I just turned 22 this month and I haven't had a significant other since 8th grade ╥﹏╥. I'm currently in university but I haven't met anyone interesting and even if I do get crushes and try to get to know them no one is interested in me. My cravings for love is growing and as much as I try to ignore it and try to focus on work and stuff it still looms over me. Plus I think my overbearing parents and romance comics I read don't help in the slightest. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has similar feelings and how do u manage it?
I'm nearly 20, & I've never been in a relationship. I've been in love with my best friend for 5 years, & I've only had 2 whole crushes in my life. My love life is pretty non-existent haha... I don't think I get crushes easily at all, it takes me a long time to fall in love & get to know a person. I'm kind of afraid no one will love me because I can't even love myself. I mean who would even remotely like me haha.. not a bright outlook on my love life.
Pretty sure everyone gets anxious. Have you tried dating apps? They do their job of helping you understand what your interests are by meeting people that you think you might be interested in, makes you less anxious, too, as time goes by.
Also, I saw your other post about you liking your friend. Feel free to talk to me about it, as I am also in the same situation. I am seeking advice as well.
Im 24, I never dated anyone. I never had this interest or even if I was bit curious about others relationships or stuffs I never came to think myself having a relationships ... Im not lesbian nor Im interest in any boy. Its just that I wonder how can people fall in love.... isnt it boring ? I can spent my life like this I am now... Im gonna graduate from university this next year.. Im still single ... also I never slept with anyone... woah I never even kissed anyone.. ah... I feel like a nun (fujoshi) .
btw you can try dating me I dont care anymore boy girl doesn't matters... bring it on :v
Brooooo i have the same condition, the last relationship I had is when I was 11th grader. I am 22 too and graduated from uni. But i know why I didn't make a relationship till now cz I too realize myself isn't appealing enough now. I've gotten dark and close myself from others *late rebel i guess. Friendship is okay, but more than that... I just can't.
But here myself regretting my changes becoming habits, I need someone to love too!!! I wanna be my old self but didn't have any opportunity anymore cz it's going to be work and work only after this urgh.
At least you're still in the uni, go get yourself a love! I mean before you got yourself hooked on works. Open yourself to others, starting as a friend is ok i guess. Look for online dating apps or socmed friends will help i guess. I hope the best for your love life!! At least you should be happier than me (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
Same though, haven't had a relationship since 7th grade if u even wanna call it that, currently 21! I mean I get sad about think I will be alone forever, but it help to just focus on myself it's hard though when everyone else is dating.
lol how embarrassing. yeah i kinda solved that issue. it's kinda complicated. If you wanna talk id like that.
ha ha thanks for the offer but im not much into internet dating. still friends would be ok for me (￣∇￣"). I kinda wish I was like that but i guess I crave that human interaction you know. I wouldn't call love boring too. I mean you get curious about someone and you try to learn about that person and you fall in love I guess. The hard part is getting someone curious about you.
thanks I'll be graduating soon too!
No i feel that way about myself too sometimes. I guess the trick is looking at things about yourself and seeing your own strengths even if you don't think they are that great. You know how to juggle, great. You have a talent for sleeping till one in the afternoon even better. It really shouldn't be just things you can do but things you like to do you know. I hope that makes some sense.
I feel like those are really just for people looking for sex and not something much more intimate but thanks for the advise.
Not at all. I've met many interesting people through it that eventually became friends. It's a lifesaver especially for queer people like me.
first confession of my life, friendzone ~ sniff sniff
lol :v ... oka best of luck.... hope you will fine your love soon.
Hey guys, I'm a pansexual woman (21) and I've come to realize I'm kinda atracted to my best friend who is also a woman. I kinda uncovered these feelings when she confessed to me that she was bisexual and was crushing on a female classmate at her uni. When that happened I felt pretty sick to my stomach. At first I assumed it was just friendship jealousy but slowly I came to realize how my feelings in our friendship were. I did usually crush on other at my uni (we attend different universities) but when ever I hung out or talked with her every one just disappeared. And it's little things that made me realize how I saw her as a possible significant other. I eventually did confess to her (albeit very awkwardly) but she kindly turned me down saying that in other circumstances perhaps. We still treat each other as best friends but I feel that something is different. I just don't know if it's good or bad.
Your going to feel sad because she likes somebody else but it's an ok thing but you need to make a move and gane her trust on make he feel some kina why
So I have been on the other side of the equation where a close friend told me that they liked me. I turned them down because I didn’t have any feelings for them however it was a little awkward for a while. After spending some more time together and talking things through we got back into the same groove and things went back to how they were before and the awkward atmosphere left.
Maybe in this circumstance she is considering it though and that’s why the atmosphere is different?
Is it an awkward atmosphere or a romantic tension between you? It can be hard to differentiate sometimes if you can’t tell what the other person is feeling. My suggestion is even if it is awkward, I would talk about it with her. Sometimes it’s best to clear the air and get things out in the open. Who knows? She might be worried about the situation too.
Everything will work out with time..better than my friend who found out I had crush on her nd she called me disgusting (among our friend circle)nd that comprised my awful teenage years..
Wow sorry to hear that. Luckily all my friends have been supportive towards my sexual orientation. And thanks for ur suportive words.
First off, thanks for taking the time to answer my question i really appreciate it. Sometimes I feel that she may consider me as a possibility. After my confession it kinda just became unmentionable history so when we hung out for the first time (in a group to keep things cool) after it I was slightly worried she may feel awkward around me. My worries disappeared when she choose to sit next to me rather than next to our other friend.
I do still have other things I wanna ask her but I'm too worried that I might make her nervous. I honestly don't mind talking about things. I consider myself a very open person but her on the other hand tends to avoid topicsome that make her uncomfortable.
Trust me I've kinda low key flirt with her but I restrain myself because I don't want to make her feel awkward. I wish I could just ask her if she would be okay if I flirted with her but I honestly think I'd worry her or something.
Ur welcome :)
Good to know that they are open minded...when I say that I'll make a gf ppl think I'm joking...
Well I'm glad you told her and it's hard to say stuff like that especially if you don't want to ruin a friendship or alter it.. do feel like she doesn't see you in the same way as before? Or the bond yous two had is different now?
Well it's like idk she sees me as a friend and I feel that she is aware of my feelings yet she pulls me in somehow. Like for instance she was talking with a guy she likes and when I joined in on their conversation she teasingly accused me of cockblocking her. She has also more or less amazed of my openess on being queer. She has also mentioned how I seemailed to be a bit mascline (which is not true in my opinion yes I like wearing guy cloths but I very much like dresses and see myself as a women). She has no problem being touched by me and very much talks to me albeit at times she calls me and is awkward because she doesn't have anything to say she just wanted to call me.
Wowzies that sounds like she's playing with your feelings plus a feel like she doesn't know how she feels
Well i wouldn't want to accuse her of that. We've been friends since middle school (so like 8/9 years) and i can tell when she seems conflicted. I don't want to pressure her. She isn't as emotionally stable (and by that i mean she gets angry sad nervous and depressed easily). UGH i just want to talk to her about it but it makes me all worried now.
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Ahhhh I seee.. Well I would say if it's still happening by the end of the week then push your worries aside, and TALK WITH HER
Hey guys slight late update so me and my friend talked and it looks like she likes me too ╮(￣▽￣)╭. Problem is, since we both live very far away and lead such different lives we have decided to just remain friends. It was some conversation really. Since I had told her I was doing my best to keep myself busy and not think about love and such she apparently got depressed went to a party got drunk and kissed some girl (who this girl is I got no clue and in all honestly kinda bugs me and I wanna know who this girl is but i didn't want to press her for questioning). She told me how she felt and we talked and well here I am feeling kinda happy she likes me but at the same time kinda sad we can't really be more than friends.
Awww yayy!!
How's everyone holding up so far. Honestly I just found out that my lifestyle of being antisocial was actually in fact social distancing and apparently now it's cool.
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Ikr!!
The introvert era has begun