What she did was stupid and absolutely uncalled for, but I feel many people misunderstand her. To her it isn't really about Haebeom and Ho relationship, it's about the possible rejection they face because of it. This is what I think her deal is (copy paste of one of my replies): I think she feels "disconnected" from her peers in Seoul, especially when they talk about their parents, she can't really relate with their relationship with their family and is also jealous of said relationship (even if she hates feeling that way). This inability to truly connect and relate with her friends in Seoul made her feel isolated and not "normal". In Japan and Korea, and other asians country, being "normal" is being like the others, like your peers, you don't want to stand out, to be different. Many people there don't consider being "unique" as desirable, but on the contrary something to avoid if possible. So for her being "normal" is really important and if you're not, you become isolated which is very painful (this is her point of view). She seems to see Haebeom a bit like a older brother, or at least someone she really cares about (in a familial way I think, not a romantic one), so him and Ho being in a relationship when she knows they can both be with a woman, basically means to her that they CHOOSE not to be "normal", which is just unbelievable and, well, kinda unacceptable to her, who so want to be "normal", with a "normal" family, but just cannot be. To her credit, it's true that homosexuality and especially having a child raised by an homosexual couple is far less socially accepted in Korea than in the US or western Europe. And we're talking about the small countryside here, where it's probably even more frowned upon. She told them that by choosing to be in a relationship they risk being shunned and isolated by their community, and in her eyes, the risk just isn't worth taking. She just can't understand them taking it, and project her own feelings of isolation and rejection into their situation, that's why she was so aggressive and "judgey" when they confronted her. I don't think it's because she's homophobic, at least not mainly. That said, her attitude is very immature and she should have just talked to Haebeom if she was worried about him.
yes I totally agree, in fact I said something similar last week lol. she definitely isn't in the right here, but many people are also definitely misunderstanding how her point of view and experiences relate to her opinions and actions
What she did was stupid and absolutely uncalled for, but I feel many people misunderstand her. To her it isn't really about Haebeom and Ho relationship, it's about the possible rejection they face because of it. This is what I think her deal is (copy paste of one of my replies):
I think she feels "disconnected" from her peers in Seoul, especially when they talk about their parents, she can't really relate with their relationship with their family and is also jealous of said relationship (even if she hates feeling that way). This inability to truly connect and relate with her friends in Seoul made her feel isolated and not "normal". In Japan and Korea, and other asians country, being "normal" is being like the others, like your peers, you don't want to stand out, to be different. Many people there don't consider being "unique" as desirable, but on the contrary something to avoid if possible. So for her being "normal" is really important and if you're not, you become isolated which is very painful (this is her point of view). She seems to see Haebeom a bit like a older brother, or at least someone she really cares about (in a familial way I think, not a romantic one), so him and Ho being in a relationship when she knows they can both be with a woman, basically means to her that they CHOOSE not to be "normal", which is just unbelievable and, well, kinda unacceptable to her, who so want to be "normal", with a "normal" family, but just cannot be. To her credit, it's true that homosexuality and especially having a child raised by an homosexual couple is far less socially accepted in Korea than in the US or western Europe. And we're talking about the small countryside here, where it's probably even more frowned upon. She told them that by choosing to be in a relationship they risk being shunned and isolated by their community, and in her eyes, the risk just isn't worth taking. She just can't understand them taking it, and project her own feelings of isolation and rejection into their situation, that's why she was so aggressive and "judgey" when they confronted her. I don't think it's because she's homophobic, at least not mainly. That said, her attitude is very immature and she should have just talked to Haebeom if she was worried about him.
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Thank you!
yes I totally agree, in fact I said something similar last week lol. she definitely isn't in the right here, but many people are also definitely misunderstanding how her point of view and experiences relate to her opinions and actions