Moehlikuh20

Switch...switch is rare.. *sighs*

switch... is so rare it hurts...

Fr I need more of them

A switch couple is a couple that switches between dom/sub roles. A vers couple is a couple that do both top/bottom roles.

You're not the one making the law out there, nerd.

If you're gonna read stories about queer relationships, then at least learn about the most basic of terminologies about queer relationships lol, I didn't make that shit up, it's been up there since before your sorry fetishizing ass was born, dumbass.

You're right technically, but in casual use people often say switch even when they mean vers

Ahh i'm glad you answered, but huh, sorry but, as a bi man, i'll be reading porn fetishinzing men and women i much as i like thank you

Also, i didn't mean for my message to come off as rude, but it's okay either way, but i mean it was really nerdy of you, like who cares if it's not the perfect terminology
when a girl says she's gay, everyone understands she's a lesbians, no one is gonna come up to her and say "actually, the correct term is", like everyone gets it and it's not necessary to separate people's gayness by gender (but i'm getting off topic)

Well here it's the same, nerd, everyone got it, gay or not, everyone understood what op was talking about

(nerds are cute, really don't take this the wrong way sis, but i've often been told i sound rude, i won't apologize for it, but i know where you're coming from at least)

I won't lie and say that comment didn't offend me, because it did. It wasn't the 'nerd' comment, but the fact that you replied so defensively without asking for more clarification. Especially since there is no apology to forgive anyways. And I'm not as childish as to be offended by grade-level nicknames so that's fine, that aside. I'd rather be a nerd than ignorant, soooo.

Let me explain some things, in queer terminologies, GAY applies to anyone in LGBTQ. So a lesbian calling herself gay isn't incorrect. However, switch and vers are NOT interchangable. Why? Switch is exclusive to the BDSM community, to discern preferences. Someone part of the BDSM is part or at the very least SUPPORTS LGBTQ. The other way around is not always applicable. You can be QUEER but don't necessarily have to be part of the BDSM community. Which is why SWITCH cannot be easily thrown around, as it specifically related to DOMINANT and SUBMISSIVE roles. Vers, however, can be used by ANY gay. Any gay that wants to get fucked, and any gay that wants to fuck. Which is why, again, switch cannot be used easily. If a person says, "oh I'm a switch!", and meaning it in the manner of "I top and bottom", other people who are aware of the meaning will assume that "oh you like BDSM" or "you do both Dom/sub! Cool" it creates a bigger misunderstanding unlike the simple example you attempted to give, like the "gay/lesbian"

It's not that hard really. Everyone understood what op was talking about, because they don't know the difference either. I highly doubt any of the commenters here knew about the term versatile either, but that's just my personal doubt.

The only casual use I've seen switch being used in is by BL and GL readers, most often those who don't even do D/S roles (yes, even the queer ones) and never by those who are actually part of D/S community.

Yeah no it must be my bad for real, i've never had trouble getting understood or understanding people when they told me they switched, weather it was the role or the dynamic, the context made it obvious, so seeing a human say "actually" under my porn on my illegal website, was kinda funny (i'll clarify, not in a bad way, just?? who cares kinda vibe, but it's great that you share your knowledge)

(I must say i'm not that much in the community, i just date people and i couldn't care less about all the terminology and labels, my ignorance clearly steams from that and, to be completely honest i don't really care about learning more about that at the moment i think)

Oh no... I feel like.... like i'm back in school- oh no- Stop, NOOOOOO, joke aside, again, i didn't know people in the BDSM community are by default in the queer community, i've seen some people who'd beg to differ, so like, who makes the rules?? is it a commonly agreed upon thing??
Or did we pick up every sexual/gender minority on the way and that's why they're part of us??
(okay you got me, now i'm asking questions, good job nerd.)

Yeah but, if everyone understood what OP meant because no one knows the difference... is there even a need for such difference?? i mean, this is not a BDSM dating website, so ultimatly, no one here is gonna be led on or misguided + clearly everyone shares the same knowledge but you, so as long as the community understands itself here isn't it fine??
But i get that in a bdsm context, it's easier to have more words to save time on a profile