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I don't know about you but I feel his pain. Someone used me just to make their ex jealous too and he has been doing it for two months before he finally told me.

My bad I wanted to dislike

Yeah I literaly said i get it but claiming that every single thing that person has done is because of someone else is just a stretch In my opinion. Like was it shitty? Yeah. Does it realistically mean she did everything because of another man? No.

That's shitty in it's own way too. You won't get what people go through unless you're in the same shoes. I know she didn't do it simply because of her ex but that's something HE doesn't know yet unless she explains everything. Imagine being in the same shoes but all you found out is the bad side. She had her time to explain it but she didn't. Thus why he's having such thoughts.

He doesn't know that's why he has to communicate. He found out something which he actually didn't even get confirmed so it's just speculation on his part only we readers know that it's true then he took it all the way and assumed that everything she has ever done is to bait another man. So he doesn't know if its even true yet he's assuming absolutely horrible things without asking or communicating in the slightest. After he confirms what actually happened that's when this would be fitting. Like again I get it I understand but hello he has not even asked a single question about it. He's an adult who wants a serious relationship in those you have to use words or itll all fall apart. I said he's dramatic because he's making these claims (in his mind obvi) without a single information about what's actually going on. He has all the right to be angry, sad or whatever else but when it's actually justified in the story I'd yk what I mean

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It's not claims? It's a fact. She did use her at first. Why does he have to take he initiative to communicate when she's the one at fault? I'm a woman too but sometimes women makes mistakes which they should step forward and start to explain instead of waiting for the man to ask them himself. Men get hurt too and it's not right for women to just sit back, wait for the man to approach them first when they should be the one to take the initiative and explain themselves.

She did use him*

But he doesn't know its a fact. Am not defending her am also not taking this stance because she is a woman am saying if you have a problem take care of it instead of waiting. No matter the gender a person should take the initiative if they need to find something out so you can get out of the situation as quickly as possible. What good is it gonna do him to just wait for her. If you feel wronged shove it in their face and make them take responsibility. Waiting for them to be the first to speak is not a punishment like hah I got you, you had enough time to prepare emotionally to tell me this horrible news and am gonna be the one who's hurt at the end. Like wth he has to do something so he knows what's happening and so he can hold her accountable. Being the first to speak is not some punishment, its not putting you in a lower position none of that, actually being the active one gives you the upper hand ofc she has to explain herself but why does she have to initiate the conversation (meaning why can't the one who was wronged do it, not anything with gender)? He can talk to her, get the whole picture, account for the fact that she did not tell him sooner and figure out if she's worth it for him or not