It’s unrealistic to the majority. These sort of stories make it seem as if women spasm in ecstasy from touching their breasts alone. It’s always this combo: Girl moaning like crazy and unable to talk, guy is silent and dirty talking to her. I’m not saying this can’t happen, but not everybody

Don’t be insecure about a standard created originally for the male gaze anyway even if it’s in a story like this, there’s always influence. Had porn in general not been so centred on male perspectives you would have seen more male moaning - the general reactions of male characters in straight porn are pretty mellow and plausible, and always wanting to have sex. Have you ever seen an enthusiastic fmc during sex in these stories? They’re always asking the ml to slow down or stop, or stop touching them in certain places, or crying and just overall looking like they’re not enjoying it whatsoever. It’s bottom barrel ass concepts, at least from what I’ve seen, round about ‘women mustn’t enjoy sex too openly but also the focus is entirely on their reaction and bodies when they do,’ like some big brother is watching these authors from their background posters subconsciously making them still somehow appeal to a misogynistic standard even when trying not to

And if a guy thinks there’s something wrong with you tell him to touch grass and reset his brain. We lose sight of what’s perfectly normal from a very misinformed ideal that favours what men like across the board. Don’t ever feel like you have to perform. Once you start faking, you’ve geared it entirely away from something you should enjoy freely, there’s not a single human deserving of that. If you ever catch yourself wallowing in these thoughts, ask yourself why your brain isn’t demanding that he’s vocal too and why he doesn’t feel pressure about it. Don’t be unfair on yourself

You ate that up ლ(´ڡ`ლ)

I recently came across this male porn star (don't make me start, just check that Ryan Driller dude (๑•ㅂ•)و✧ ) who always answers the question of "How to satisfy a woman?" in the interviews the same: "Just fucking LISTEN to what she ISN'T saying" and he is so right! It's not all about what we are vocal about, but the things that we aren't ╮(￣▽￣)╭

And yeah, I'm also not a screamer, so... ┗( T﹏T )┛

love you for writing this. it was real and comforting. I hope every female read this.