As a victim his reaction is normal and valid we tend to get afraid on our abuser and follow them than the people who has gut to safe us. The abuser shape us this way train us we got used to it till now am old I still flinch to random person when they raise there hands at me or touch me unaware or when I hear a loud bang I even hate someone touching my hair cause I would think they will grab it. I hate myself too cause it's been a years now still I can't heal it's like a permanent scar.