Stavious's Questions (29)

Chap 111

I'm like 99% sure
It starts like 1/3 into the chapter

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The book being burnts nothing new,imao.

What happend??

tldr it was mainly this tweet that pissed of alot of the people she was pandering to that got her "cancelled"

Source: https://twitter.com/jk_rowling/status/1207646162813100033

IDK man as a person from SEA these stuff on my feed are something that i could live without but its entertaining to some extent, almost like watching a dumpsterfire LOL

She's not the first. ┑(￣Д ￣)┍ Art (no mater which form it takes) , always pays for what their creator did.

Art has no opinion, but the fact their creator does bother people. Actually, they can't admit they liked something done by someone who goes against their opinion. That's nothing new.

thats true but like do people nowadays have that big of a pride or maybe its just me being busy most of the time that stuff like these goes under the radar

mofos be burning books like it'll summon Harry Potter to fight off Jk Rowling's opinions lmao

The issue lies in the popularity. If she was less known, it would have done no damages.
But the fact she's one of the most well-paid author in the world and her works has had such a big audience doesn't let her the right for such unpopular opinion.

And some people had too much admiration for this book, thus, for the author. Liking one and denying the second is impossible for close-minded people. And for some, it's about pride. They can't admit they liked something, that the creator got this much out of her art, and has unpopular opinion. Don't know how to explain it in English. But when it comes to "morals" and "opinions" and in her case, "lgbt and all", people are unreasonable.

But not going to lie, I don't care about opinions in this story and though I'm not a fan of H.P, people who burn books are unacceptable people anyway.

I don't think it goes under your radar though. It's just that this kind of act is out of proportion. (Does it make sense?)

As for me, I really love this one book written by a racist and antisemit author. But for all I care, that book is hell of great. And a work should never be dismissed because of an author. Don't call yourself a book lover if this much is enough to waver your love for a work.

i see your point peeps nowadays make small things into a mountain nowadays, heck even something that is meant to be fun like books, tv shows and jokes are now apparently offensive. Then again one of the perks being in SEA is that everyone here tends to mind their own buisness lol then again I ought to enjoy the stuff i like to read despite people branding it as something offensive and phobic, man stuff like this makes me feel like im too old for the net and im in my mid 20's

Riiight! I feel the same sometimes. xD Can I just Ask what "SEA" stands for?

South East Asia

does anyone know the context like why she tweeted that? cause i dont get the last part about "stating sex is real" im so confused did she mean sex as in sexyal intercourse or sex as in the sex of a person?

I see, though stuff like that tend to confuse me here where I'm living we really don't give a crap what you do as long as you do no harm, its not that im conservative or liberal, heck personally i have a mish mash of opinions that go too far left and too far right(eg: I'm pro life and against abortion cuz where I'm from we are taught that human life is sacred, I also support equality in rights for people of all walks in life this is also due to how we were taught, we were taught by jesuit priests btw from there u can sort of narrow down where im from.) But to get straight to my point I'm curious as to why you are disappointed cuz I personally find it interesting as to how people think in regards to the situation and I also like comparing and contrasting peoples thoughts on the mater. If yyou do not mind that is.

Correct me if Im wrong or if there is something missing but she's talking bout the trans women(XY chrmosomes) vs biological women(XX chromosomes) and that they should be segregated in sports and the public restrooms , from what I can infer people are disappointed in her since she agrees that trans women(XY) should be segregated from biological women(XX) and peeps are angry at her since this stuff is transphobic (i dun get this phobic thing to be honest so she's afraid of trans people idk) and she is supposedly and LGBT activist?

* I used chromosomes kuz its confusing for me as I've been searching for a non confusing tldr, I did not grow in the west I'm from SEA and here we tend separate gender from sex not to mention we only have one prounoun in our native language that is applicable to all so do forgive me if u are pissed since this is how we've been taught.

oh dont worry im not pissed haha i was just confused, thank you for explaining :). and honestly i do think that when she calls herself an LGBT activist that this is really disappointing. also what she said is so contradictory? as in you can do whatever you want~~ but then she's implying that trans people should not be allowed to be who they want to be.so i get why people are mad at her

Interesting, yo be fair you have the same insight as how the atheist and agnostic peeps in where i live, here in where i live sadly although the state and religion is separated by law, the masses think otherwise. Not to mention the media in our place doesn't help.
Why do u think that divorce law in our place is not yet a think. For me im pro divorce(since i have many friends and relatives being caught in a middle of a toxic and abusive relationship, and they are stuck with each other or caught in the crossfire.). Btw thanks for sharing ur insights, i rarely get to here these types of responses to these topics since peeps where im at are concerned more with other issues

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I am not sure if I get what she means with her sentence. but from the medical point of few there are only 3 genders (or not?) penis; vagina; penis+vagina. so somebody with a vagina cant (or shouldnt) visit a doc who treats penisies right?
guess the mature probl is with toilets at your workplace. like a woman is empressed to pee beside sombody who has a penis. for me, if I am drunk- lol I fucking dont care. but when I am at work... I cant piss when sombody else is on the toilett too :/ strange thing.

Just wanted to rectify a part: the "(or shouldn't)" is not necessary. They simply CAN'T. Those two specialist are completly different since penises and vaginas don't work the same. You can't go to a "penis doctor" (lmao I don't know how to say it in English so it makes my answer look ridiculous) for vagina's problem as you can't go to a gynecologist to cure penis' dysfonctions. They might know a bit, but they don't be able to cure you nor have the right. (At least, that's how it work in France)

As for toilets, there's also women who had bad experiences with it and would feel really bad bumping onto a "man?" in the bathroom. And men could also feel really unconfortable with it. And frankly, I don't even know which party to defend in this so I won't go in opinions, but yeah, there's lots of things to take into account.

just wanted that it not sound so 'harsh' bec. basicly I agree with the commetn from the author (if I get her right)its. nowadays its kinda complicated not to hurt anybody. people also feel offended when you just have a diff. opinion.

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Bronze

I know this one! I'll let you know once I remember the title

I'm not a jealous person but I don't want to share my lover. However if I see my friend in it, I'd respect their wishes as long as it isn't toxic.

It is different when you are just reading fiction though. I love Ntrs and gang bangs (YEAH YEAH I'M that kind of fujoshi)

Don't know about real life but i'm ok with polyamorous relationships in fiction. And yeah i'm from a conservative place too

I have the same opinion as u, it's fine as long as all the people involved consented to this kind of relationship and agreed to accept the responsibilities involving it.

However, personally, I myself wouldn't want to be involved in a polyamourous relationship. I am worried that this type of relationship wouldn't last long; like, in my eyes, it's easier to encounter problems that could lead to a break-up; especially since there are more people involved.

Since this is uncommon, most people wouldn't be used or even easily agree to it, therefore, there's a possibility that there would be a slight discomfort/ opposition to the idea inside a person's subconsciousness. If an event occurs where an individual sees that the other two feels closer, jealousy could blossom; like they may feel left out and think that they are just being dragged along. (ofc, this is only a possibility, there are other possible reasons)

In the end, it's their choices, if they want to at least experience it, trusts and loves all the people involved then go for it. I just don't recommend it imo.

wow my grammar today is on point! (not), but hopefully, u get my point. To put it shortly; it's their choice, just be aware about the people involved, consequences, responsibilities, etc etc... think carefully

As long as it's between consenting adults, it shouldn't be an issue. Of course I imagine it's harder to maintain a healthy and balanced relationship when there are more people involved. It's definitely not for me, but I do think there are a few people who can make it work.

As long as there is consent I don't see the problem. I personally wouldn't mind being in an (all parts consenting) poly relationship myself tbh lol.

I personally do not agree to a polymourous relationship but still I have respect for people who are into it, I mean, it is their life and they can do what they want. A polymourous relationship shouldn't be a problem as long as there is consent from each individuals in the relationship. Though I'm really curious as to how they can maintain a balance distribution of affection and attention towards their partners? Or more like, on how they work with it. It seems to be complicated to me. I just don't like the idea of sharing my lover to other people so I'm a little bit opposed to it. I'm quite possessive you see. Just thinking of my lover being overly friendly with someone else makes me annoyed. ╮(￣▽￣)╭

You mean like a polyamory relationship right?
Well i absolutely hate it. (My opinion)
I mean to me its like an excuse for people who dont know who to truly love or like an excuse for cheating kinda like "your my gf we have been in a relationship for 6 years but this girl is hot so im keeping you both" im okay wih people being in on it but me? In a polyamory? No way. And i think that polyamory wouldnt be a succesful kind of relationship cause there will always be a time ONE OF THEM would feel incomplete and would start wondering what its like to be That ONE AND ONLY person he/she loves the most...

Personally, I don't mind. As long as all parties consent to the relationship, it's not really my business. I do have my reserves about it; I tend to avoid fictional works that depict it b/c I just can't really relate to it and that feeling makes me uncomfortable (but who knows, if it was a more common depiction, maybe I'd be more open to reading about it--Note: Poly and threesomes aren't the same thing so don't @ me saying poly is a common depiction in fiction)

Personally, I don't mind. As long as all parties consent to the relationship, it's not really my business. I do have my reserves about it; I tend to avoid fictional works that depict it b/c I just can't really relate to it and that feeling makes me uncomfortable (but who knows, if it was a more common depiction, maybe I'd be more open to reading about it--Note: Poly and threesomes aren't the same thing so don't @ me saying poly is a common depiction in fiction)

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I don't know why you can't quite accept trans, but may I ask why it is that you can't understand them?
They are people that are born in the wrong body(i.e. a female brain in a male body) and don't feel comfortable in their own skin and therefore want to alter their body to feel better. Although some undergo transformation because of trauma too

Although I'm not trans so I can't exactly speak from their viewpoint but those are my beliefs? haha

Also by not calling them by their preferred pronouns, that's pretty disrespectful, no?

Yeah, and 30 years earlier you might have been saying "I accept black people but not gay people." The fact of the matter is, you feel this way because you're a product of your times, and whilst homosexuality has become acceptable within the frame of mainstream ideology, trans movements are still fighting their way towards acceptance. So, whilst I think it's incredibly wrong to not accept trans people, it makes sense that you wouldn't.

Since you don't want people to be sensitive, I'll be blunt with you. It seems that you don't really think for yourself, and act on the basis of emotions that the world has conditioned you with. Good people try to escape the times and its instincts, and focus on what is better for humanity. Accepting that other people feel more comfortable in other bodies makes you a better person, simply put.

I'm w you in this one. But sadly, dear, voicing out our opinion in this apparently makes us "-phobic"

I also agree with you, idk why but to me once you're born with a certain gender you stay like that biologically speaking, even if they do surgeries or take pills.
However If they want to act like a man or woman being the opposite sex I won't mind, if they want me to use certain pronoun with them I'll do it or just call them by their names.

(╯°Д °)╯╧╧ idk if this is contradictory but that's what I think, honestly.

firstly im from the Philippines, you can sort of peg as to why from there.
Second, another is that in where im from in the philippines, from what i notice, though being trans is tolerated, most people (from what i noticed) tend to downplay it.
The main reason why for me is that, i just don't see them as people in the wrong body, I think of them as people who just prefer to act feminine or masculine. (something akin to a personality trait, which isn't bad itself/ rather i see them as similar to people into drag/).
Another reason why is that, all though you want others to call them the desired pronoun, I don't think others will take it to easy, not to mention there are times that trans people often used the public bathroom, which as a guy I have no problem, but what if a trans woman(female brain w/ male body) got in and were to do some questionable things. Though this is not a common occurance but it could happen.

Not sure if this is the factor but there was a time here in my school that they tried to make trans rights a thing, initially only a few were vocal the rest were having better things to do, but after 2 months they with held this policy due to some people abusing it. Such as guys claiming they are trans just so they could go in the restroom of the opposite sex.

That's why im sort of reluctant about trans people as some of them may just be people looking to mess around with you.

In wherever you are from s this to shallow or not cuz we do have different standards.

I guess you're right, however I'm not sure if I will be able to fully accept them, perhaps the next generation may do that, since they just properly introduced sex education from where im from(I'm from the Philippines btw).

You are correct in a way. Sex is what you are born as, so even if you indetify as a male if you are born with a vagina your sex is still female. Gender identity is a different thing though. People who are trans have to deal with something called gender dysphoria. It’s where your entire being is telling you that your in the wrong body. It’s a tough thing to deal with even without being surrounded by a none supportive environment.
Also if the guys who were ‘claiming to be trans to try and get into the women’s bathroom’ weren’t trans then why hate the trans community for that?
It’s important to know that a lot of countries have past laws to let people use the bathroom that they identify with because there have been many cases where trans people have been attacked for using their assigned sex’s bathroom. The whole ‘getting attacked in a locker room or bathroom’ because of the bathroom laws is based merely on fear rather than fact at least in Canada and America according to statistics.
This article talks about it a little bit: https://www.cnn.com/2017/03/07/health/transgender-bathroom-law-facts-myths/index.html

I just think that people can do whatever they want with their body because it’s their body? As long as your not hurting anyone who really cares. Just a personal opinion though.

yea. some parts of your argument are valid. however, not addressing them with their preferred pronouns could be disrespectful especially if you're talking to them. you did say that you wouldn't disrespect them. i think normalizing to address them properly is a big step in doing so.

think of it this way,

"miss" has the same meaning as "woman" but we use "miss" to address the ladies because it holds more courtesy. randomly calling someone "woman" will make her uncomfortable or offended.

the same should go for transpeople. if calling them with their "correct" pronouns makes them uncomfortable or offended, maybe stop doing it?

i'm not trans and it's not my intention to pretend i know jackshit either. i am just sharing my take on this.

i respect your opinion but what i don't like is that "i will never call them to the pronouns that they will use," as i trans person myself that's a bit disrespectful,,

Tbh I feel kinda apathetic towards trans since it doesn't concern me that much. Whatever they do to they body is their decision. However, for courtesy's sake I just call them they/"person's name", I find it too troublesome to keep in mind about what gender they want to be called; would that still count as being disrespectful? I thought it's a safe option to do that.

m8, i personally don't think that using "they" or "them" to refer to transpeople is disrespectful. tho i still think it's better we know whether they're okay with it.

if you find keeping in mind what gender they want to be called troublesome, then let me ask you this: would you prefer me casually calling you enigma irl just because it's your social media handle?

I see, that's understandable. Also, tbh it would catch me off-guard at first (like id say "how'd u know I use that site?!"), then I'd probably get used to it after awhile and go with it. Idc what label u put me in, as long as it's not blatantly insulting.

Asexuals don't feel sexual attraction. That is all. They can be in romantic relationships, they just don't initiate sex, they can do just fine without it. Yes, they can have sex, they can even masturbate, some of them don't want to, don't have the need to, are even repulsed, but they don't avoid romantic relationships as you said.
Aromantic people are people who don't feel romantic attraction. They can be repulsed and therefore avoid it on purpose.
Now, about your opinion- I too am a bit confused by that because I just can't see trans people as mentally healthy enough. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying they're insane and disgusting. I don't think that. I actually respect them a lot, they're brave, I call them by what they want me to call them and I am always careful with my words around them because some of them may be going through a lot. But I feel like they have body dysmorphia and changing genders won't really help them since they're just trying to fit into the patriarchal stereotypes of a man and woman. Being a man or a woman is so much more. And we can clearly see that with certain people who embrace their femininity or masculinity despite their sex and/or gender. I feel like the system did us such harm that people can't be comfortable in their own skin. I also feel like there isn't enough research to help solve the problem of dysmorphia, only the ways that require money and that support the capitalistic dominance.

I'm sorry if it did offend you but personally I think of it as just trying to play safe, since I really don't wanna offend others even more, I would not use their prefered prounous but would opt to use gender neutral pronouns/ prounouns that don't have any sort of gender conotations (like we have here in the philippines as all pronouns don't just directly point, I use the pronoun, siya and would often code switch in the middle of the conversation just so I would avoid using english pronouns.) BTW thanks for your input, cuz i really was looking for someone trans to address this and am hoping to possibly help me understand why people like you think the way they do. :)

ohhh ok and your welcome,,

and i hope soon you'll understand why we do what we do and think the way we think, i hope you have a lovely morning/evening/night

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Maybe??
I only remember it because the post below mentioned it (≧∀≦)

Yeah it is caramel honey, one of my all time faves love his brothers story more though