing that he was even planning to give it back to her why are you mad

NGL I do not like that they made her fat (and she's more midsize than fat but she is very clearly larger than all the "good" ones ) that and going out your way to make her look not unsettling but ugly ..... Hm

This is the type of story where the comments frustrate me far far more than the actual story

I'm actually kinda mad at Miyoshi for invading Urasaki's life like in my personal opinion he's just made everything worse

I'll be so pissed because I know they're going to blame her for what happened but they messed up first you can't just switch around tailor made costumes body's a different and if you have a piece designed to fit one body you can't just copy paste it to another second you didn't let her finish the alterations I'm so upset for both girls tbh

I've been trying to figure out why this particular story feels different and why I find it so much easier to stomach than literally every other story with an abusive main character and I think it's the fact that there's no excuses being made Woo-yeon is just a shit person period like there's no tragic backstory no "he secretly cares and just doesn't know how" there's no "he loves him but isn't allowed to show it" bs no Woo-yeon just sucks because he sucks he's a spoiled asshole born with a silver spoon in his mouth who thinks just because he's got money looks and a problem feeling emotions that means he's allowed to get away with anything he's just an asshole abuser full stop and the story isn't trying to make us sympathize or even root for him he sucks and In-seob knows he sucks and knows exactly how terrible he is he's not falling for the "he's a rapist but he cares" bs he's fully aware that regardless of his mixed emotions (which I think are super interesting) that Woo-yeon is terrible and though there's times when he's being genuine and actually nice In-seob is never letting his guard down because he knows full well what kind of person he is that plus the fact that there's no one who's worse than Woo-yeon who the author uses to try and trick us in to believing he's actually a decent human being is really refreshing it feels less like a toxic romance that the author just blatantly refuses to acknowledge is fucked up and more like the author is sitting us down and going "this man sucks this relationship is terrible you aren't here to see how cute they can be or for him to be redeemed and turn in to a less shit person you're here because this man sucks and you wanna see the tragedy he's going to pull this other man in to" it's genuine and tragic but it acknowledges that it's tragic something I'm super grateful for

Makes me wanna read all those sex worker rights zines and books and articles I've been letting pile up

Seijin sucks for pushing boundaries and coercing Jiwoon in to going along with stuff he clearly doesn't like and refusing to actually do something romantic with Jiwoon that doesn't devolve in to sex Inhyuk sucks for being ridiculously selfish and only caring about Jiwoon's boyfriend being shit in so far as it allows him to take advantage of and use Jiwoon to satisfy his ego and his broken heart Jiwoon deserves better and should 1000% leave both ain't shit men in the garbage dump where they belong