I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while, there have been some ups and downs. Now I feel like I’m in a really good spot. When we were going through rough patches, I had doubts about him as a long-term person and then I’d start feeling attracted to people in my life who, now looking back I realize, had those traits I wanted in him. I’ve told ...... reply
I grew up through most of high school into uni people pleasing, which lead me to not show when I felt uncomfortable.
I was in high school and a friend of mine drew a small picture of me laughing and labeled it with a title. I’d been gaining a lot of weight that year and was a bit insecure about it. He titled it “greasy pig” and showed it to...... 1 reply
Quarantine really had my mental health in a bad spot and all the days were just gloomy. School was rough on me and idk who tf I was anymore
But today I woke up knowing it was a Friday, skipped my classes (cant be doing that shit) and went on the walk in the sunshine y’all. THE TREES WERE LOOKJNG AT ME LIKE I WAS SOME KINDA MYSTICAL CREATURE AND ...... reply
I have a fear of being looked down on by people who I'm close to. And I didn't even know, it was just something that I felt and didn't realize. It sounds so simple to the point that it could be rephrased "well yeah no one likes being looked down on by their close circle of friends or family". But I was internally always afraid of it and stressed ab...... 1 reply
Those are two different mental maturity levels. Party A could be starting to still be in high school. Party B could be ending college to trying to pay off a mortgage
When I was in high school I used to sometimes romanticize having an older boyfriend who was 20. Someone older and wiser and could take care of me. It seemed romantic at the time but ...... reply
I get anxious about my anxiety. I get anxiety from other people’s anxiety BAHAHHAH
When I think back on how I spent my time being anxious and letting that get in the way of what I wanted to try I’m filled with regret…and that makes me anxious (⊙…⊙ ) reply
Maybe it takes a stronger connection for someone to be considered your friend. To other people you might say they’re a ‘friend’ like how I have ‘acquaintances’. And what you really consider a friend is a ‘close friend’. Some people are more casual about the word ‘friend’ and might not think of it as deeply as you.
When someone a...... reply
I think I really loved reading anything by Zaria
There was:
- Sekaiichi Hatsukoi
- Junjou Romantica
- anything by Yoneda Kou~~~
- Leopard Hakusho & other stuff by Ougi Yuzuha
- goodness the stuff by Mei Sakuraga
- close the last door
- acid flower
I guess it really was all about the yaoi hands 1 reply
That is a conflict. A half confrontational mostly passive aggressive one. The diplomatic way to go about it:
— see if they’re in the mood to chat, take turns talking about what upset you both and acknowledge it or apologize sincerely. Keep it like a calm convo if you can and ideally you both should have the goal of wanting your friendship to w...... 1 reply
TLDR: Are these just the low points with some friends? or am I in something toxic?
Hello again. This is another post passing by asking anyone for possible input into friendships. I need more perspectives to consider
I have this friend. Over the course of our friendship, conflicts naturally occur. I don't exactly think that they happen too often but honestly, I can't tell what's considered "normal" in terms of frequency either. But I consider conflicts to be an opportunity for growth
And the pattern usually goes like this: something wrong happened, we talk about it, we resolve it. Except the "we talk about it" phase often makes me frustrated or sad. Sometimes the conversation is constructive and wholesome. That's the dreaaaam
But most of the time, I'm getting a really aggressive approach from them. And by the time we resolve it, they touch on how they were aggressive or apologize for it. But I still get really scarred from how they came on in the conversation
I'm also not sure if that's just something that I need to work on letting go because they take accountability for what they say too.
I'm getting the idea that they're working on themselves so maybe it's just a process for them to be a bit aggressive but realize it later. And it'll probably get better over time. But I'm also worried that in future conflicts, they'll be aggressive again, even though it's a process that they're working on.
I don't know how to feel when our future conflict resolution becomes aggressive and deep, instead of constructive and deep. Is this just someone who's having a hard time going through how reactive they are to stuff? or am I in something toxic that I should consider leaving?
I've known them for a while, so my life with them is a habit to me. I really can't tell. Memes are always welcome ty
I had mangago all up in my DMs. I felt special. Mangago even listened to me. They wrote to me about how the questions that got took down also took down my answers. And you know what they did?
They wrote my answers back for me to see what I missed (●￣(ｴ)￣●) they wrote back every single one. errmaagosh I could've cried of happiness
And then a thread popped up and I found out I was just a side hoe bc they were all up in other people's DMs T-T
Then a while after we stopped talking, mangago messages me again and quotes my answer for the question that got removed. Oh no you guys... I'm feeling special again. My feels. Just tell me if I'm a side hoe again ╥﹏╥
want to do break old habits
