slobonmyoatmeal's Topics (42)

YES

Yes yuri character is not some typical young seme he is also a person with shitty personality just like us and yes he is also feeling lonely in his life!

Are you criminals too?

Nooo I mean it in like he got irritating faces and his thoughts at some point , I mean it in tht sense and how come yuri is criminal ?

Really now...Sexual. psychological and physical assault are crimes in 100% of the free world.

Okay let's not take it tooo real world I only mean it in the behaviour sense not the way he does things it's up to person and don't give me real world logics like this I m also an adult

I low key live for the shitty personality. He isn't this perfect seme.

Yep, but by BL/Yaoi/Shounen ai logic it isn't. That's why this fictional logic shouldn't even touch real life.

It's ok (and necessary to separate both in a sense) but not to idealise... I love the story a lot, but the comment refered to someone saying Yuri "is like us" so... I read yaoi since the trash days(29 years into this), I'm a middle aged woman if I could set them apart oh goddess.

couldn't*

Oml the trash years I remember looking at some of the oldies and I'm just shook by it. are the trash years like 2006 or around that?

Before that hahaha more like 90's

YIKES I JUST SAW IT

Yikes indeed

I mean I am 13-

Im 25 T-T

ayeeeeeeeeeeeeeee young BL squad

I'm 27 (≧▽≦) damn old... Started at... 16? 17? Can't remember (・∀・)

18 ヾ(☆▽☆)

Ooooo okay I had a feeling that there had to at least be some adult's here XDDD

i'm 13.

I'm 17 too, when I was 13 I hated this kind of stuff but now... (〜￣△￣)〜

I'm 21 lol started at 17

I've been exposed to internet young and I think when I read my first bl ever (bj alex) I was ... 12?? Im 15 now lol

17 and started last year

Started when I was in 4th grade and now I'm 13

14 years ε=ε=(ノ≧∇≦)ノ ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄

16

15, tbh I don't really mind the age restriction, I'll be the Gayest man you'll ever see that it'll radiate

Bruh I'm 21

15

Started at 12 currently 16 ლ(´ڡ`ლ)

Hhahahahhaha way too early
Am 20 started at 9-10

GOD DAMN 0.o

22

Started when I was around 12 as well. Which means a have 10 years anniversary this year

Congratulation's

I started at the 11, i’m 17 rn. Feels old thinking about how long it’s been since I first read yaoi. (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

Fr tho

I'm 11 i just started im 12 now ;;;;;;-;
(Only months to go to be an actually teen)

Wow you beat me hahaha
Started at 11 now I'm 23 u-u

Lets say its not a good idea to leave your children in the library all day when ur at work or leave them at home alone with a pc

Damn I must be the oldest one here (cryface)

Im turning 25 in 2 months, and started reading bl/yaoi around 10

I'm the oldest on this thread as I'm 32, I started reading yaoi in 2016 so with 27. I've read over 500 already haha all kinds as well. Got into it quite late, but yaoi is my favourite genre :D

wowow. i started when i was 11/12. im 16 rn.

I started 12 and I’m 14 rn so it’s been 2 years

Wow! Someone older who enjoys this genre like me makes me happy! Haha i’ve been told by people who found out about my reading habits that it’s not healthy and that I need to “grow out of it already.” It’s so lonely not having people to share this interest with, would you like to be friends? :)

Started at 11 now im 18 ╮(￣▽￣)╭

Started at 14 am now 22

23, started at 16/17, but didn't really get into BL until 19

I started last year. (Im 21) Because of pandemic ive got more time to browse the net so i discovered yaoi.. And the first yaoi ive read was Love is an Illusion. So im really into mpreg. Kyaah

I'm 47 started reading 7 yrs ago lol

Oh my well seeing you have been in the game longer do u have any good recommendations?

Same I thought I was the only one still reading bls by turning 25.

I started reading umm.. Yaoi when i was like 11-12 and now I'm almost 14 lmao

Hello, nice to meet you :D I know the feeling, I've heard it many times as well, I couldn't care less though, as people always talk shit about stuff they don't understand. They should also mind their own business tbh!
Agreed it is lonely to not have people sharing this interest with, let's be friends (●'◡'●)ﾉ

That depends on what you like? I'll give you some of my favourites from different genres.

I do prefer ones with plot and not just smut, though You're my Loveprize in Viewfinder is still my favourite, although there's quite a lot of non-con in it as well. It's yakuza seme x photographer uke. Lots of action, but also a ton of smut and it's still ongoing. They're at volume 12 now.

I do love Eigyou Nika! which is a super cute and fun love story, read it about 10+ times.
Neon Sign Amber and Doushitemo Furetakunai have real life plots, which make them very good, they're also emotional but with happy endings :)
Another one is Harapeko Usagi to Koisuru Ookami, which is a bit different, but a cute love story as well. Successful businessman seme x broke student uke, it's not one of those Cinderella stories though. The uke wants to be independent and not rely on others.

If you like animal attributes I'd recommend Musebinake, Junjou which has action and some plot-twists you don't see coming! Sekai wa Shippo de Dekiteiru is wolf seme x human uke, which also revolves around a kid. It's a soft and pure story.
If you like yaoi with kids Danshi Koukouseiteki Kazoku Keikaku is a very good one! It's super cute with a baby that you just want to squish haha.

From the Highschool ones I'd say Asatte ni Kiss: a former otaku turns into a popular guy in his new school and falls for the "delinquent" while hiding he's an otaku. It's funny and the uke starts to love himself the way he is.
Omae wa Hitsuji. plays at university and it's student x professor, with smut and romance. It's also one of my favs.

For smut I'd recommend our House Love Trouble which does have lots of smut but also character development and some romance. Fushidara na Hanatsumi Otoko is a bit longer and has a plot but also lots of sexy smut ;)

For Shounen-Ai I'd go for Seven Days, it's a really beautiful manga and you don't miss the smut at all. Great story and characters!

Sorry that I didn't recommend soft porn yaoi, but it's too superficial for me, I like seeing a relationship develop between the characters develop. I also don't like toxic relationships or psychological manipulation. Drama is fine for me as long as it's a decent amount and not too much angst.

That's it for now, sorry it got so long haha. Let me know if you'd like to know anything else (●'◡'●)ﾉ

Wow! I respect you :) what was your first yaoi that you read?

It was either Himitsu wa Kiss de Abakareru or Abarenbou Kareshi I don't really remember I had to look at my reading history lol

Wow omg Tysm

Ummmm for some reason my whole comment isn’t showing but I’ll say it again thank you so much for the recommendations!! I wasn’t expecting you to write so much. I was vague for what I was asking on purpose because I didn’t want to narrow down the options. Out of all the ones you recommended (which I have already added to my list) I’ve read two: Viewfinder and Asatte ni Kiss. I was young when I read Viewfinder and I didn’t understand it much so I’m going to reread it again, and Asatte ni Kiss was sooo adorable

This is getting annoying my reply keeps getting cut off

Hey I'm glad to hear I could be of help :) If you ever need more recommendations let me know. I've read so many and wrote the majority of my favs down! Viewfinder is good but with non-con and sometimes it can be quite brutal but I like it. Although I think they should finish the manga already, as I believe the mains should finally be happy together now, coz they really deserve it.
I'm sorry your replies disappeared or got cut off, so annoying omg!! Asatte ni Kiss is very adorable hehe. Have a good day (▰˘◡˘▰)

It’s fetishizing if ur not mlm or nblm to read yaoi. But it’s okay to read bl if ur in it for the plot :))

I usually reply “I read romance story-novels-mangas” because I read all genres (bl,gl, and straight)

The answer to ur question is yeah I would tell them what genres I read if they ask.

For me it depends on the type of person I am going to tell. Few of my friends know I read yaoi. They don't judge me at all. I think a person's personality can tell you if they will judge you or not.
But it's good that you don't give a fuck and don't hide it. I need that kind of confidence ╥﹏╥

If someone were to ask me, I’d gladly say that I read yaoi and bl . It’s nothing so bad to hide honestly . Kinda sad how people think it’s fetishizing tho

Everyone I'm super close to knows same with my partner I'll read it right next to him I don't give a fuck and none of them care lol but if a stranger asked me I'll tell them who cares I'm living my life and I'm not hurting anyone leave me to my yaoi (=・ω・=)

It's not fetishizing even if you're not mlm or nblm to read yaoi. I'm a gay man and it's literally not. Let people read whatever they want.

no cuz lgbtq+ is still kind of taboo in my country and it's better to hide it from other, but then again, i already told my friends (directly and indirectly) that I real bl comics and they didn't change so I guess they're fine with it

Do you even know what fetishing fucking means and how apply it?? Reading any form of fuckin yaoi, bl, shounen ai whatever romance bullshit it not fetishing men, same with females

it’s not fetishization. that idea came from a sexist and misogynistic japanese site to shame women for having different interests on other things. the word ‘fujoshi’ has a bad connotation in it but it’s been reclaimed. i think it means undesirable women or something. there’s absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying bl, it is normal for a non-lesbian woman to feel pleasure looking at two men having sex since they are attracted to that gender. non-gay men watch lesbian sex all the time, are they shamed for it?

(accidently pressed ‘post so here’s the continuation. sorry im an idiot.) however, when a woman enjoys bl but does not support irl mlm relationships, there’s a problem there. or women who harass irl mlm couples or romantically ship real people of the same gender (regardless of their sexual orientation). we shouldn’t stop using the word fetishization so loosely especially when it does not do any good for the LGBTQ+ or the allies who just enjoy bl/gl. if we gatekeep stories just because of the genders of the couple, we are not helping in normalizing and de-stigmatizing same-gender relationships. this is coming from a queer woman who enjoy both bl and gl. have a nice day.

p.s.: i am not attacking you or anything. sorry if it came off that way.

Nah. Reading BL is my only happy place I can go to. I ain't trying let people know about it. Lol

*****we should stop using the word fetishization

i am so sorry im sleep deprived

period.

Its annoying asf we just like it with that logic gay people can't read/watch straight romances cause it will be fetishizing too.

To you

They wouldn’t watch straight porn or 2 straight ppl having sex bc that wouldn’t / shouldn’t turn them on..? I literally just said yaoi. Bl isnt yaoi. Yaoi is the sex part

I agree with some of what ur saying,, but I never said women shouldn’t read BL I said YAOI. It would literally be erasing much needed lgbt representation if only gay men could read bl (which is just romance) so I don’t want that HAHA. I’m saying “fetishization” bc women who read yaoi (which is the sex part of “BL”) is literally using gay men for their own sexual pleasure isn’t it? I can’t think of any reason women would read yaoi if it wasn’t for the same reason men watch lesbian porn which is NOT okay either. Because that is also fetishizing lesbians. And I’m not using that term loosely at all lmao. have a good day 2

Bl yaoi and shounen ai are three different things bro bl is the umbrella term for “boys love” yaoi is homoEROTIC relationships between men (so the sex part) and shounen ai is just romance. The only thing I’m saying is fetishization is yaoi bc if ur not a gay guy then why would u be getting turned on by 2 gays f*cking ?? That IS wrong and IS fetishization. Same thing with guys getting off to lesbian porn. Gross.

I’m sorry to be the one to tell u this, but women reading yaoi (homoerotic relationships between men - the sex part) is fetishizing mlm relationships. They shouldn’t read that and get turned on by it, period.

Non lgbt women can read what ever they want as long as there respectful towards lgbt people who cares mind ya business. These are literal drawings bro its not that serious as long as they differentiate fiction from real life who cares.

Whatever, if that’s what u think then more power to u ig. Oh I wasn’t talking about non lgbt women I was talking abt all women

There is nothing wrong with women reading yaoi we invented the shit. It was orginally written by us for us but more men are getting into it now but anyways as long as female yaoi readers aren't hurting anybody who cares. Worry about your self and not what others are doing bruuuuu

it doesn't effect you though. Mind your business who are you to tell people what they should and shouldn't read. People are gonna be turned on to whatever there gonna be turned on to and thats okay. Yaoi is hot and that obvious these are drawings as long as mf's are respectful to irl lgbt ppl then its a-okay. Yaoi was invented by women for women you know. Your basically telling us not to use what we invented.

Also these are your opinions/feelings NOT FACTS

hi. it seems that you have mistaken what yaoi and bl is. bl is not just about romance, bl is about a story of an mlm relationship, regardless if there is sex or not. the term yaoi literally means ‘no plot, no climax, no meaning’, basically porn. but people always mix yaoi up with bl and think they’re the same thing. there are also people who think that bl is just all about romance, which is not the case.

enforcing just the romance side of bl is not healthy either, it makes mlm sex taboo (which it already is). it also feels very bootlicking; satisfying homophobic people who feel disgusted seeing make-out and sex scenes of two men even though it’s a normal thing to do. i live in Southeast Asia and there are a ton of conservative people here. even seeing a man kiss another man on the cheek, hand, or lips (i think it’s called a peck idk) will send them into a meltdown lol. i do agree that mlm sex should not be glorified but it should be normalized.

i also think that wlw relationships are very fetishized. bisexual women are desired by men just for being bisexual and that’s wrong. however, watching homosexual porn because it turns you on is fine as long as you don’t treat same-gender relationships all about sex, as long as you don’t glorify and (especially) harass same-gender couples (ex. asking who’s the top or the bottom without even confirming if they’re comfortable talking about sex-related topics). irl ships are also major problem but that’s a topic for another day. there are a ton of wrong things people do but if a person has the capability of not glorifying a heterosexual relationship, they can also do that on same-gender relationships.

what we need to do is educate people about these types of topics, not police them on what they can and can’t read/watch because most of the time, that does not work. of course, there’s always going to be people who will fetishize same-gender sexual intercourse and relationship regardless of whatever you say to them but we shouldn’t censor it to everyone just because of them.

i will not deny that there are a lot of women who fetishize mlm relationships and frustratingly glamorize r*pe culture in BLs (this is an entirely different topic but it’s just as frustrating) but there are also a lot of women who read BL that are allies or even part of the LGBTQ+. when we have discussions like what we’re doing, we can educate those who are misguided because they’re new to these kinds of topics and misguided people bc of BL materials that are misleading and harmful.

anyways, that’s it. im so sorry it’s long, im not good at conveying my opinions (esp since English is not my first language). hope you are having a nice day and my reply didn’t ruin it lol.

Agreed

No lol. Women reading yaoi with sex scenes and enjoy it or get turned on by it is completely normal and valid. You're NO ONE to judge them. Mind your own business. ((Speaking as a gay man.))

Women that get turned on from Yaoi are valid. Just shut up god

thank you

:)

No no, I totally 100% agree with what you’re saying lol. I think you mistook what I was saying maybe ?? I know yaoi is just sex, that’s why I was saying it wasn’t right to glorify it etc. and BL stands for “boys love” so I don’t think it makes sense to say it’s not all romance..? Since that’s kinda the point? But I know what you mean, BL should portray the realistic sides of irl mlm relationships so it doesn’t get fetishized or glorified

Ok.. I’ll just say that I’m not comfortable with reading yaoi or people who obsess over it, but sure, I can understand people who read it ig

“People are gonna be turned on by whatever they’re turned on by and that’s ok” I think we all know damn well that some things are not okay to get turned on by (pedos

yes i even share posts about it ony my personal social media accs

no, because people, especially mlm, feel uncomfortable around fujoshis because majority of them fetishize gay men so i just kept what i read to myself unless someone asked. i also don't get how people can be so proud of being a fujoshi like,,??

^^^^^

Yes i do

agreed like how tf can u be a proud fetishizer

Yes. I don't see the need to hide this tbh but since I'm usually a private person, I often keep things to myself but from time to time, I do share on my sns abt bls and such. The ppl around me knows too xd

i seriously dont care. i am the only female in ny circle of friends and everyon of them is aware of how obsses i am in Boys Love. they don't mind at all though, as long as you don't force other people to like the things you like then all is well.

By that logic gay people can't read/watch straight romances cause they will be fetishizing them then

Sounds good

i dont really care about being a fujoshi (and my man even supports me!!) but of course we must have our limits, especially when it comes to the fetishizing of real mlm/wlw people,,,it kinda irks and annoys me especially when a couple posts a pic of them then people asks who is the top or bottom, like comrade, have some respect pls (just sharing my thoughts :DD)

i dont see a thing in my reply that help you lead to that conclusion

Fetishizing..... we can agree to disagree on that but limits... I agree, certain things should have limits but I'm out and proud asf idgaf whether or not somebody may be offended by what I enjoy reading on my spare time.

I used to be, but then I realized how people might mistake it for fetishization so I stopped talking about it

same, if someone ask if i read bl or yaoi, i'll be proud to say yes, i mean this is what makes me happy and the one that gives me butterflies so it's none of their business, idc if they get disgusted, my ass doesn't give a fuck about homophobic ya know?

I kinda am but not too much cuz my mom is like 25-30% homophobic and already thinks I'm gay cuz I had a fan art of Gon and Killua while they were at the beach (which makes no sense) bc she thinks that boy on boy stuff makes me like girls...anyways I don't want my mom to find out that I read yaoi bc she thinks I'm fetisizing gay stuff or "surrounding my life with gay" -_- so I'm careful abt who I share it with

I'd rather surround myself with gay then straight so.....٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

We're not tho we just like it. By that logic if gay people watch/read straight romance then there fetishizing straight people.

PERIOD!!! Fuck them they don't pay your bills XD

facts but im just so tired of having to explain myself over and over to the point where i start to feel ashamed of something that used to make me happy :/

Don't let them have that kind of control over you. Love what you enjoy doing. You don't have to explain SHIT to them. You only live once spend it doing shit you LOVE. Fuck them (︶︿︶)＝凸

omg you’re so nice, thank you ╥﹏╥

Lol fr cuz none of my friends are straight except for like 2

Np

When yaoi wasn't that famous I got bullied by my so-called friends but still am proud cause I ended up having a bestfriend who will always have my back PERIOD (︶︿︶)＝凸

1, im extremely embarrassed reading BL. A lot of online friends, and my real friends know. They are really nice about it. They don't really care what I read.
2, And same if they ask me what I like reading I would tell them, along with gl too, can't forget that.

i am proud, but i have people that call m crazy (jokingly) because i openly talk to them about it.

Proud tho I only tell if someone asks about it HAHAHAHA

Honestly for the longest time I js didn’t tell anybody I loved to read yaoi/bl but recently I found a bunch of friends who I’m comfortable with so I share with them the yaoi I read and they don’t seem to mind it too much ykk

It depends on the people. My friends know that I read BL and I'm not the only one in the friend group who reads this kind of genre. My friend group were actually very nice about it and some people in my friend group also tried to read BL and they liked it.

Since it’s something that makes me h*rny a lot, I don’t share with ANYONE. But that’s how I treat all of my s*xual preferences. I keep that to myself mostly. But if I was open about other stuff I’m sure I’d be okay with this too.

i'm okay with saying that i enjoy bl but not yaoi, like when it's mainly porn i can't recommend it to almost no one. When it's a bl/shonnen-ai story that i love, i talk about it to everyone

if it's real plot with some sex scenes i can recommend it tho (like killing stalking, it's a good suspense/horror/psychological story, the plot doesn't envolve around guys fucking each other)

My friends read BLs too so we recommend each other of what we've read. we actually have a group chat and we mostly talk about BLs. So great to have them <3

Hmm it depends actually. I'm actually an open person so I go and talk about the things that I like to those person who are close to me. And if someone asks me about it I won't hide it but I also won't talk about BL's to someone who is uncomfortable about it

They knew me ever since so I can't hide anything from them. I love them so much because they accepted me for who I am, I am beyond grateful for that. And yes, I told them and they don't have any problems with that, also, I proudly post what I read and watch on my fb story.

that’s what my friends tell me and i’m like NOOOOOO ITS PLOT SMOOTH BRAIN. yaoi is literally better than romeo and juliet shit PLZZZ AHAHHA(╯°Д °)╯╧╧

you are so brave for letting your parents know you read yaoi but besides that i totally agree

You show your dad what you are reading like sex scenes and stuff?

No, i think he found out or I told him idk it was a while back

My mom was there as well and heard all of it she was minding her business but she was in the middle of it.

Well my mom once found my hentai manga and started showing me the umm scenes asking what the fuck was that

Hi-fucking-larious XDDDDDDDD

y'all brave asf! mine would take me to therapy