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lol draws so elegantly when it’s supposed to be a comedy lol. Wanna read a fun isekai?

of course

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/i_was_reborn_as_a_housekeeper_in_a_parallel_world/
You can tell it was supposed to be a fun ride. Ofc the art does get a little better but I didn’t see a lot of the stuff coming.

she a baddie in her own way

Kids don't just turn out like that they are sponges. If you treat ur workers like dirt so will your kid. If you treat ur wife like a second class citizen in ur own home ur kids will treat women like that.
This behavior doesn't come from nowhere.
It's learned no matter how naturally aggressive ur kid is If you treat others with kindness they will redirect their aggression into more productive means not that hard.

Some parents make the world a worse place because they reproduce. ┑(￣Д ￣)┍

I agree, but kids can become bullies anyway even with good parents because school plays a HUGE role in their life. I've seen the nicest parents EVER with bratty ass kids, parenting is not just showing them how to treat other people, if you can't discipline them right they turn out bitchy anyways. Kids are difficult and beating their asses should be the last option to turn to but if they turn out to be someone aggressive with no respect or empathy for others (like the kid in the story), then a beating is (sometimes) necessary

Shit, people say kids turn out like that now a days because parents are now gentle parening their children, but in reality it's parents who are too lenient on their kids and don't keep their promises. It don't matter if you beat your kids or not, a kid without a parent that sticks to their word and does not monitor their behavior, is always gonna end up like that brat.

truee, some people I know said were actually glad they were beat as kids

I agree. The main issue, regardless of parenting style, is parental involvement. Most of the students with behavioral problems (not caused by trauma or mental disorders) also have parents who are either uninvolved or make excuses for their children. I disagree with hitting children (my parents never hit me or my siblings), but a lot of parents misunderstand that they're the disciplinarian, not an equal with their children. I've seen parents try to negotiate good behavior with their children, which only lasts for a day or two. While parents should strive to be a safe place their children can turn to, they still need to have firm boundaries to prevent the child from running wild. If they're involved with their kids, the kids will WANT to behave well to please their parents, which was my personal experience with my upbringing.

I also agree with the reply regarding peer influence. Raising children is very challenging, but during their formative years, being involved can significantly influence the kind of friends your child will have. I've experienced it myself and I've heard kids say "my mom says I can't be friends with you" lol. Anyway, sorry for the long response; I'm very passionate about this issue given my occupation, and seeing all the children raised by the internet instead of their parents (iPad babies) disheartens me about the future.

Insaneeee

True, people often misunderstood the "beating-your-ass" punishment to an actually physical abuse.

Guys, it's not the same.

Of course, some people wouldn't undertand cuz they don't experience it.

I’m actually one of them. I have experienced fair amount of beatings from both my Mum and Dad. Looking back, I felt sorry that I was such a difficult child for my parents. Esp since I received a lot of love from them. I feel that if not for their discipline, I would def turn out like a spoiled kid you see on TV.

Idk there's a thin line between both. I got beat and it wasn't anything I want my kids to go through. It just ain't okay in any scenario because many parents get power hungry over it and go too far.

No, it made sense in some scenario. Of course, beating is the last resort. But you see, some people won't get it unless you beat them to it.

Sorry you experience that, maybe what you experience is the physical abuse one, not the same as us, though everyone have different experience and have different opinion about it.

We can joke about it cuz we're grateful we'd been discipline much to not be a bad child. So it's not an actually very bad thing for us.

Nah I was a brat when I was a kid. I was beat because I wouldn't listen or didn't want to go to school. However guess what I'm still a brat. I never had bruises and I was never neglected. I'm mexican trust I joke about it too. It's just weird that people are glad they were beat as a kid why would you want anyone to touch you and correct you through violence. What is that even teaching that you need to fight in order to get through someones head. Like? That's not teaching discipline that's teaching fear.

Also "some people wont get it unless you beat them" only really comes into play if they were beat as a child. If a parent manages to condition the child at a very young age to listen without violence then that would not be a problem. Since they would know that violence isn't the final resort and how far they can push them but instead when they say no is the final resort thats as far as they can push them.

Oh so its a 'you' problem. Ok, I get it. I mean, if you're still a brat even in this age then you really won't get us. It's okay. That's how it goes.

real and its eyes are funny af too