Starlight's Topics (105)

Prick is not a word I would use. Every human including men have their own issue. We are only seeing everything from her perspective. She might be dismissing things he might have done. Memory does that you. Beside he is not a mind reader. He could be reacting to her feeling. She was in strange mood. He might simply be relieved she has come out of depression.

He can't feel what woman is undergoing. It is not his body that is undergoing change. It is similar to how she is not able to understand a working mom's feeling when she needs to go and collect kid. You need to be in same boat to empathize. Some are born with empathy that is their thing. But for most experience and communication teaches things.

We don't know his side of story. She might have pushed him out during her serious mood swings. Given him impression she did not want kid. Assumption is easiest way to divorce. He is curt to his mom, gets to her work place when she needs him, suggest things to do when she is down.

They have communication gap. She doesn't let him know when she is not comfortable like not letting her know about work schedule or bento situation. If she says something and he does nothing then he is prick.

Not experiencing sth someone else is going through doesn't mean you can't show kindness. His verbal responses were dismissive. Your wife has a miscarriage and you decide to say lets go out and get food? She then berates herself saying she would've been a bad mom anyways and you guys just need each other, and you say "phew me too". That's prick behavior. Go take your lack media literacy somewhere else

She is pretty unreliable narrator, is emotional and judgmental. I don't have kids and have gone through miscarriage - so I have been in her situation. I can say this with complete assurance that there is divide line between ppl like me and one who have kids. I accept it. I help them and they pay me back when they can. Kids are overwhelming business. There are times when I feel mad for having to stay behind for someone whose kids are sick. But kids grow up and suddenly the same mom becomes free to take over your shift. When I heard someone say you can have fun, I simply tell me - don't worry one day your kids will grow up and you will have all time in the world. Just hang in there. Works like magic.

Coming back to story, she never said that her hubby did not want kid throughout the her brief pregnancy nor was his response against it when he first heard about it. They were newly wed and probably were not prepared for kid. Yet there was no negative response from his side. She was the one who pushed for no kids. His phew could be that she has finally snapped out of her grief and is ready to live again. We don't know for how long she was in grief after miscarriage and what happened during that phase. Memory are funny business.

I swearrrrr. That’s the kicker. They are talking down in someone for not doing something that they chose to do. Absolutely crazy. I wonder how the story will progress.