Hi! Sorry, it's not about yaoï and all but I couldn't find someone to turn to so here I am, asking your opinion. It's been almost 2 years since I'm in a relationship with a man and he's the first man I ever was in a relationship with. But it's been a few months since I don't feel really good about the relationship. I mean, we're like best friends and we really do love each other but some things have been disturbing our happiness. And since 2 or 3 weeks, it's like I want him to dump me. But at the same time, I want to stay with him because we've done a lot together and we still have plans to do together, ect. It's been 3 days since we don't talk to each other. We're just texting to let the other know that we're going outside. Yesterday, I had a dance competition. I met the dancers from my friend's other group. So, I met a certain guy with whom I began to talk. And despite of being with the other dancers of our group, we couldn't stop talking together, laughing together, staying together. I saw him a few times looking at me while I was doing things and also, when I moved to other spots in the really big room, he most of the time came to me. And I won't lie, he was really handsome and I liked his personality. While we were watching the performance of the other groups, we were standing really close (our arms were touching). My boyfriend arrived almost at the end of the competition and he saw us together (our group was here too but we were a little appart from them). When I noticed him, I saw that he was disappointed. When I went to him, he asked me who that was and why I was especially with him and not with everyone else. I was feeling a little bad for him because I didn't want to hurt him. We talked a little (I told him that it was nothing, that I ended up beside him by chance and he told me that he was disappointed in me and that he didn't want to talk to me for now) and then, he brought me back home. But while I was with my boyfriend, I saw the other guy glancing at me a few times. But I don't really know why. I felt that there was an attractiveness between us from the start but I don't know how to interpret it. And since yesterday, I can't stop thinking of him... I know this counts as cheating but I don't know, he just appears in my head out of nowhere and I want to know him better. I'm lost right now... I know that I want to stay with my boyfriend but since a few weeks, I feel like I'm not 100% in the relationship. I feel like something is lacking. I don't know if it'll go back to normal or not. I don't know if I really want to stay with my boyfriend. But I'm also afraid of leaving him and afraid of beginning a new relationship. I don't know anything anymore. My boyfriend and I communicate but we don't seem to always find an understanding. I don't know what to do... Am I weird? I don't know what to think about all of this. Could you please help me? Tell me what you think about all of this and what you would've done. Or anything else. Thank you for your replies and sorry for the long story (￣∇￣")
I mean it's not cheating you just lost some feeling with your current boyfriend if you feel like it's not gonna move anywhere then just end it tbh. Theres really no need to be dragging both of you guys along and wasting your time. But if you like this new guy you met at your dance competition alot then give it a try and see if you guys match better, just explain how you're feeling to your current bf, like not being 100% in it and how its lacking. Make it very clear to him if you are gonna break up with him (￣∇￣")
I mean it's not cheating you just lost some feeling with your current boyfriend if you feel like it's not gonna move anywhere then just end it tbh. Theres really no need to be dragging both of you guys along an... Trxsh♡
I know that it would be better to end it all because I've been exhausted by this relationship recently and all the other things. But I don't know if I must do it now or wait a few days to see if something gets better or not. Also, I'm afraid to dump him (￣∇￣") We've been together for awhile now and it would break his heart if I did this. We've planed a lot of thing and to think that all this is gonna vanish, it's frightening...
I know that it would be better to end it all because I've been exhausted by this relationship recently and all the other things. But I don't know if I must do it now or wait a few days to see if something gets ... acrazywolfy
You should wait a few days...oh and make sure you know how the guy you met, make sure his feelings are mutual before you do anything and your current bf wont get crazy, right? Like turn obsessive on you and not let you go? That's scary
well... Think about it twice. What do you know from this guy you've just met ? Yes he was handsome and attractive but your bf you've know him for 2 years ! A relationship that lasts that long may be unique. If you still want to break up you should thinking about knowing a little more this new guy. Otherwise you'll regret it. You're astonished because it's something new or thrilling but isn't "stability" a key for your happiness ? You may loose the two of them if you rush things. Anyway good luck(๑•ㅂ•)و✧ (sorry for my "not really perfect" english)
I think you just fallen out of love for your boyfriend .. of you ever loved him in the first place . I get that you're confortable .. but let 50 years old women with children stay in a relationship because it's safe . You're supposed to be in love and feel a sens of partenership .. that you and your partener are going to the same place in life . So this new person does not even matter .. you're in a good place in your life you don't even need plan B before decision making (specially not one you just met who probably just told you whatever you wanted to hear .. or maybr he's a good guy .. but the thing is they're all good guys on day 1 .. you need at least 3 months to see the other colors) .. Also always ask yourself when in a bad longterm relationship if you're ready to be with this guy (in this case ) another 2 years So what I would say is to take sometimes apart .. see if you'll miss him .. if not then you know what you gotta do .. set him free you're just wasting his time
You're not weird at all, this kind of thing happens to a lot of people, so no worries.
First of all, your current boyfriend is the ONLY man you've ever been with, right? It's totally normal when you got overwhelmed after you're kinda attracted to some other dudes and you have no idea what to do because this is your first relationship.
I was a lot like you, with my first ever boyfriend, we lasted almost three years until we had some communication troubles and the relationship became kind of dull. We ended up breaking up but we still remain friends because we were very good friends even before the relationship.
In my case, I talked everything out to him in the end. My insecurities, the dullness of our relationship for the past few months. In the end he was able to confess that he was feeling the same way all along and so we decided to end it right there and then because it's the right thing to do.
For now, don't think about the other attractive dude ("yet", calm your horses). Instead you should just have a bath (or poop. Idk whichever works best to get your brain at peace and can work better) and think of everything about your boyfriend and your relationship with him. After you got it sorted out, you both need to sit the fuck down together and figure things out (dont chicken out!). Then decide whatever is best for you both
You already seem checked out of this relationship. You're not in it for the guy you're dating at this point, it seems like, but just because you want a "relationship". That isn't fair to the other person.
You already seem checked out of this relationship. You're not in it for the guy you're dating at this point, it seems like, but just because you want a "relationship". That isn't fair to the other person. En~
Despite of what you're thinking, I do love him. And we're like best friends. I always wanted to be with him and to make him happy until the end. But some things happened -like him lying to me a few times, him not being affectionate even though I need him and I need some affection from him which is normal since we're a couple, ect. I was the one who gave the most in this relationship and when you don't get much in return, you feel like a fool and don't want to make any effort anymore. I told him that I needed him but there's no real changes. And I'm the type of person to withdraw into herself when not feeling at her place. So, yeah, I don't know what to do because I LOVE HIM and I don't want to leave him. Otherwise, I would have left him long ago. It's not because there might be some other guy that I don't want him anymore. Before I even meet this guy, I was questioning myself on what to do. I was lost for weeks. Because I want to be with him but I feel like he is not 100% in the relationship. How can you be 100% in the relationship if the other person isn't herself? Do you understand how it makes you feel? And I'm not in a relationship because I "just want a relationship". I'm a person who always was independent, a loner, introvert. Trust me, I thought a dozen of times before beginning a relationship with him. And I've done a lot with him so do you think that I want to end it like that? But some things were done recently and the accumulation of it all makes me feel uneasy with him. And I'm not the type of girl to get close to a guy. That's why the fact that I was attracted to the other guy was strange to me and I didn't know if it meant something or not. If it's just because of my insecurity with my boyfriend or for another reason. So, maybe I wasn't clear in my text, but I love my boyfriend and I want to stay with him but with all that's been happening, I was lost. And with the other guy that appeared, it made things worse. If you still think that I'm in a relationship with him just so that I'm not single, I don't care. I know what I feel for him but some things make it hard to be happy right now so, yeah, I'm a little down and lost. Anyway, thank you for your reply
well... Think about it twice. What do you know from this guy you've just met ? Yes he was handsome and attractive but your bf you've know him for 2 years ! A relationship that lasts that long may be unique. If ... Gugus
Firstly, your English is good ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶ And you're right. I think that I just needed some opinions to be sure that I should stay with him, to feel reassured. I will try to make things better for us and I hope that it'll work out (๑•ㅂ•)و✧ Thank you so much for your reply, it helped me a lot (≧∀≦)
I think you just fallen out of love for your boyfriend .. of you ever loved him in the first place . I get that you're confortable .. but let 50 years old women with children stay in a relationship because it's... Cohen
I loved him and still love him. Otherwise, I would have already broken up with him. And we're just like best friends. But I'm not feeling fully secure because of some things that happened so I was lost in what to think of all of this. But you're right, I should see if things get better. I will try to make things better. But like I said to En~, I can't open up if the other person doesn't show anything. So, even though I gave him a lot and was always there for him, I became more and more withdrawn. And it made me doubt of the relationship. But I'll talk to him and see how things go. And I hope that it will be okay. Thank you so much for your reply. You all helped enlightening me on this. Thank you
You're not weird at all, this kind of thing happens to a lot of people, so no worries. First of all, your current boyfriend is the ONLY man you've ever been with, right? It's totally normal when you got overwhe... elmischievous
I'll tell him what I feel about all that's been happening in the relationship and we'll see if we can get things done. I hope that it will get better between us! Between, it doesn't bother your new partenaire (if you have or had one after this man) that you're still friends with your ex? I mean, you've been together, and for a long time, so it might be a little strange for him to see you with your ex. Or am I wrong? ╥﹏╥ Thank you for your reply! And bonne journée à vous! Lots of kisses from me to <3
I'll tell him what I feel about all that's been happening in the relationship and we'll see if we can get things done. I hope that it will get better between us!Between, it doesn't bother your new partenaire (i... acrazywolfy
Yeah yeah you do that girl!
Ahh well "my man" after my ex kind of appalled knowing that my ex and I were still good friends ('coz apparently he isn't used to exes getting along so well)
Despite that, he got used to it and understood that I really treasured my friendship with my ex. And it's all good, thank god.
Yeah yeah you do that girl! Ahh well "my man" after my ex kind of appalled knowing that my ex and I were still good friends ('coz apparently he isn't used to exes getting along so well)Despite that, he got used... elmischievous
I'm not used to it either, haha... I mean, I know that if you choose to break up with your partenaire and stay friends with him, it's because it didn't worked out between you two but you're still good friends. But I can't help think about the fact that the two of them were going out, making out, ect, and I feel uneasy about it (￣∇￣") But I'm glad for you that your boyfriend is okay with it! It does help! :) I wish you the best :3
Hi!
Sorry, it's not about yaoï and all but I couldn't find someone to turn to so here I am, asking your opinion.
It's been almost 2 years since I'm in a relationship with a man and he's the first man I ever was in a relationship with. But it's been a few months since I don't feel really good about the relationship. I mean, we're like best friends and we really do love each other but some things have been disturbing our happiness. And since 2 or 3 weeks, it's like I want him to dump me. But at the same time, I want to stay with him because we've done a lot together and we still have plans to do together, ect. It's been 3 days since we don't talk to each other. We're just texting to let the other know that we're going outside.
Yesterday, I had a dance competition. I met the dancers from my friend's other group. So, I met a certain guy with whom I began to talk. And despite of being with the other dancers of our group, we couldn't stop talking together, laughing together, staying together. I saw him a few times looking at me while I was doing things and also, when I moved to other spots in the really big room, he most of the time came to me. And I won't lie, he was really handsome and I liked his personality. While we were watching the performance of the other groups, we were standing really close (our arms were touching).
My boyfriend arrived almost at the end of the competition and he saw us together (our group was here too but we were a little appart from them). When I noticed him, I saw that he was disappointed. When I went to him, he asked me who that was and why I was especially with him and not with everyone else. I was feeling a little bad for him because I didn't want to hurt him. We talked a little (I told him that it was nothing, that I ended up beside him by chance and he told me that he was disappointed in me and that he didn't want to talk to me for now) and then, he brought me back home. But while I was with my boyfriend, I saw the other guy glancing at me a few times. But I don't really know why. I felt that there was an attractiveness between us from the start but I don't know how to interpret it. And since yesterday, I can't stop thinking of him... I know this counts as cheating but I don't know, he just appears in my head out of nowhere and I want to know him better. I'm lost right now... I know that I want to stay with my boyfriend but since a few weeks, I feel like I'm not 100% in the relationship. I feel like something is lacking. I don't know if it'll go back to normal or not. I don't know if I really want to stay with my boyfriend. But I'm also afraid of leaving him and afraid of beginning a new relationship. I don't know anything anymore. My boyfriend and I communicate but we don't seem to always find an understanding. I don't know what to do... Am I weird? I don't know what to think about all of this. Could you please help me? Tell me what you think about all of this and what you would've done. Or anything else.
Thank you for your replies and sorry for the long story (￣∇￣")
I mean it's not cheating you just lost some feeling with your current boyfriend if you feel like it's not gonna move anywhere then just end it tbh. Theres really no need to be dragging both of you guys along and wasting your time. But if you like this new guy you met at your dance competition alot then give it a try and see if you guys match better, just explain how you're feeling to your current bf, like not being 100% in it and how its lacking. Make it very clear to him if you are gonna break up with him (￣∇￣")
I know that it would be better to end it all because I've been exhausted by this relationship recently and all the other things. But I don't know if I must do it now or wait a few days to see if something gets better or not. Also, I'm afraid to dump him (￣∇￣") We've been together for awhile now and it would break his heart if I did this. We've planed a lot of thing and to think that all this is gonna vanish, it's frightening...
You should wait a few days...oh and make sure you know how the guy you met, make sure his feelings are mutual before you do anything and your current bf wont get crazy, right? Like turn obsessive on you and not let you go? That's scary
well... Think about it twice. What do you know from this guy you've just met ? Yes he was handsome and attractive but your bf you've know him for 2 years ! A relationship that lasts that long may be unique. If you still want to break up you should thinking about knowing a little more this new guy. Otherwise you'll regret it. You're astonished because it's something new or thrilling but isn't "stability" a key for your happiness ? You may loose the two of them if you rush things.
Anyway good luck(๑•ㅂ•)و✧
(sorry for my "not really perfect" english)
I think you just fallen out of love for your boyfriend .. of you ever loved him in the first place .
I get that you're confortable .. but let 50 years old women with children stay in a relationship because it's safe . You're supposed to be in love and feel a sens of partenership .. that you and your partener are going to the same place in life .
So this new person does not even matter .. you're in a good place in your life you don't even need plan B before decision making (specially not one you just met who probably just told you whatever you wanted to hear .. or maybr he's a good guy .. but the thing is they're all good guys on day 1 .. you need at least 3 months to see the other colors) ..
Also always ask yourself when in a bad longterm relationship if you're ready to be with this guy (in this case ) another 2 years
So what I would say is to take sometimes apart .. see if you'll miss him .. if not then you know what you gotta do .. set him free you're just wasting his time
You're not weird at all, this kind of thing happens to a lot of people, so no worries.
First of all, your current boyfriend is the ONLY man you've ever been with, right? It's totally normal when you got overwhelmed after you're kinda attracted to some other dudes and you have no idea what to do because this is your first relationship.
I was a lot like you, with my first ever boyfriend, we lasted almost three years until we had some communication troubles and the relationship became kind of dull. We ended up breaking up but we still remain friends because we were very good friends even before the relationship.
In my case, I talked everything out to him in the end. My insecurities, the dullness of our relationship for the past few months. In the end he was able to confess that he was feeling the same way all along and so we decided to end it right there and then because it's the right thing to do.
For now, don't think about the other attractive dude ("yet", calm your horses). Instead you should just have a bath (or poop. Idk whichever works best to get your brain at peace and can work better) and think of everything about your boyfriend and your relationship with him. After you got it sorted out, you both need to sit the fuck down together and figure things out (dont chicken out!). Then decide whatever is best for you both
All right, au revoir, lots of kisses from me <3
You already seem checked out of this relationship. You're not in it for the guy you're dating at this point, it seems like, but just because you want a "relationship". That isn't fair to the other person.
Despite of what you're thinking, I do love him. And we're like best friends. I always wanted to be with him and to make him happy until the end. But some things happened -like him lying to me a few times, him not being affectionate even though I need him and I need some affection from him which is normal since we're a couple, ect. I was the one who gave the most in this relationship and when you don't get much in return, you feel like a fool and don't want to make any effort anymore. I told him that I needed him but there's no real changes. And I'm the type of person to withdraw into herself when not feeling at her place. So, yeah, I don't know what to do because I LOVE HIM and I don't want to leave him. Otherwise, I would have left him long ago. It's not because there might be some other guy that I don't want him anymore. Before I even meet this guy, I was questioning myself on what to do. I was lost for weeks. Because I want to be with him but I feel like he is not 100% in the relationship. How can you be 100% in the relationship if the other person isn't herself? Do you understand how it makes you feel? And I'm not in a relationship because I "just want a relationship". I'm a person who always was independent, a loner, introvert. Trust me, I thought a dozen of times before beginning a relationship with him. And I've done a lot with him so do you think that I want to end it like that? But some things were done recently and the accumulation of it all makes me feel uneasy with him. And I'm not the type of girl to get close to a guy. That's why the fact that I was attracted to the other guy was strange to me and I didn't know if it meant something or not. If it's just because of my insecurity with my boyfriend or for another reason. So, maybe I wasn't clear in my text, but I love my boyfriend and I want to stay with him but with all that's been happening, I was lost. And with the other guy that appeared, it made things worse.
If you still think that I'm in a relationship with him just so that I'm not single, I don't care. I know what I feel for him but some things make it hard to be happy right now so, yeah, I'm a little down and lost.
Anyway, thank you for your reply
Firstly, your English is good ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶
And you're right. I think that I just needed some opinions to be sure that I should stay with him, to feel reassured. I will try to make things better for us and I hope that it'll work out (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
Thank you so much for your reply, it helped me a lot (≧∀≦)
I loved him and still love him. Otherwise, I would have already broken up with him. And we're just like best friends. But I'm not feeling fully secure because of some things that happened so I was lost in what to think of all of this. But you're right, I should see if things get better. I will try to make things better. But like I said to En~, I can't open up if the other person doesn't show anything. So, even though I gave him a lot and was always there for him, I became more and more withdrawn. And it made me doubt of the relationship. But I'll talk to him and see how things go. And I hope that it will be okay.
Thank you so much for your reply. You all helped enlightening me on this. Thank you
I'll tell him what I feel about all that's been happening in the relationship and we'll see if we can get things done. I hope that it will get better between us!
Between, it doesn't bother your new partenaire (if you have or had one after this man) that you're still friends with your ex? I mean, you've been together, and for a long time, so it might be a little strange for him to see you with your ex. Or am I wrong? ╥﹏╥
Thank you for your reply! And bonne journée à vous! Lots of kisses from me to <3
Yeah yeah you do that girl!
Ahh well "my man" after my ex kind of appalled knowing that my ex and I were still good friends ('coz apparently he isn't used to exes getting along so well)
Despite that, he got used to it and understood that I really treasured my friendship with my ex. And it's all good, thank god.
I'm glad to reply, hope it helps :)
I'm not used to it either, haha... I mean, I know that if you choose to break up with your partenaire and stay friends with him, it's because it didn't worked out between you two but you're still good friends. But I can't help think about the fact that the two of them were going out, making out, ect, and I feel uneasy about it (￣∇￣")
But I'm glad for you that your boyfriend is okay with it!
It does help! :) I wish you the best :3