i think ibelina should just try and explain some things to alejandro. his behavior is obviously a result of the abuse and isolation he suffered. maybe if she just put her role as a maid aside and just talked to him as a friend, he would understand other feeling better, it would make him more empathic.
when i see characters struggling with their feelings and questioning if the person they like likes them back i always go “oH MY GOD! IT’S OBVIOUS THEY LIKE YOU TOO, JUST TALK!” but i know that if i was in the same situation, my insecure ass would act just like them lmao