ok i'm not justifying seo an's behavior but you can't really expect a full healthy relationship with two people who have deep rooted insecurities and traumas, do you??? they had a tough upbringing, that's why they have flaws and that's why they fuck up sometimes. that's just realistic to their character. i mean, just because he found someone he loves doesn't mean it's granted he'd change and be a green flag overnight.
when you expect them to act perfectly and stable, then you're missing out on why the story was made in the first place. they met under circumstances where they'd heal each other, it's a process so they're bound to hurt the other in some instances along the way.
nah but me personally if the person im dating is meeting up w their ex behind my back i wouldn't really feel good w that. esp since kitaoji has never failed to show his love for arima and now he's getting dragged and it's the same jealousy scene over and over again. this who ex thing is unnecessary and dragging
i haven't really read a lot of switching bls but this is a really good depiction of it